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Aquamarine_Kitty
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I have absolutely no problem with so called "stupid" or should I say "unique" names.
The only problem I would have with a name is if it intentionally used to be offensive (for example, using a "bad word" for a name), and I haven't seen any cases of this yet. |
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SotiCoto
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| Shelby wrote: | | Would you seriously think better of someone called Chikote (pronounced Shikotay)?? I seriously know of someone who named their child that *shudder* |
They might have been a fan of Star Trek Voyager... though I seem to recall the name being spelt rather differently in that case.
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Purplefluffychainsaw
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| Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 11:40 am Post subject: |
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I certainly don't have a problem with it: I have one myself - Elanor, and I have every intention of giving the most obscure names I can get away with to my children.  My friend's family have a tradition of "strange" names - she's Leo (and was going to be Eowyn only her dad got to write down a name first), and her mum's Erica (which isn't that strange).
I don't think there's anything wrong with using odd names, especially since most of them were popular at some point anyway. Elanor /is/ geeky, but no one realises that it is when you say it out loud. Eowyn is an established old English name (and still geeky). If I have a son he'll be Samwise, which can just be shortened to Sam and no one will be any the wiser. A girl? Probably an old English name - Skyla or Brenna are my favourites at the moment.
I'm not so keen on misspellings of names though, especially some of them which range to stupid. Plus there's the urban legend about the chav who called her kid Chlamydia because she thought it sounded nice. XD
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tailfins1959
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| Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 11:46 am Post subject: |
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| Aquamarine_Kitty wrote: | I have absolutely no problem with so called "stupid" or should I say "unique" names.
The only problem I would have with a name is if it intentionally used to be offensive (for example, using a "bad word" for a name), and I haven't seen any cases of this yet. |
So you think it's ok for parents to make a kid to go through life with a full name pronounced "Baloney"?
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Venger
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| Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 11:51 am Post subject: |
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| veruniel wrote: | | Selo wrote: | | This topic interests me because anything can be turned into a name. There are kids at my school whose names are made-up, but there they are: Salome... |
Salome actually isn't a made up name. It's Biblical. |
The actress Salome Jens played the Dominion leader on a number of Star Trek DS9 episodes. |
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Keeno
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In the Asperger group I belong to (and now lead) it strikes me how many people find certain names hurtful, getting an instinctual adverse feeling from names of people who bullied or hurt them in the past. Then if they come across such a name, usually a surname rather than first name, they feel a hurtful reaction.
I used to be that way, big time. I probably still am, for example I'd be immediately turned off a girl with certain surnames, no matter how attracted I'd be to her otherwise. It must sound weird, but a common kind of thing in my group of Aspies. Surnames do count for a lot for me.
For first names I really do prefer the traditional names, and names which are popular and so have been well accepted. I shudder a little at unusual names, in case naming patterns go as far as - or anywhere near to - things like the Shithead example.
As for names like Kathy for Katherine etc. - love them or hate them, these names are often shortened out of endearment, intimacy, tenderness etc. and/or they are informal forms of the full name. They are often called 'diminutive' names, for these reasons. I know I might be inclined to do this if I feel affection towards a female.
My interaction with females is virtually limited to the Internet. But for example there is a girl called Christina. She has OCD and she has hinted there is another mental health issue. Which I think is more than likely bipolar disorder. I have kinda insisted on calling her Chrissy, and even though she doesn't normally go by Chrissy she seems to really appreciate it from me.
The Kathy example makes relevant the name of another girl. Her first and middle name - Jessie Kathryn. She has schizophrenia. She'd normally go simply by Jessie, but I love the sound of the first and middle name together so sometimes call her Jessie Kathryn, which she seems perfectly happy with. But I might start calling her Kathy - her given name is Jessie, not Jessica, so that's already shortened. And I just want something to shorten, out of endearment. |
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Aquamarine_Kitty
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| Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 3:22 pm Post subject: |
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| tailfins1959 wrote: | | Aquamarine_Kitty wrote: | I have absolutely no problem with so called "stupid" or should I say "unique" names.
The only problem I would have with a name is if it intentionally used to be offensive (for example, using a "bad word" for a name), and I haven't seen any cases of this yet. |
So you think it's ok for parents to make a kid to go through life with a full name pronounced "Baloney"? |
No, if the kid doesn't like it, he/she should be allowed to change it as soon as possible, and definitely should be allowed to go by a different name in the meantime. |
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webwalker
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| Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 5:17 pm Post subject: |
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I suppose that there is something to letting your child choose their name. But consider: how many of them would choose Yoo-ghi-Oh? Yikes.
For myself, I had to learn this one the hard way, going from the frying pan in to the fire and back.
Born Richard Marshall W. Father is Richard Ebbert W.
