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| Geographical location |
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| Don't have similar interests as anyone |
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| Don't have the right personality |
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jawbrodt
Only Truth
Joined: Jan 27, 2008
Age: 34
Posts: 7186
Location: Northcentral, Pennsylvania
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Tim, I think you are a model citizen, amongst many who are not. I think that you are probably intimidating to most women, who hold themselves to slightly more lenient standards. In this day and age, you are a rare breed. I believe you are genuine, and I don't think you should change yourself,much. Maybe loosen some of your education restrictions? Anything can be learned. You will eventually find someone with similar beliefs,lifestyle, etc... It's just that there are not many "model" citizens anymore. You/they are a rare breed. Perhaps you are looking in the wrong place? I have found that most Aspies don't have the energy/know-how to be a model citizen. I could see you with a policewoman or similar type. Keep-looking Tim she's out there somewhere. 
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Tim_Tex
WP's Resident Simpsons and South Park Aficionado
Joined: Jul 03, 2004
Age: 28
Posts: 22412
Location: San Marcos, Texas
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| Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 6:30 pm Post subject: |
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By "model citizen", I meant that I respect everyone's beliefs, and try to avoid generalizing as much as I can. I try to conduct myself on here (and in real life) in a constructive manner. I think this thread is a good example of being constructive in that the message was to find out how I could improve myself in this issue.
I see others post a bunch of mindless, sexist trash, with titles like "All women are possessed by the devil", and I use those threads as a reminder of how not to conduct myself.
Yet I still feel ignored and hated on here.
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Hashberry
Raven
Joined: May 04, 2008
Posts: 103
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I dont hate you, as a matter fact i have started to like you, coincidentaly i was thinking of you just the other day and looked through a few of your posts and it is for the very qualities that you fear are getting you nowhere. It is like honesty, it takes forever to pay off, i started to think "where is this honesty getting me" in a cynical moment and not long after that door started to open for me that would have remained shut (and invisible!) otherwise.
yours
mana l i t w is t |
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Tim_Tex
WP's Resident Simpsons and South Park Aficionado
Joined: Jul 03, 2004
Age: 28
Posts: 22412
Location: San Marcos, Texas
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| Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 8:11 pm Post subject: |
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| Hashberry wrote: | I dont hate you, as a matter fact i have started to like you, coincidentaly i was thinking of you just the other day and looked through a few of your posts and it is for the very qualities that you fear are getting you nowhere. It is like honesty, it takes forever to pay off, i started to think "where is this honesty getting me" in a cynical moment and not long after that door started to open for me that would have remained shut (and invisible!) otherwise.
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Thanks!
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Tim_Tex
WP's Resident Simpsons and South Park Aficionado
Joined: Jul 03, 2004
Age: 28
Posts: 22412
Location: San Marcos, Texas
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| Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 8:17 pm Post subject: |
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I do know that pretending to be someone else, or sacrificing everything I stand for would be a big mistake. Even if I did meet someone that way, there would be a lot of resentment later on.
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MR_BOGAN
Mysterios Dirty Dancer
Joined: Mar 06, 2008
Age: 30
Posts: 2037
Location: The great trailer park in the sky!
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| Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 8:22 pm Post subject: |
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| To much time on WP, not enough time in the real world maybe. |
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Tim_Tex
WP's Resident Simpsons and South Park Aficionado
Joined: Jul 03, 2004
Age: 28
Posts: 22412
Location: San Marcos, Texas
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| Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 8:23 pm Post subject: |
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| MR_BOGAN wrote: | | To much time on WP, not enough time in the real world maybe. |
I am specifically looking for other Aspies, and I don't know where else I am going to meet them.
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MR_BOGAN
Mysterios Dirty Dancer
Joined: Mar 06, 2008
Age: 30
Posts: 2037
Location: The great trailer park in the sky!
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| Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 8:31 pm Post subject: |
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Well the problem with AS, is that males out number females. Also most females seem to be bi, also it will be hard to find one near you.
I'd try other things as well as WP. I'm doing online dating, but even that is hard work.
