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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: abusive or Aspergers? |
| baconessa85 |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2015, 9:09 am
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| yes, these comments ARE helping me process the situation as well as see that AS is not automatically abusive. Someone mentioned comorbid conditions, which may explain the behavior I witnessed in my exes and my mother. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: abusive or Aspergers? |
| baconessa85 |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2015, 9:07 am
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| I do not have AS or any other mental condition. A psychologist ruled out my having anything. However, I WAS indeed impacted by my abusive childhood, leading me to accept abusive behavior. I have now firmly decided to never again accept such treatment. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: abusive or Aspergers? |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2015, 8:32 am
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| yes, I know this is an AS forum. I came to find out if the behavior my exes exhibited was indeed abusive or something I should have accepted because I DID accept it for a long time, thinking it was part of the condition and that their behavior wasn't abuse even if it caused me severe distress. One o... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: abusive or Aspergers? |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2015, 8:29 am
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| you know, it's funny, but w the last ex, one who assaulted me, I had strong doubts he was really AS, even though he said he was formally diagnosed. I thought he was something other than AS. But since he had been diagnosed as such by a professional, I thought I was mistaken AND somehow required to ac... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: abusive or Aspergers? |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2015, 6:24 am
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| @Marcia, to clarify: the psychiatrist who shrugged it off was NOT the psychiatrist he was seeing when he tried to kill me. He WAS hospitalized after one of those attempts and then threatened me via calls from the hospital to not say what REALLY happened. My AS mother also screamed and blamed ME for ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: abusive or Aspergers? |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2015, 6:19 am
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| dcj123, this "the fact he wanted an open relationship equals something someone would say who only cares about themselves not something someone with autism would say" is very interesting and something I had no idea how to view. Thanks for clarifying this as well. He made ME feel bad for not... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: abusive or Aspergers? |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2015, 6:08 am
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@kraftiekortie, ah, comorbid w AS makes it clearer to me. I have read about the comorbid aspect and that may be what I experienced.
Oh yes, I am determined to NEVER be in an abusive relationship again. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: abusive or Aspergers? |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2015, 6:01 am
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| 8) dcj123, thank you VERY much for your examples. That clarifies a lot to me. My ex assaulted me only the times I described above BUT was emotionally abusive the entire time after. This now makes me think that he may have assaulted me out of a basic disregard for others, and he must have been simply... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: abusive or Aspergers? |
| baconessa85 |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2015, 5:24 am
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I might need a mod to keep me in line here cause I know this is a family friendly site but why in the HELL would you do this?"
I was sexually abused as a child and, at the time, accepted such behavior.
and wow, I am NOT/ a troll. This ALL really happened |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: abusive or Aspergers? |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2015, 5:18 am
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| Also, I WAS raised by an AS parent who violently abused me. Over the course of my life, I have been abused by three AS individuals, two of whom insisted to me their behavior is legitimate. Is it so surprising I would want to know the opinion of OTHER people w AS? and I corrected my profile. I meant ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: abusive or Aspergers? |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2015, 5:04 am
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| also, I accepted one of my ex's behavior, the one who tried to kill me, because his psychiatrist told me it's his condition. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: abusive or Aspergers? |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2015, 5:00 am
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| I'm surprised my profile says diagnosed. I must have chosen the wrong tab. Also, there are many many articles discussing overlap between AS and Narcissism. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: abusive or Aspergers? |
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Posted: 30 Oct 2015, 9:12 pm
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| I'm not AS but definitely have a high level of trust. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: abusive or Aspergers? |
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Posted: 30 Oct 2015, 5:20 pm
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| bfs I had before these two were neither AS nor abusive, though no walk in the park either |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: abusive or Aspergers? |
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Posted: 30 Oct 2015, 4:42 pm
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| Hello, I posted some time ago about an ex of mine, who is diagnosed AS. He broke up w me a month ago and the breakup caused me severe distress. As time went by, I'm starting to wonder if the behavior I previously accepted in him is abusive or his condition. 1) on our second date he slammed me agains... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: will my boyfriend come back? |
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Posted: 30 Sep 2015, 8:24 pm
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Funny, but I suspected he may be BPD. Alexythimia sounds about right.
Re thinking "at least he's not killing me." No, when it's good w him, I feel genuinely happy |
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