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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Meltdown help/advice |
| UnturnedStone |
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Posted: 12 Sep 2019, 8:55 pm
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| Every time I take just a few days off in a row it reminds people how much I do. As well as how well I do it. When I had to care for someone I asked for and received special hours that allowed me to go home in the middle of the day. I somehow managed to get everything done. Both at work and at home.... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Meltdown help/advice |
| UnturnedStone |
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Posted: 12 Sep 2019, 8:46 pm
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| I cannot have the time. Doing so would end my 18 year career and bankrupt me. I'm stuck. Not doing so may ultimately have the same consequences. If not this time, maybe the next time, maybe the time after that. I've been in this situation of having made a rod for my own back quite a few times in va... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Meltdown help/advice |
| UnturnedStone |
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Posted: 12 Sep 2019, 6:26 pm
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kraftiekortie wrote: That’s good news. Are they renovating the office or something?
In Australia we have 4 breaks a year rather summer break and I work for an organisation that follows this structure as when schools are closed we have no business. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Meltdown help/advice |
| UnturnedStone |
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Posted: 12 Sep 2019, 5:52 pm
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| I understand it's hard to take sick days, and that it would look bad if you took sick days. When is your next scheduled vacation? There isn't one. I work through my vacation and have for years as there is always heaps for me to do, and have about 6 months of leave built up I am unable to take. Befo... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Meltdown help/advice |
| UnturnedStone |
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Posted: 12 Sep 2019, 11:47 am
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| I don't know anything about Australian labor laws as they pertain to overtime. In the US, if you work in any sort of "professional" capacity, they don't have to pay you for overtime. If you work hourly, they are required to pay you for overtime. They are required to pay OT they just don't... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Meltdown help/advice |
| UnturnedStone |
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Posted: 12 Sep 2019, 11:44 am
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| When I am near burnout, I need sleep. A lot of it. Do you have sick days you can use? If you were able to stay home a day or two, would you be able to rest? sleep or read trashy novels or whatever your interest is? I would let your wife help you. It is probably good for her mental health to have a ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Meltdown help/advice |
| UnturnedStone |
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Posted: 12 Sep 2019, 11:32 am
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I'm going to force myself to go to bed.
I will check back tomorrow, thanks to everyone who took the time to comment. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Meltdown help/advice |
| UnturnedStone |
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Posted: 12 Sep 2019, 11:01 am
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| Hi, I don't know your situation but when I feel like the way you seem to describe I need time. Time to let whatever is overwhelming and confusing me wash through me like a wave and not make any major decisions until my brain has caught up a bit. That's pretty much how I feel, but I cannot have the ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Meltdown help/advice |
| UnturnedStone |
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Posted: 12 Sep 2019, 10:55 am
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| If I were you I’d put a big sign on the door of your office saying “please knock before entering”, and a big “no touch” sign next to the light switch. I had actually done that in the past. Someone complained it was offensive and I was ordered to take it down. It wasn't offensive in the slightest. T... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Meltdown help/advice |
| UnturnedStone |
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Posted: 12 Sep 2019, 10:50 am
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Replies: 32
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kraftiekortie wrote: What's happening with your pay?
It's a long story I don't have the energy for the full version right now, the short version is they want me to do more overtime and can't / won't commit to paying me for it despite me being the only one able to do the work. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Meltdown help/advice |
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Posted: 12 Sep 2019, 10:32 am
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Replies: 32
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| How about if it's your very favorite song in your very favorite genre? I honestly wouldn't know what that was right now. Things don't seem to be bringing the same level of comfort they used to. I will also need to be in meetings and around people all day tomorrow, will be very little time on my own... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Meltdown help/advice |
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Posted: 12 Sep 2019, 10:10 am
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| Sorry to hear about your wife. If you have been there that long can you stim without bothering anyone? I've been looping music as a stim at work. Thanks. I do stim in my office behind closed door, but I feel like I'm going down hill so fast I'm going to melt down or lose control of my stims which w... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Meltdown help/advice |
| UnturnedStone |
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Posted: 12 Sep 2019, 10:07 am
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| At least she's strong enough to offer support to you--even amid her own issues. That's a plus. I know what you mean. I've been on my job 39 years (this November), and I've never been promoted. I'm sort of treated as a tenderfoot, too LOL I'm fortunate that I'm retiring in 3 1/4 years. The condescen... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Meltdown help/advice |
| UnturnedStone |
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Posted: 12 Sep 2019, 9:19 am
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| I know what you mean. Do you have strategies in place when you do get the "urge" to do all which you've described? I doubt that you have an "en suite" bathroom in your office. If you do, then it would be advantageous. Yeah....that's the thing. Being in an office is a royal pain ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Meltdown help/advice |
| UnturnedStone |
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Posted: 12 Sep 2019, 9:07 am
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Replies: 32
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| Don't guilt trip yourself over stimming, sounds like you need the release. Is your wife likely to get better soon or is it a long term situation? She has an un diagnosed mental illness, they haven't been able to work it out in 4 years and many different psychologists and pyscatrists, she is constan... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Meltdown help/advice |
| UnturnedStone |
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Posted: 12 Sep 2019, 9:05 am
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Replies: 32
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| It's good that you've come here. I remember you as a steady poster about 1-2 years ago, and perhaps longer ago than that. No, it would not be good if you've lost your job. I'm sorry your wife is unwell. It's very stressful when you have to take care of a person who is unwell. I would say----that if... |
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