I'm in the same boat as you, so not sure how to help you. It isn't an easy process for anybody. |
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Tim_Tex
WP's Resident Simpsons and South Park Aficionado
Joined: Jul 03, 2004
Age: 28
Posts: 22412
Location: San Marcos, Texas
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| Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 9:25 pm Post subject: |
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Being an unemployed, 28-year-old hipster in Texas is pretty much a kiss of death.
"Hipster" isn't a label I really want, though.
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ToadOfSteel
Extremist Moderate
Joined: Sep 24, 2007
Age: 20
Posts: 2961
Location: New Jersey
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| Posted: Tue May 20, 2008 12:07 am Post subject: |
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My main issues are that the only places I really go are school and church (I also work at my church). My school, being a tech university/engineering school, has very few women around, especially in the IT field. Also, since I only go in for classes (which is all I have time for), I don't really get to interact with anyone outside of class. As for church, everyone there is either under 18 or over 30.
So yeah, my problem is lack of any potential women in my own age range... That and my tendency for reverse-attraction (taking a long time to become attracted, but once it forms, it steadily gets stronger) |
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Tim_Tex
WP's Resident Simpsons and South Park Aficionado
Joined: Jul 03, 2004
Age: 28
Posts: 22412
Location: San Marcos, Texas
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| Posted: Tue May 20, 2008 2:14 am Post subject: |
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Even though the school I will be attending this fall is in Austin, the only liberal city in Texas, there are no like-minded Aspies either there or San Antonio, which is also close by, who are single.
I am willing to travel to other states and even other countries to meet someone I can truly connect with.
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Social_Fantom
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Joined: Feb 23, 2008
Age: 24
Posts: 11727
Location: Dobson, North Carolina
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| Posted: Tue May 20, 2008 2:57 am Post subject: |
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I feel the same way Tim. Aspie or not, I'll go anywhere someone I connect to is. There sure isn't anyone around here, that I've meet anyway.
Also, I was reading the earlier posts and I just have to say that being different can be something that makes us as aspies attractive. Think about it, most of these macho, hunk guys act exactly the same. I imagine girls at some point get tired of that. They probably want a guy that is different and rare. If you act like yourself and not everyone else, you may just be surprised at what some women may be thinking about you.
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Tim_Tex
WP's Resident Simpsons and South Park Aficionado
Joined: Jul 03, 2004
Age: 28
Posts: 22412
Location: San Marcos, Texas
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| Posted: Tue May 20, 2008 3:03 am Post subject: |
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| Social_Fantom wrote: | I feel the same way Tim. Aspie or not, I'll go anywhere someone I connect to is. There sure isn't anyone around here, that I've meet anyway.
Also, I was reading the earlier posts and I just have to say that being different can be something that makes us as aspies attractive. Think about it, most of these macho, hunk guys act exactly the same. I imagine girls at some point get tired of that. They probably want a guy that is different and rare. If you act like yourself and not everyone else, you may just be surprised at what some women may be thinking about you. |
Yet finding a similarly-minded Aspie who will also be receptive to the distance/traveling issue (assuming there aren't any who are local) will be nearly impossible.
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Social_Fantom
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Joined: Feb 23, 2008
Age: 24
Posts: 11727
Location: Dobson, North Carolina
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It doesn't matter to me whether she is an aspie or not. What matters to me is that we have a connection and we understand and love each other. I think my biggest problem would probably be knowing when to give them space and not taking things too fast.
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MsTriste
OTS
Joined: Dec 08, 2005
Age: 44
Posts: 3373
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Tim,
I am sorry you feel hated here. I know there are people here who hate me, so I know the feeling.
I can think of several barriers.
1. Do you think that once a woman shows any interest in you, you're no longer interested? Like you're not worthy of them if they're interested?
2. Texas, as far as I know, is the land of fake women. Maybe geographically you're screwed.
3. Honestly, being unemployed is the kiss of death regarding women. I am in a five year old relationship with a guy who was employed when I met him, and has not been good at bringing much money in to the household, but I put up with that because he tolerates me. But had he been unemployed when I met, well, I wouldn't have even met him.
I lucked out. I went on match.com on a lark, put in the EXACT criteria for "the perfect guy" for me, and he popped up. |
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