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1Oryx2
Toucan
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Location: Canada
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| Oh yeah -deffinitly immature. Some days I'm eight, others I'm fifteen. Actually I read that Aspies emotionally 5 years younger. |
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Laurz_2192
Blue Jay
Joined: May 11, 2008
Age: 16
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Location: England
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Hmmm, confusing.
When I was younger (12-13), I used to feel a lot behind everyone else, listening while they rambled on about makeup/clothes lalala while I was still doing the things I did when I was 10.
Then once I got to 15/16, it completely switched over. Now I feel I'm a few years ahead of my peers in maturity and sometimes their slightly childish approaches in life really annoys me. Someone once said I had the mind of 80 year-old...which I wasn't sure to be insulted by or pleased XD
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1Oryx2
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| Posted: Mon Sep 15, 2008 10:32 pm Post subject: |
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| Yup. I cannot think of myself past the age of 12-15. It's like I'm stuck and my clock just stopped. |
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monkees4va
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Location: scotland! ^.^
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I think in an aspies brain there is sometimes a switch (in a metaphorical sense of course XD) that can be tuned to the far right, far left and anywhere inbetween. I think of this switch as your maturity level, one that can change but also can stay the same for X amount of years. You can't change it, its although your brain grows little hand and changes it when it wants too - so make the most of it if you can!
My maturity level is quite low - when I was 11 I played with one peer my own age and the rest were all about 5-6 which many people discouraged. However by doing that I have learned alot about the childs mind through simply sociallizing and playing with them, and have used my skills to volenteer at a a single parents social group where I help with the kids and talk to them. Many have come from abusive backgrounds and they tell me stuff they never could tell the adults. I'm trusted as i socialize like them, but still can think (rarely  ) like and adult. Its great. ^-^
Its my peers that get me - there seems to be a lot of unspoken rules that I simply can't keep up with , and I've been told i ask 'stupid' questions all the time when I genually don't know the answer. anyone else like this?
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Asp1e
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Joined: Sep 09, 2008
Age: 14
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Location: Mars
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Well .. i feel like that .. Kinda .. Cept for that my friends are older than me .. from 15 to 25 ..  .. But me .. well .. still like a 5 year old .. Sometimes .. But i'm happy for that, then i have so much more fun xD |
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sunshower
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Age: 20
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Yeah totally! I've always felt that for most of my teenage years up until about age 18 I had the maturity of about a 12 to 13 year old. My friends have always been younger. Even today (i am 20) and i mentioned my age to someone and she was shocked cause she'd thought I was about 16/17.
And about the gender thing - yes! Most of my friends are guys, and I've always thought that I have more of a "guy mentality" as guys are more straight forward and say what they mean. But I think that's just an aspie characteristic as well, cause girls never say what they mean, and aspies don't read hidden meanings and body language well. Although your mentality doesn't necessarily determine your sexuality (I'm straight).
I think that being an aspie could easily be (according to mentality not sexual preference) described as a whole new gender in itself  .
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HD3H
The Lord and Master... Nemesis of DeLoreanDude
Joined: Sep 23, 2008
Age: 17
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Location: Denmark
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im probably immature but nobody has ever told me  |
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thejackal221
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Joined: Sep 26, 2008
Age: 20
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Location: Thornton
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| Posted: Sat Sep 27, 2008 2:52 am Post subject: Re: Either immature or more mature but never right |
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| GodsWonder wrote: | | I have always felt that I was either too immature or that I was more immature that normal. I am 19 and have friends that are 14,15,16,18 and one that is 19 but I also have friends that are in their 30's and 40's too. I feel more comfortable talking to my older and younger friends than my friends that is my age. |
That is just like me! I hat trying to socialize with people that are my age because they don't understand what I am saying. Younger people are into the media that I entertain myself with and the older people are interested in my opinions with the world. |
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Skelanimal
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Age: 14
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| I'm kind of older and younger at the same time, in different ways. I like a lot of the same stuff as my ten year old brother, I occasionally still play with dolls, and I like kids TV. I don't have many friends, but most are my age or older. I am 14, and my boyfriend just turned 15, and he is the same way as me. He plays with toys like silly putty, but other then that is extremely mature for his age. He's getting a job and acts like a dad around young kids. |
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InquisitorJL
Emu Egg
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Age: 17
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Location: Brum
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| Not always. I seem to jump between being immature and over mature, though I wouldn't say I often manage the maturity appropriate to my age. Some of the time I feel incredibly immature compared to my friends, in terms of sense of humour, what I say, how I react to things and so on. But when I actually think about something, I find the level I am thinking about it often to be far more mature then other people I know. |
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andywarhol
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Age: 19
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Location: california
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I was really immature as a child.  I was hyper and made "baby talk". but then I would impress adults with this unique little mind and keen ability to engage a conversation with them -I still believe it was more of a child-like charm than a hidden bit of maturity.
Through highschool and even ow in college, I am put through a double standard on myself  . I am known for being innocent, naive, inexperienced... and I use that persona to my advantage on occasion though. I know how to marry it in with my humour. I can say something silly and get a good laugh because it is just too good coming from me. My teammates fluttered around me and were more excited thann usual when I told them about my first date. I specifically remember one of the throwers saying "I'm sure your date was so innocent. Our dates..." she gestured toward her friends, "...they're not so innocent." And they were estastic when they found out that he asked me to be his girlfriend (I said yes  ) But then I turn around with these statements that put the 'wise and mature' card on me. I at least know that I'm not as mature as I could think I am, and as one friend said, that is a mark of maturity in itself.
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-gemma-1990-
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Joined: Sep 03, 2008
Age: 18
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Location: Liskeard/St. Dennis
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i have one friend who notices my immaturity well, she tells me when im being immature and i see it as a help because now im 18, ive got more responsibilities and she makes sure i dont mess up in front of the wrong people
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Corydaman93
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Age: 15
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Location: Oakville, Ontario
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I can relate to pretty much all of it, btw you do look like your age in my opinion.
I can say at the very least that it is definitely much easier to get along with the much younger kids than it is with teens. I feel immature when it comes to almost everything about myself except for areas of special interest and the fact that I'm not as "Loud" as the other kids. |
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DeLoreanDude
Nemesis of HD3H and Kasuki-Chan
Joined: Oct 11, 2008
Age: 14
Posts: 1421
Location: London
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| Posted: Tue Oct 14, 2008 5:31 pm Post subject: |
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| Weird, I am completely opposite, I get on better with adults generally. |
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PhR33kY
Phoenix
Joined: Oct 14, 2008
Age: 19
Posts: 774
Location: Philidelphia, PA, USA
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| Posted: Tue Oct 14, 2008 8:15 pm Post subject: Re: Do you always feel like your immature? |
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| juppo wrote: | | I always feel like i'm just different to the other males that I know.. it's weird |
I know the feeling, I think it's more because of having a different mentality from others. I chalk it up to having AS, usually. |
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