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MADDuck
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 Posted: Sat May 31, 2008 10:20 pm Post subject: Re: Will anybody ever like me? |
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| ebec11 wrote: | I just feel like nobody will take the time to get to know me...I'm a really good person, honest, serious, sweet...I know I'm insecure, and not many people like Autism...but I'm really nice
I just want a boyfriend that's loyal and likes me...is that so much to ask? |
Unfortunately it is too much to ask.
guys like that already have boyfriends.
Seriously, just be yourself and others will see you as you are.
Just don't lower your self-esteem and your standards and slut out.
smile, okay?
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LabPet
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| Posted: Sat May 31, 2008 10:44 pm Post subject: |
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I know....sigh. Dateless wonder = Lab Pet
I really wish there was a way to facilitate interaction between Autie/Aspies and others, but how? I am so lost.
I could be a cloistered nun except I'm not Catholic.
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MADDuck
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| Posted: Sat May 31, 2008 11:04 pm Post subject: |
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| LabPet wrote: | I know....sigh. Dateless wonder = Lab Pet
I really wish there was a way to facilitate interaction between Autie/Aspies and others, but how? I am so lost.
I could be a cloistered nun except I'm not Catholic. |
wow.
Labpet (if that is your REAL name!)
Don't give up.
try to be YOU.
I, like prob. about 80% of the people here, am fighting depression on top of everything else. I force myself to get out of bed every day.
I have to constantly remind myself that I am a sexy beast!!
Someday, somehow I highly suspect that I will not die alone.
I will find a funny, deep, spirited [female]soul that can challenge and put up with me, my cats, and my books.
Until that day, all I can do is look in the mirror and say, "Damn what a sexy BEAST!"
hang in there, please. and do not cloister yourself, it would be a waste!
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WhateverDude
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| Quote: | | just feel like nobody will take the time to get to know me |
Tell me about it. Look at my thread. You're not alone.
Tim, you either.
| Quote: | | No, I just prefer people closer to my age. |
Same. I seem to get along with people twice my age, though.
Me too. I like almost everyone.
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Most of us are in the same situation. Young, old, intelligent, dumb, socially aware or not, we dont get many chances. Find your opportunity and make it work, best you can do in these days. |
That pretty much sums it up. Problem is some of us don't even know where to start looking for it.
| Quote: | | I know....sigh. Dateless wonder = Lab Pet |
Nah, = Lab Pet & Whatever Dude
I've been alone most my life. No close friend even. Why? Couldn't tell you. I can't make that plunge from friend to close friend. Probably an aspie thing. In fact, no probably. |
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ToadOfSteel
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| Posted: Sun Jun 01, 2008 12:32 am Post subject: Re: Will anybody ever like me? |
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| MADDuck wrote: | | ebec11 wrote: | I just feel like nobody will take the time to get to know me...I'm a really good person, honest, serious, sweet...I know I'm insecure, and not many people like Autism...but I'm really nice
I just want a boyfriend that's loyal and likes me...is that so much to ask? |
Unfortunately it is too much to ask.
guys like that already have boyfriends. |
umm, don't you mean "girlfriends"? Unless you were talking about gay men, of course...
Well, for the sake of argument, i'll assume you meant "girlfriend", so here goes... I've never had a girlfriend. I have the same problem the OP has: wanting to find someone who would be loyal and likes me, and I can't find any women that fit both... I've known women that are good loyal friends, but not necessarily liking me (including one i actually developed a deep attraction towards, only to permanently screw my chances with her...), and women that were attracted to me (or at least faked it well), but deep down were your garden-variety NT backstabber...
I've been told that I'm extremely loyal and accepting of people (except towards people that don't accept me). The OP sounds like the kind of person i would normally want to date. If you weren't in canada and were at least 2 years older than you are now, i would probably be sending you a PM. (unfortunately, here in the States, a 20 year old going out with someone who is under 18 is considered a creep... part of why tim said he was too old...) |
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Tim_Tex
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| Posted: Sun Jun 01, 2008 12:51 am Post subject: |
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Even college-age students (18-22) consider anyone older than 22 creepy (they may make exceptions if the guy is gainfully employed)
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MADDuck
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Toadofsteel:
Actually I meant boyfriends. As in men that are that attentive, etc, MUST be gay.