Dad decided (6 months later) that he was tired of the 'little Ricky' nonsense and my parents decided to use my middle name, Marshall, which was a no uncommon name in Idaho in the 1960s, and was also my mother's maiden name. No other male descendants of the Marshall line, so my father's decision pleased a lot of my mother's family. No one made fun of 'Marshall' because Marshall was a common name, even stamped on an uncommon little boy. (Moi.)
Then we moved to the Philadelphia area when I was five, and 'Marshall' turned in to a living hell, because NO ONE had ever heard of the name: They are named John, Paul, Nicky, Joey, Frankie....pick an Italian or Jewish name, there were at least three in my elementary school classes. But only one 'Marshall'.
I went through 10 years of this abuse until I changed schools when I was 15. And I took the opportunity to reconstitute my name the way *I* wanted. At 15 you want to be special, but you want to fit in. You want to stand out, but not 'stick out'. It is a crumby time for any kid. And while I had plenty of good reasons to want to leave 'Marshall' behind, I took what I can only call the most short sighted way out: I introduced my new self, at my new school as 'Richard.' or 'Rick'. Everyone knew how to spell it. Everyone knew how say it. It was just like several other Richards in the school. Ahhhhh....
Until someone yelled, 'Hey....DICK!' And it was all down hill from there. Coming in to this school cold, all of the other kids had been in school together since Kindergarten. I was new. I was different (and not just because I was new.) And I had a name that was easy to abuse.
I guess a case could be made that if I'd shown up as 'Marshall' it would have been just as bad. But that's not how I remember it now. All I remember is, "Hey DICK!"
When I left for college (West coast and back to my roots) I swapped back to Marshall again. And I've never had another problem, even though I'm back living in the Philly area. The Joeys and Nickys and Paulies are all still around, but they stick to their social ghetto and I stick to mine; we don't mix socially so it doesn't really matter any more. But I wouldn't be stupid enough to go on to their turf, and they wouldn't have any interest in coming on to mine.
But here is where things come out different for me: I was very careful in choosing my children's names, for those very reasons. (Alexander Matthew and Miranda Elena.) I am compassionate with people I know who have unusual names that set them apart from the ethnocentric names of this region and go out my way to be friendly with them. Some of them have it a lot worse than I ever did: two of my co-workers are (no kidding) Iftakharul Islam and Sefakor Ampofo.
I guess that's the best you can do: Take the crappy things that have happened to you in your life and swear by what ever you hold sacred that you won't do that to others, and that you'll defend them against people who do...because there was no one to defend you when you were young.
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Shelby
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| Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 10:31 pm Post subject: |
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| Purplefluffychainsaw wrote: | I certainly don't have a problem with it: I have one myself - Elanor, and I have every intention of giving the most obscure names I can get away with to my children. My friend's family have a tradition of "strange" names - she's Leo (and was going to be Eowyn only her dad got to write down a name first), and her mum's Erica (which isn't that strange).
I don't think there's anything wrong with using odd names, especially since most of them were popular at some point anyway. Elanor /is/ geeky, but no one realises that it is when you say it out loud. Eowyn is an established old English name (and still geeky). If I have a son he'll be Samwise, which can just be shortened to Sam and no one will be any the wiser. A girl? Probably an old English name - Skyla or Brenna are my favourites at the moment.
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I don't consider Elanor to be weird at all! Is it pronounced the same as Eleanor? Eleanor is a very common name, I know quite a few! Samwise is a bit odd but at least you're choosing a name that can be made into something normal if he doesn't like it. Old names are not the same as the trendified "cool" names that people just make up. I've heard there is a whole website that helps you just make up a name. How will they ever get one of those keychains with their name on it? |
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hale_bopp
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| Posted: Tue Jun 03, 2008 6:08 am Post subject: |
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| Made up names irritate me, and sound common. |
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GreatCeleryStalk
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| Posted: Tue Jun 03, 2008 10:13 am Post subject: |
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I knew a couple of kids at the pre-school I used to work at who were named Lemongello and Orangello.
Saw someone else whose name was DeShun. |
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MartyMoose
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| Posted: Tue Jun 03, 2008 10:15 am Post subject: |
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| I have trouble remember names that aren't normal. Like black girls named "Juremah" and "Shantee" |
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Flaggy
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| i hate the name britney...... its such a slutty name... |
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Kilroy
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| Posted: Tue Jun 03, 2008 8:03 pm Post subject: |
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I dislike my own name
I'd rather a cool name
my kids will have Slavic names 
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Nairin
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| Posted: Tue Jun 03, 2008 8:23 pm Post subject: |
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I don't like "Brandon".
Don't get me wrong, I know a Brandon, he's cool, but... "Brandon" strikes me as a 'cute' name. 'Cute' names aren't good past four years old. And when someone named Brandon acts cool, it seems weird to me.
I don't know. Names that suit a certain age group (toddlers, in this case) bother me.
I knew a little girl named Tess, for example. 'Tess' makes me think 70-80 something old woman.
I don't know. I just don't know.
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