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deadpanhead
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| juliekitty wrote: | | [.....baseless assumption.......insinuated insult (Gee, what about that self-proclaimed highest of standards called literalism?).............self contradiction........insinuated insult........assumption.....breach of logic.........public disclosure that you were sent a message in private...........yet another assumption.......open insult] (paraphrase) |
No, i did not bother to read your last posts. This is an abbreviated but accurate summary of everything you've said so far less the last couple of posts (though i suspect they are much the same). The day that you call me on my home phone and relay to me WD's personal info, his full diagnosis and, oh, by the way, the origin of the nickname "Cupcake" (it was weird coming from a total stranger, but by no means an insult as you insinuated), only then will i listen to what it was you had to say. I truly (and yes, literally) wish you a nice life. |
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Sforzi
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Joined: May 23, 2008
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| Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 2:03 pm Post subject: |
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Firstly, you would do well NOT to tar us all with the same brush. That sort of attitude is likely to turn girls off you. It immediately got my hackles up, so I rest my case.
It IS a cliche, but keep being yourself. If you act like a bastard, you're going to attract all the wrong people. Wouldn't you rather not put on a facade and have a girl love you for YOU?
*sigh*
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LKL
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juliekitty
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| Posted: Tue Jun 10, 2008 9:59 pm Post subject: |
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| deadpanhead wrote: | | No, i did not bother to read your last posts. |
You didn't really read the other ones, either.
| deadpanhead wrote: | | The day that you call me on my home phone and relay to me WD's personal info, his full diagnosis and, oh, by the way, the origin of the nickname "Cupcake" (it was weird coming from a total stranger, but by no means an insult as you insinuated), only then will i listen to what it was you had to say. |
I doubt you'd listen if I did all that, plus gave you a million dollars.
I don't think you're capable of listening.
| deadpanhead wrote: | | I truly (and yes, literally) wish you a nice life. |
Buh bye! |
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MR_BOGAN
Mysterios Dirty Dancer
Joined: Mar 06, 2008
Age: 30
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Location: The great trailer park in the sky!
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| Posted: Tue Jun 10, 2008 10:08 pm Post subject: |
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Who cares what heartless bitches think.
You only want to read that if you want to try and play some skanks.
Who wants to have a relationship with women that think like that. No thanks!! |
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MR_BOGAN
Mysterios Dirty Dancer
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Age: 30
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Location: The great trailer park in the sky!
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| Posted: Tue Jun 10, 2008 10:13 pm Post subject: |
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There are really good women out there and there are really bad women out there (so yes beware!).
Look for a good woman that you are compatible with.  |
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merr
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| Posted: Tue Jun 10, 2008 10:21 pm Post subject: |
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| MR_BOGAN wrote: |
Who cares what heartless bitches think.
You only want to read that if you want to try and play some skanks.
Who wants to have a relationship with women that think like that. No thanks!! |
But it is true that a lot of people who say they are nice are really using code for quiet or shy and arent really that nice at all.
I think wht those women are saying is they like honest men who dont use an overused phrase that doesnt really apply to them at all.
happens with women too. |
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MR_BOGAN
Mysterios Dirty Dancer
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Location: The great trailer park in the sky!
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| merr wrote: | | MR_BOGAN wrote: |
Who cares what heartless bitches think.
You only want to read that if you want to try and play some skanks.
Who wants to have a relationship with women that think like that. No thanks!! |
But it is true that a lot of people who say they are nice are really using code for quiet or shy and arent really that nice at all.
I think wht those women are saying is they like honest men who dont use an overused phrase that doesnt really apply to them at all.
happens with women too. |
Nice guys if they are nice then they are nice guys. If they are not nice guys but they are pretending to be nice then they are not nice guys.
Seriously you don't want to get advice from a web site that is called Heartless Bitches.  Unless you want to date one.
There is something unattractive about being to clingy or needy though, I feel. |
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jemir1234
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| Posted: Thu Jun 12, 2008 12:30 pm Post subject: Are You Black? |
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Are u an African -American? well i know how u feel. the sma sh** happens to me and i'm an extremely good looking uy. It took me a while to find out that that is not what gets girls to like you. so then i tried hi hop clothing. but that made them stare and when they talked to m,e they still didnt like me. I still like theclothing but i dont wear as much of it. I have a over a 4.0 gpa. it's hard having asperger's and being black cuz.
-U don't fit the black stereo type
-diagnosis come later
-When smarter than some white people, the get jealous (bully you, or think you're a punk)
-girls f**k with you becuz you aren't out there smoking weed and being cool so they be mean cuz they think you're a punk.
All i'm trying to say is that its hard enough being a man with As, especially and African -American man. soesnt matter what type of neighborhood. So all you should do is be yourself. And here's the real question?
