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01 Apr 2013, 10:17 pm

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I was laughing as I read this. But yeah, in a few years, we're going to be a much more significant minority group than we are today.



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01 Apr 2013, 11:44 pm

I find attractive girls attractive.

Personality can certainly be a turn-off or a turn-on after meeting someone, but whether or not someone is an Aspie has little to do the initial physical attraction.

Seeing as I don't actually know any diagnosed Aspie girls in real life, I can't really answer this question.


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02 Apr 2013, 11:32 am

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Physically, I tend to find aspies attractive about the same percentage of the time as NT's. Personality-wise, there have been some that I had some initial interest in, but so far I haven't really found any that I have been able to click with that well. I guess it's been difficult for me to make connections with women on the spectrum due to social difficulties on both ends, as well as differences in interests ("special" or otherwise), and then there's the issue that a lot of women with AS are sensitive to touch and therefore aren't very interested in intimacy. That's not a trait that I have.

Of course, my luck with NT women hasn't exactly been that great, either.


Funny, because I am very sensitive to touch and thats exactly the reasons I love intimacy.



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02 Apr 2013, 12:36 pm

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02 Apr 2013, 2:56 pm

Pabalebo wrote:
I find attractive girls attractive.

Personality can certainly be a turn-off or a turn-on after meeting someone, but whether or not someone is an Aspie has little to do the initial physical attraction.

Seeing as I don't actually know any diagnosed Aspie girls in real life, I can't really answer this question.


I have met a few and I found that personality types differed from witty to shy to bold so you can't really judge personality type based on a diagnosis either as each person has individual characteristics.



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02 Apr 2013, 5:48 pm

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Be honest, guys.

I'm not saying there are no attractive autistic girls. There are certainly a lot of them that have great looks and great personalities.

Problem is, that the ones in my area are sheltered, unappealing, and very awkward.
There is one autistic girl I liked but she ended up going out with this Russian guy.


My question to you would be this- what distinguishes an autistic girl from a neurotypical girl physically? Autism, as we all know, is a neurological disorder, which is something internal that affects the brain, as opposed to external in appearance (although it can be external in odd social behaviors, isolation, etc).

If we were to use biological terms, like in the study of genetics, you could say that neurotypical and autistic girls have the same phenotype (physical traits/outward appearance)- in the sense that they all look similar to each other, and there is nothing to distinguish a high functioning autistic girl from a neurotypical girl.

The difference is in genotype, which is the traits and characteristics that makes up a person's genetic composition, which would be things like inherited traits, recessive genes, dominant genes, etc and so forth.

Now, if we are talking about personalities and social characteristics, that would make more sense, since there is a relatively clear distinction between how a neurotypical girl acts (typically friendly, sociable, expressive facially and verbally,) and how an autistic girl might act (reserved, quiet, strong interests in certain subjects, more withdrawn).

I'm not saying all neurotypical girls are social butterflys, some might just be as shy and reserved as autistic girls. And I'm not saying all autistic girls are quiet and reserved. I'm just pointing out noticeable trends- there are always exceptions to every rule, and usually it comes about as a form of adaptation.

For instance, I'm a high functioning autistic male who has an easy time interacting with my neurotypical peers and engaging with them socially. I am able to be serious with them, to joke with them, and they like me well enough. In that sense, I break the mold of what one would stereotypically consider "autistic", since I am able to interact socially with other to a large degree.



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02 Apr 2013, 7:33 pm

kinda on the fence with this one, because that shouldn't be the defining characteristic that determines whether or not that woman should be attractive. Yeah, they may be a little bit easier to understand because I've kinda been able to pick up on some of those signs at my college with women.

Would I date them? Maybe, but that's a heavy maybe, because a trait that some (not all) aspies have is being stubborn (myself included), so I'm not really keen on having AS be the key factor into why I should date a woman.

To be honest, they could look like Meg from Family Guy, and I still would not try.


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26 May 2013, 3:43 pm

yes. Autistic girls have certain facial characteristics about them that is not common and,rare in NTS.



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26 May 2013, 7:04 pm

Some of them look like youthful angels -- actually, quite similar to me. I find those ones very very attractive. That's a distinctly autistic look, which I have too. Some of them look like normal girls and can be attractive also. I find the personality attractive sometimes also. Definitely the bluntness.



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26 May 2013, 9:34 pm

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Some of them look like youthful angels -- actually, quite similar to me. I find those ones very very attractive. That's a distinctly autistic look, which I have too. Some of them look like normal girls and can be attractive also. I find the personality attractive sometimes also. Definitely the bluntness.


I do not understand the bolded part. What did you mean by that? Could you expand on it further?


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26 May 2013, 10:04 pm

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Tyri0n wrote:
Some of them look like youthful angels -- actually, quite similar to me. I find those ones very very attractive. That's a distinctly autistic look, which I have too. Some of them look like normal girls and can be attractive also. I find the personality attractive sometimes also. Definitely the bluntness.


I do not understand the bolded part. What did you mean by that? Could you expand on it further?


There's a type of autistic girl with that look. Here's a public image of a very young one (couldn't find on of a dating-age girl) but usually, the look I'm talking about has a thinner face and a more distinct autistic smile: http://i1.squidoocdn.com/resize/squidoo ... 28hair.jpg

See? Very autistic look.

When I looked at aspieaffection, I saw several with the same type of face and the same look.

There's a girl much more like what I'm talking about in the Wrong Planet FB group, but I'm not sure I'm allowed to link to FB profiles here.



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26 May 2013, 10:09 pm

:?
I have a semi formed idea in mind but I probably need to do some research to fully understand.


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26 May 2013, 10:11 pm

I don’t think I’ve ever met any knowingly in real life, but the few pictures I’ve seen here (including Maja Toudal’s) have something I adore. They look naïve in a fundamental way, like all aspies are, and they also seem vaguely amused by their own allure, with no malice. I can see how this may invite abuse, though. Oh, and I definitely love the ease many talk here with about some intimate topics, in quite a guy-like fashion :)

I’m also very impressed with the achievements of some, and, contrary to what I‘ve often read, this too is a big turn-on to me. I can only wish I had something to offer in return.


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26 May 2013, 10:12 pm

Kjas wrote:
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I have a semi formed idea in mind but I probably need to do some research to fully understand.


Yeah, I have a bunch of pictures and photos in my mind, but unfortunately, I can't link them here, not even the FB ones. :(

You're probably friends with someone who has that look if you're in the WP FB group.



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26 May 2013, 10:17 pm

I'm not on the WP FB group but I have noticed that most share a particular blank / lost in their own world (or otherworldly) / very naïve look. I have it too. Most of the aspie women I have met have it.

If they happen to be very beautiful, certainly it can make them look very angel like - although the combination of naivety and good looks does usually attract abusers or men who are very domineering and refuse to respect boundaries.


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27 May 2013, 1:22 am

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do you find aspie wp girls attractive?


No.

hmp! :stuckup: