My son has been dressing in his mom's clothes

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01 Jun 2008, 8:56 pm

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I'm not afraid to tell the truth, if that's what you mean.


Then why don't you start telling the truth, instead of pulling information out of your wazoo in order to needlessly insult people?



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01 Jun 2008, 9:25 pm

No, I haven't been pulling information out of my wazoo. It's just basic psychology. I did take a course in high school, but I'm by no means an expert on the subject.



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02 Jun 2008, 8:39 am

slowmutant wrote:
No, I haven't been pulling information out of my wazoo. It's just basic psychology. I did take a course in high school, but I'm by no means an expert on the subject.



The fact you call that basic psychology shows you dont' have the slightest grasp of psychology. If I took one more course I could have a bachelor's degree in pyschology and nothing you are saying is even remotely close to what you learn about the issues in psychology



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02 Jun 2008, 9:22 am

Did I say I had a doctorate? Did I say was a mental health professional? I am sensing some real hostility here ... hmm.

I don't see how you can ignore this type of behaviour or dismiss it. Granted, it's not much in and of itself, but it could be indicative of a larger problem. Unless crossdreessing is the sort of thing you encourage in children. Or adults. It's not so much about morality as it about making good decisions vs. bad decions. Tranvestism isn't a crime, but it will complicate your life needlessly. By engagism in this behaviour, a person leaves himself wide open to harassment, ridicule, and other unwelcome responses.



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02 Jun 2008, 9:31 am

slowmutant wrote:
? I am sensing some real hostility here ... hmm.

Have you got any children, a boy?

Have you ever wanted to dress up in women's clothes?

Have you ever done so; what happened?

Have you worked with or known anyone in the flesh who did or wanted to?

If you have then please post your experiences of this, but if not let others who have talk about it in peace.

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02 Jun 2008, 9:42 am

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Did I say I had a doctorate? Did I say was a mental health professional? I am sensing some real hostility here ... hmm.

I don't see how you can ignore this type of behaviour or dismiss it. Granted, it's not much in and of itself, but it could be indicative of a larger problem. Unless crossdreessing is the sort of thing you encourage in children. Or adults. It's not so much about morality as it about making good decisions vs. bad decions. Tranvestism isn't a crime, but it will complicate your life needlessly. By engagism in this behaviour, a person leaves himself wide open to harassment, ridicule, and other unwelcome responses.


You said what you are saying is basic psychology. however that could not be further from the truth. If you don't feel you are qualified to comment on basic psychology, then don't comment about something being basic psychology. Otherwise, someone who knows basic psychology is going to point out that you don't have the slightest idea as to what you are talking about. If its not me, it will be someone else. Someone calling your bluff isn't hostility. Its someone putting forth the truth. If you don't like being confronted with the truth, stop lying. Then it will stop happening

Yes, being transgendered does complicate your life and may sometimes put you in danger/.But it complicates your life far less to embrace it than it does to live in fear of yourself and hide who you are every single day of your life. I'd much rather have unwelcome responsnes than to spend my whole life pretending to be a women when there is not one thing womanly about me aside from my body. To suggest its indicative of a large problem shows a lack of knowledge about what being transgendered is. Thats the belief from years ago when people really didn't know a thing about it. Its outdated and has no place in modern thought

And for the most part, the average person is accepting once they get past the initial shock of their first time experience. Last year I went on a trip to Spain with 30 strangers. i made no attempt to hide my masculinity. I also made no attempt on my own to hang out with a particular gender, but by the 3rd day the men in my group were inviting me to go to hang out with them while their wives went shopping. They never asked another female in the group to do that, though I wasn't the only female traveling alone. And I didn't do anythig on my own to encourage them to do so. What happened was that they saw my masculinity and recognized it for what it was. (they were even referring to me as one of the guys)



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05 Jun 2008, 5:30 am

I think us aspies care less about others views on things and therefore we will wear mens boxers etc afterall it is only society who constucts these things. Had my aunt not seen them and made fun of me I would probably have still worn the mens undies because as I said no one normally sees them.



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05 Jun 2008, 5:32 am

Kids like playing dress-ups. I don't think there is any problem with this lad as long as he does it at home.


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22 Dec 2009, 4:14 pm

First off I would like to say we really need to get a couple of the previous posters banned (you know who I mean!)
Second I would say its nothing to worry about, I'm nearly 22 and just recently started wearing skirts, knee (and higher) socks and leggings. If its just a phase well its just a phase and he'll decide when he is ready to stop. If its not a phase then just be supportive and help him make good choices about his life. You know make sure he isn't going to wear anything that is going to draw undo attention. Most (reasonable) people aren't going to care about a guy wearing a skirt unless the skirt is too short or something. Same about any other type of clothing just make sure your son isn't going to do anything like that and then just be there for him.


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22 Dec 2009, 11:44 pm

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First off I would like to say we really need to get a couple of the previous posters banned (you know who I mean!)
Second I would say its nothing to worry about, I'm nearly 22 and just recently started wearing skirts, knee (and higher) socks and leggings. If its just a phase well its just a phase and he'll decide when he is ready to stop. If its not a phase then just be supportive and help him make good choices about his life. You know make sure he isn't going to wear anything that is going to draw undo attention. Most (reasonable) people aren't going to care about a guy wearing a skirt unless the skirt is too short or something. Same about any other type of clothing just make sure your son isn't going to do anything like that and then just be there for him.


Many of the posters in this thread no longer frequent this board, for various reasons, and I haven't seen the OP in ages. Please read the dates on a post before you pull it up and reply.

Because there are some controversial responses included among the useful ones, and because the topic seems to have been well covered the first time, I'm going to lock it to avoid any new arguments springing up from the old.


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