You get a girlfriend and then what's next????? |
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jemir1234
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Yeah ur rage ain't scary u exactly like me. I worry about the stuff that is completely mind bombarding. Like how come people don't reply to me on myspace the second i talk about ppl not replying. Girls blocked me before cuz i was too obsessed. i was not invited to parties becuz i was supposebly weird. but in church class yesterday i learned dat GOD gave us dominion over everything in the world. The hum rules the earth, meaning that everytime you think about this, it's like letting a cockroach or ant beat ur ass. Its not good. You can control this. Girls with asperger's sometimes ignore me on myspace. Just becuz a woman has is nuerodivergent, doesnt mean shes no different than a regualr old girl. she wants to be protected too, and they fall for assholes as well, just like this one on myspace who tells me about her life.
i know how u feel, its not what happend, but its why it happened. u have that question. my friend ignores me all the time when i ask why. he tells me i have no game. These other pp replying may not be the best becuz they may not be from the community you are from. I'm from the west side of chicago and i got in 7 fights in one year.
what you should do is the extreme. instead of having a meltdown cuz you'll be in jail. try getting your life out there like writing a book and send messages to ppl on cnn website or something. when ppl hear Autism they get all sympathetic anywayz. so instead of crying about it, use it to your advantage like one of my teachers told me. |
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LazyLara
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Joined: Mar 14, 2008
Age: 16
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Location: Nowhere
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| Posted: Thu Jun 12, 2008 2:39 pm Post subject: |
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| WhateverDude wrote: | There we go with more HIGHSCHOOL bs.
I'm about to graduated, GED, and I am NOT like high schoolers. I'm not a phenomenon, but kids are NOT taught to grow up today.
I get along better with adults that I do with kids.
Well they still say there's someone for everyone. BULLSHIT.
I WOULDN'T GO OUT WITH SOMEONE LIKE YOU
Do you know how mother f***ing painful it is to hear that?
Do you know how many times I've heard that?
I've had 13 friends commit suicide.
When I was 8 I got raped, been moved away from my friends over and over. Been in more fights that i can remember. Been shot at and the works. No one ever liked me in school either, I just couldn't get along. Caus it's SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO funny to laugh at the 'weird' guy. So I got sick of it, and instead of people hating me because I was different, they hated me because I beat up their 'home dawgs'.
Then I moved to VA and though a fresh start, no fighting, and hopefully not being 'weird'
First day, and the whole class was laughing at me. all the time. telling me things like 'your gonna grow up to be a bum' 'your gonna fail at life' and all SORTS of other things.
kids literally TORMENTED me.
After all that sh** that god guy put my through, I'm finaly starting to get along with people. I'm still nice to everyone, even though people have treated me like sh** all my life.
Now all I want is a girlfriend, or hell, how about a best friend?
I've never had a godamn best friend in my LIFE.
But no. of course not. To good for the likes of me. Instead I'm stuck kissing ass and talking about stupid, pointless things with people that are barely friends, just so I don't have more idiot referring to me as retard, moron, or any of the other things they've called me.
I can't even get along with people ON A GODAMN MOTHER f***ing FORUM WITH SUPPOSED PEOPLE LIKE ME. This is the FIRST post anyone's replied to. People IGNORE me, even online. WHY AM I NOT ALLOWED? |
O.o OMFGGGG
I am just like you! Im serious.
Nobody gives a crap about me.....I also would like to have best friends since my old friend called me a narcisiss and a bitch.
I never had a boyfriend.....and I feel lonely most of the time. |
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flailure
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| Posted: Thu Jun 12, 2008 3:26 pm Post subject: |
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When I was your age I felt the same way about being alone. I thought I would never hook it up with anyone for the long haul. That attitude and the accompanying depression led me to attach myself to the first female who expressed any attention or affection for me since I honestly thought I was going to always be alone and had to accept whatever came my way. 8 years later I was 28, divorced, miserable, and in debt (I kept all the bills and kicked her out). Thank god we didn't have kids.
I did marry again, but ended up subjecting my new wife to all of that baggage. I can't believe she's still with me. I think she's more nuts than I.
Be happy to be alone for now. The whole time I was married to my ex I was kicking myself for having bemoaned my single life. Your time WILL come, but not in the way you'd expect. You'll see that it will happen when you're not looking for it at all, but rather focusing on your goals. Cliché? Yeah, but true.
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LoveableNerd
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Location: Kentucky, USA
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| Posted: Thu Jun 12, 2008 4:08 pm Post subject: |
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| MisterHeron wrote: | | Brainsforbreakfast wrote: | I don't particularly feel interested in completely reading 17 pages of ranting,
so dunno if my 2 cents have been said here before, I guess probably it is..but ehh..
Girls don't generally look for bad bad boys and assholes. Romantically frustrated guys get that idea because they see someone they fancy, and rather then choose them, they date someone the frustrated guy sees as a complete moronic abusive asshole.
