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26 Oct 2012, 5:52 pm

Birth control did for me. I use it to treat my endometriosis and to actually INCREASE my fertility later in life when I want to have children. I'm not sexually active so I don't mind a decreased sex drive, infact, it's a little more even keel and I feel a lot less lonely and distracted by men.

I know how much people complain about that side effect, but I think its great.



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27 Oct 2012, 5:20 am

Another good way to kill sex drive is whenever you have the urge for sex or to masturbate visualize this before hand. [youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S6aPJ_jqPzk[/youtube]


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30 Oct 2012, 3:53 pm

the sex drive is related to your inner self. it is very strong much stronger then your body. in order to weaken it just reduce your food intake by 5 calories a day. then continue doing that u will notice that your desire for sex will decrease with time as you food intake is becoming less.

this is the basics but i have a lot of info on this if you need it.



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13 Nov 2012, 7:04 am

To answer the original post the only thing that made any difference for me was age and, not to put to fine a point on it, going ahead and having fun with it during my 20s. At 33 I couldn't care less, the idea of dealing with yet another relationship, even casual, is a far more dissuasive then anything else. That's not to say the urge has faded but like aches in my knees it's become easier to live with.

To the guys who seem amazed women wouldn't like this feeling, I'll try to explain by saying there is no end. No matter how often or how much the only thing that has brought things to an "end" was physical discomfort from trying again. Regardless of apexes reached, there is no satisfaction. It may be "the only thing on a boy's mind" but a majority of men I've known, bf and friend, seem to like theory more then practical... this does not apply to all of course. I've had bf's tell me I'm too needy because they couldn't keep up, been accused of cheating because "they know how (I) am". One even time he didn't want to so much because he wanted to keep it special.

Antidepressants and other medications have to many side effects for me but I did try them. Staying single and finding unrelated distractions seems to be my cure



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09 Dec 2012, 8:45 am

My ex-girlfriend was so affected by my constant need for sex that she ended up developing severe performance anxiety and stopped wanting sex altogether. In the last year of our relationship we had sex only once, and that was because she'd had a bit to drink and was more laid back than usual (excuse the pun).

I found that taking the pill did help to subdue my libido, however, side effects such as nausea and stomach bloating meant I had to stop taking it. Might work for you though.



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05 Mar 2013, 4:40 pm

Sorry, apparently since i'm a new user I can't include urls in my 1st five posts/1st five days of activation; BUT if you type
"Drugs occasionally mentioned in treating hypersexuality or ..." into google the first link (hawaii. edu/ hivandaids . . . .) will send you to a fairly extensive/thorough table of the medications (w/ side-effects and main issues they target) commonly prescribed to individuals suffering from hypersexuality//hypersexual-like issues in their lives.

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06 Mar 2013, 4:48 am

Since being on antipsychotics I just have no sex drive whatsoever, none at all. Dunno whether I prefer it that way or not but it's happened for years



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10 Mar 2013, 12:25 am

You really can't just make your sex drive go away..

One option is that you could just invest in a sex toy.. As weird as that may sound. Because it does provide you with a sexual outlet of some form. While it may sound weird and what not it's good to be open minded about things like that. Because medication can really do weird things to libio and sex drive as well as natural supplements when not well researched.

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12 Mar 2013, 8:00 pm

I can't post links yet, but folks with this issue (or other sexuality-related concerns) might try visiting a sex therapist. You should be able to find a certified one through the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (google ASSECT). Sex therapists are knowledgeable about the wide range of pharmacological and therapeutic options for reducing, or more likely managing, sex drive so that it's no longer causing distress. There's no silver bullet because sex is a complicated mix of body, mind, and sociality. A knowledgeable helper should be useful in finding a personal solution.



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05 Jun 2013, 11:25 pm

Apatura wrote:
garyww wrote:
but why do you want to reduce your sex drive?


Maybe 1) lack of sexual outlet 2) the sex drive is so high it is distracting you from more important issues?


