How to decrease one's sex drive?

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I'm a guy and found this site by googling "how to decrease sex drive." For religious purposes, I dont want to have sex. But I think I have a sex demon or something. It's all I think about. When I see a woman, I picture her in bed with me making love. I am a really nice guy and would love to find a great lady to settle down with. I have a FWB, but because of my religous beliefs, feel guilty every time, which is about once a week. It would be more if I didnt have the religous guilt. She wants to marry me but she's not my type, except in bed. I am orgasmic focused, so we match in bed. I want to just not see her or have any sex at all, until I meet a special lady. But the desire is overwhelming! I dont watch porn and try not to masturbate, but if I go too long, it gets painful physically.

If I had a great lady that was very sexual and sensual, I wouldnt have any problems. But until then I dont want to have sex at all. I want the lady I meet to be very special to me, and I feel guilty about that too, since I have the FWB.

Any ideas on what I could do to stop these thoughts and desires? They take over and are so overwhelming, especially in the morning when I am groggy - when I cant fight it. I was hoping to find a herbal drug that I could take to make me not want sex and not get an erection. Any ideas?

Ranjon, depo provera will do what you want, another member on this site has used it to rein in his sex drive that was affecting his life in bad ways. There are side effects though, but it may be worth it to you.

Gee I wish I had your problem.

Drugs kill it. I know you said something that's not drugs, but I can safely say they do.

Hi everyone, I used to have the same problem until I came across this great method. You see I am a Muslim and what we basically do to decrease libido is we fast. Islamic fasting goes like this: you don't eat or drink anything ( even water ) plus you don't have sex (or masturbate) from sunrise to sunset. you do this two or three times a week and you'll find that your sex drive is significantly reduced that you'll barely even think about sex anymore. This method basically comes from an advise of prophet Muhammad that says:
"O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. abstain from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power."
Also, another thing that I found really helps is when you do eat avoid fatty foods and avoid eating too much.
That's it, I hope this helps someone. I know it helped me, A LOT.

I'm late to the discussion, but do not use chasteberry for lowering sex drive, as it actually can work in a number of ways on females, depending on what your particular body decides to do with it - including increasing your periods so they're like a freaking river. You can really mess yourself up messing with your hormones - and that's what chasteberry does (though hopefully in a good way if it's being used for what it does right).

That being said, when I've wanted my sex drive to lessen or go away, I've found being very stringent about avoiding any sexual discussion, movies, readings, talk, etc helped by not fanning the flames. I also practiced seeing everyone around me as a sister or brother - a technique I've heard monks and nuns doing. Other than that, just getting older helped.

Some things that might work:
* Fasting, less food guess fats and proteins might the ones to stay away from.
* Avoid environments where you see people that could be attractive partners, or partners at all.
* Spend lot of time with your special interest. Goes well with avoiding environmental triggers.

I suspect the combination of pressure body contact that triggers release of oxytocin, exercise that trigger endorfines, and the brain activity that triggers seratonin together with genitalia stimulation might work as an unconscious verification that sex has been accomplished. So if you can fake these things simultaneously it might work.
(I can picture some medical student taking a shoot just before masturbation )

Saliva also contain some chemicals that tells the body what to do or not.

Personally I just masturbate if the need arise. And then get on with other tasks. Sure, the need arise within time. But masturbation is quick business.

Other than that.. use my body, it's available!

I think that there are support groups for hyper sexual women.

I am desperate. I honestly feel like I am going to cry and I never cry.

I am 24 and a year ago I broke up with my first boyfriend, since him I had sex 3 time in a year, for me is ridiculous.

I don't even know where to start. I know exactly how you feel, I have a male friend that knows about it (he is the only one, I confessed it few days ago) and he keep saying that I should just go in club and meet a guy but I am not like that. I don't want to feel this need to have sex, it is pointless. I am studying full time and working part time, I have no time for it and I waste all the afternoon trying to focus on study and not sex and research a way to stop it.

I also met a nice guy lately, I want to take things slowly cause I really like him but I really feel like I need to get laid, it is driving me crazy.

Sorry about the nonsense, I feel really stupid talking about it.

Now I have to go to work for 3 hours, teaching classes while the only think in my mind is sex. Great. It is soooo frustrating!! !! !

I've made a topic on SE:
http://skeptics.stackexchange.com/quest ... ase-libido

Unfortunatelly, as the answer stays, the libido-decreasing effect of the soy is the myth. So can be with corn-flakes, tonic and other tips.

I've also find info than Coriander leaves have the libido-decreasing effect but I doubt it.

I would eagerly find some diet reducing (or, at best absulutely removing) sexual desire. The medicines - at best those that are available without recept.

I know no one is looking for a prescription solution and the only one I would confidently recommend is not a first-line option even as birth control.

This thread was comforting to find though. I use medroxyprogesterone (Depo Provera "The Shot") more to eliminate libido than eliminate ovulation and menstruation. As a medical professional I wouldn't recommend this to anyone and if there are other options out there I admire those using them.

This is the first time ever - I'm new here and new to accepting my AS - that I've ever seen anyone else express a desire to...well..be rid of desire.

I hope there is something out there that doesn't require a prescription and a hypodermic for those not comfortable with the risks and side-effects prescription options (and Med-Prog isn't the only one out there). Good Luck!

- Mally

I am the same way and Im a guy I tend to wear my past partners out because shortly after I climax I want to go again and shes already had alot of orgasms and is exhausted. To keep my drive in check I tend to masturbate 3 times a day. I know i know TMI the odd thing is sometimes I get emotionally attached to after having lots of sex with a partner.

What I hear a lot from now married men roughly my age,
is that what seems to be killing women's sex drive most effectively is a marriage with children.

umm I wish....I'm married and have kids and it's not killed my sex drive(I wish it had)

Chasteberry I heard regulates ovulation and might shorten or mess w/your period.
I've tried wellbutrin, prozac, zoloft, lexipro, and a few of them made my sex drive worse. I always seem
to have paradoxical reactions.

Oh my gosh! I thought it was just me! My sex drive is driving me crazy! It's also ruining my relationship with my fiancé. I get so frustrated when we don't have sex. It is so terrible to desire someone so much to have them roll over in bed and start snoring once his head hits the pillow. I can't talk to him because it makes it worse. I think it makes him feel inadequate. I would love to have sex 2-3 times a day I'm lucky to get it once a week. I have actually started sleeping in a separate room so at least the fact we aren't having sex isn't staring me in the face. The only solution I have is to take sleeping pills to knock me out so I cant think about it and get frustrating.

Personally I would do it every hour if I had the chance. But it's the thing with opportunity. And that kind of makes it of interest to decrease it to get focus on maths rathert than something that isn't present there and then.

Birth control did for me. I use it to treat my endometriosis and to actually INCREASE my fertility later in life when I want to have children. I'm not sexually active so I don't mind a decreased sex drive, infact, it's a little more even keel and I feel a lot less lonely and distracted by men.

I know how much people complain about that side effect, but I think its great.