Girls dig confidence and assertiveness. It just so happens that assholes have plenty of that. But it's not being an asshole thats attractive per se.
I've read it somewhere, so it's not my observation, but I agree with the following:
'nice guys' tend to make excuses for what they feel and what they want, tending to kinda be friendly and hope the girl will notice them, somehow.
If you give of the 'I want to be your friend' vibe rather then the 'I am dating material, and you might be so too' vibe, thats exactly how girls are going to see you. As their friend, not as dating material  |
That's going to make things easier.  |
Yeah, if we had the knowledge or the ability to give off the "vibes" we wanted to on command, AS wouldn't be much of an issue would it?
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LePetitPrince
Feminist activist O_o
Joined: Mar 03, 2006
Age: 26
Posts: 3568
Location: Beirut , Lebanon
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| Posted: Thu Jun 12, 2008 4:57 pm Post subject: |
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| LazyLara wrote: | | WhateverDude wrote: | There we go with more HIGHSCHOOL bs.
I'm about to graduated, GED, and I am NOT like high schoolers. I'm not a phenomenon, but kids are NOT taught to grow up today.
I get along better with adults that I do with kids.
Well they still say there's someone for everyone. BULLSHIT.
I WOULDN'T GO OUT WITH SOMEONE LIKE YOU
Do you know how mother f***ing painful it is to hear that?
Do you know how many times I've heard that?
I've had 13 friends commit suicide.
When I was 8 I got raped, been moved away from my friends over and over. Been in more fights that i can remember. Been shot at and the works. No one ever liked me in school either, I just couldn't get along. Caus it's SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO funny to laugh at the 'weird' guy. So I got sick of it, and instead of people hating me because I was different, they hated me because I beat up their 'home dawgs'.
Then I moved to VA and though a fresh start, no fighting, and hopefully not being 'weird'
First day, and the whole class was laughing at me. all the time. telling me things like 'your gonna grow up to be a bum' 'your gonna fail at life' and all SORTS of other things.
kids literally TORMENTED me.
After all that sh** that god guy put my through, I'm finaly starting to get along with people. I'm still nice to everyone, even though people have treated me like sh** all my life.
Now all I want is a girlfriend, or hell, how about a best friend?
I've never had a godamn best friend in my LIFE.
But no. of course not. To good for the likes of me. Instead I'm stuck kissing ass and talking about stupid, pointless things with people that are barely friends, just so I don't have more idiot referring to me as retard, moron, or any of the other things they've called me.
I can't even get along with people ON A GODAMN MOTHER f***ing FORUM WITH SUPPOSED PEOPLE LIKE ME. This is the FIRST post anyone's replied to. People IGNORE me, even online. WHY AM I NOT ALLOWED? |
O.o OMFGGGG
I am just like you! Im serious.
Nobody gives a crap about me.....I also would like to have best friends since my old friend called me a narcisiss and a bitch.
I never had a boyfriend.....and I feel lonely most of the time. |
WhateverDude , I think that we've found you a date  . |
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LePetitPrince
Feminist activist O_o
Joined: Mar 03, 2006
Age: 26
Posts: 3568
Location: Beirut , Lebanon
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| Posted: Thu Jun 12, 2008 5:09 pm Post subject: |
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| Robrukas wrote: | | LePetitPrince wrote: | | Quote: | And, you still haven't given me a cogent reason why guys shouldn't at least try it when it can be free,
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It's mathematical, an aspie guy would face the same troubles through online dating* as in the real life , he still has to initiate conversation, he still needs to be social (because he's going to meet her), he still needs a good social and financial status
BUT the only thing that differentiate it from traditional dating is that the number of males are from 3 to 4 times more than females, don't you believe me? Go to your dating site or to any dating site and set the search to "A man seeking women" and compare the number of results with "A woman seeking men".
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and it expands the range of possibilities not only within their own towns, but over the world. |
Oh come on, is there a stupid girl enough who's ready to move to another country in order to date some stranger? Would you come to my country for example?
When I set 'Man seeking women" and set Lebanon as location I just usually get 5 to 15 profiles with photos maximum and about ~30 clueless profiles , the vast majority of them (about ~70%) are inactive and many others are much older than me or much younger. (Well our population is just 4 millions)
How can this be expendable?
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Bottom line: I'm gonna keep recommending both! |
It's ok for the dancing advice , I agree dancing is a natural mating ritual after all and girls (like the females of most species) love it (doh!), but you are giving false hope to guys when you keep telling them that online dating is the magical solution for them and that's not ok. Soooo, I am gonna keep opposing this recommendation . |
You live in Lebanon PetitePrince, Im not the least bit suprised that online dating isnt very useful in Your country but in mine(the USA)its popularity is increasing far beyond peoples expectations. |
I know... but still,based on the loads of negative testimonies about online dating, I really doubt its effectiveness for males in all over the world ... even in the US. |
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