Yep, all my ex's were crazy or neglectful and dating is exhausting. So I have no healthy sexual outlet. I don't enjoy sex unless it's in a safe and secure relationship. I'm glad I'm not alone. I destroyed a relationship with my ex (kinda glad I burned that bridge) because I wanted to have sex and would get angry as hell if he didn't come through. I would rather not get it all than wait for a convient time for my f**k buddy.



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17 Jun 2013, 1:15 am

well as you see im trying to lower my libido cause honestly I like to be able to not think about getting some all the time it is a horrible feeling cause then I get angry and mad cause im not getting any...If I could I would do it every day all day but my bf cant keep up and has a very low libido.We normally do it whenever he watches porn and well that is okay but it feels like forever before I get laid so I tried this I go and masturbate three times a day and sometimes it help I just want a proven method that works cause it driving me nuts



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22 Jun 2013, 9:38 pm

release_the_bats wrote:
I'm looking for simple, natural ways to decrease my sex drive. Ideally, I'd like to get rid of it completely yet be able to allow it to return when and if the time is right.


I don't know why you would want to do that, but take lots of antidepressants. That stuff is a sure fire way to wreck your sex drive. :(



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25 Jun 2013, 5:18 am

I want to find non-prescription ways to lower mine too. I just got married to this great guy and we have sex 3 to 5 times a week, but still my drive is way past his. It's not uncommon for me to ask him to get arrested for public indecency with me.

Maybe I can convince him to have an open marriage? As long as I get my housechores done and get to work on time... why not? I'd prefer being monogamous but at the same time there are things I want that he won't give.
Geez if I could afford a therapist.



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26 Jun 2013, 8:28 pm

Not sure if it is ok for a man to post here or not, However I have a friend of mind who is a teen girl and she is a 3rd degree thai chi. She has such good self control that when she gets turned on she can simply ignore it. And then when she gets a bf she goes crazy. I think that if you were to look into an art of self discipline you could do it well. Similar to monks and nuns who pray alot i think yoga or thai chi (as it is also a meditative martial art) would help you greatly.



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26 Jun 2013, 10:33 pm

zarok wrote:
Not sure if it is ok for a man to post here or not, However I have a friend of mind who is a teen girl and she is a 3rd degree thai chi. She has such good self control that when she gets turned on she can simply ignore it. And then when she gets a bf she goes crazy. I think that if you were to look into an art of self discipline you could do it well. Similar to monks and nuns who pray alot i think yoga or thai chi (as it is also a meditative martial art) would help you greatly.




Yeah there are things online about Eastern thought and sex drive and how people use visualizations of moving their energy up from "down there" into their upper body and mind to stop being horny and instead be really mentally creative.

There is this intense "creative energy" thing and our brains are really poetic and can take pretty much anything and make it about sex, and I think people can have all that energy and think they can only use it on sex. If you're really stupid then you could end up a slave to your sex organs, but if you're intellectually superior, you could find all kinds of ways to metaphorically "make it" with other people. Right now I'm so creative and so intellectually superior that I can visualize the world as one gigantic beautiful complex act of sex, or like one of those French Gothic cathedrals, and then I can say love is all about sex and sex is all love without lying at all. It relieves the tension. Lennon and I get this, but I understand its possible this may not work for everyone because they aren't smart enough.

OK so first you have to accept that the drive is there, then you accept that it is OK and you are not perverted, then if it won't hurt you or anyone else you should enjoy it a little (that's the tricky part though because people get hurt a lot about it because they have attachment issues (which makes no sense to me, but whatever!)), and then you have to move on and decide what to do with "all the extra." You have to be specific about it too. You can't just say you aren't going to masturbate with it. You have to reformat it. And if you could do this very well you could do more great things that other people admire, and then go home and really love yourself completely because even something that primitive and beastly inside you can be turned into good and help other people. ;)



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28 Jun 2013, 1:11 pm

I'm having more success concentrating with tai chi, but Yoga is more difficult. I can't sit still. Also I think if I went to a class, everyone would expect me to be good at it since I'm naturally skinny and look the part. That's what happened when I tried Zumba with my mom.