It's a joke, admitted, not a very funny one.
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| MADDuck wrote: | Toadofsteel:
Actually I meant boyfriends. As in men that are that attentive, etc, MUST be gay.
It's a joke, admitted, not a very funny one. |
Are you calling my father "gay"?  |
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MADDuck
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no, I'm calling his huband gay!!!!
LOL 
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pbcoll
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| Posted: Sun Jun 01, 2008 4:04 pm Post subject: Re: Will anybody ever like me? |
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| ToadOfSteel wrote: | | MADDuck wrote: | | ebec11 wrote: | I just feel like nobody will take the time to get to know me...I'm a really good person, honest, serious, sweet...I know I'm insecure, and not many people like Autism...but I'm really nice
I just want a boyfriend that's loyal and likes me...is that so much to ask? |
Unfortunately it is too much to ask.
guys like that already have boyfriends. |
umm, don't you mean "girlfriends"? Unless you were talking about gay men, of course...
Well, for the sake of argument, i'll assume you meant "girlfriend", so here goes... I've never had a girlfriend. I have the same problem the OP has: wanting to find someone who would be loyal and likes me, and I can't find any women that fit both... I've known women that are good loyal friends, but not necessarily liking me (including one i actually developed a deep attraction towards, only to permanently screw my chances with her...), and women that were attracted to me (or at least faked it well), but deep down were your garden-variety NT backstabber...
I've been told that I'm extremely loyal and accepting of people (except towards people that don't accept me). The OP sounds like the kind of person i would normally want to date. If you weren't in canada and were at least 2 years older than you are now, i would probably be sending you a PM. (unfortunately, here in the States, a 20 year old going out with someone who is under 18 is considered a creep... part of why tim said he was too old...) |
I can relate, I'm loyal and have only ever had one gf. In my case, some women do like me, but only ever as a friend; in the past few years, there's only been one girl that *might* have liked me in a relationship kind of way, and maybe a couple of girls that were attracted to me (but knew nothing about me). Evidently, loyalty is not, in practice, attractive to most - I guess it's out of fashion.
To the OP: From what I've seen, the girls that do go for loyal men do very well for the most part, unless they act as someone they're not. So you have good reason to be optimistic. You sound very nice, if I were your age and in your area I would have PMed you to suggest a meet to get to know each other.
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MADDuck
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| Posted: Sun Jun 01, 2008 7:50 pm Post subject: |
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in other words, to answer your original question.
Yes, you will be liked by someone worthy of you liking.
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Kilroy
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| Posted: Sun Jun 01, 2008 9:12 pm Post subject: Re: Will anybody ever like me? |
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| ebec11 wrote: | I just feel like nobody will take the time to get to know me...I'm a really good person, honest, serious, sweet...I know I'm insecure, and not many people like Autism...but I'm really nice
I just want a boyfriend that's loyal and likes me...is that so much to ask? |
for us aspies'
it seems so
sadly 
I am in the same boat
and have become bitter and angry nowadays
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MADDuck
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| Posted: Sun Jun 01, 2008 9:39 pm Post subject: |
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is it that bad in the collective??
I thought your hive life was comforting.
Resistance is NOT futile, it's fun actually!
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ebec11
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And I would date an Aspie, but you guys are old!  (to my 16 year old self)
And all the Aspies I know are girls
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Kilroy
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| Posted: Sun Jun 01, 2008 9:40 pm Post subject: |
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| MADDuck wrote: | is it that bad in the collective??
I thought your hive life was comforting.
Resistance is NOT futile, it's fun actually! |
ya ya ya
i am not a mindless drone
quite the opposite
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