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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT in love with an Aspie - what are my chances? |
| morpheus316 |
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Posted: 06 Sep 2010, 9:57 pm
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| He didn't CHOOSE divorce: she did. Saving the marriage was so important to him, he threw me to the alligator and hoped it would eat him last. It didn't work. That isn't his fault, or mine. I wrote about what he did to save his marriage -- and what I did to assist -- in another post. Read it. I doub... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT in love with an Aspie - what are my chances? |
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Posted: 06 Sep 2010, 8:33 pm
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| What I was trying to say is that because he is an aspie, that's going to affect the way he handles the fallout because of how differently aspies process things from the way neurotypicals do. I guess that's the overriding piece of advice I can give this poor lady -- he's going to process and handle ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT in love with an Aspie - what are my chances? |
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Posted: 06 Sep 2010, 8:09 pm
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| P.S. Dovetailing all of that is that with aspies, it's very often better the devil you know than the devil you don't. That's probably why he couldn't end his prior relationship even though he probably should have (similar for me as well) -- he had no reassurance that he'd be going to something wher... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT in love with an Aspie - what are my chances? |
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Posted: 06 Sep 2010, 8:04 pm
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| I don't think the OP was asking for a discussion on ethics. She just wanted some advice on how to go about approaching this guy. It's not our job to make judgment. We don't know the full story. That's exactly my point, @Pandoran-March, we don't know the full story. But it seems like @Morpheus316 ha... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT in love with an Aspie - what are my chances? |
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Posted: 06 Sep 2010, 7:44 pm
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| Don't get me wrong. I think aspies are just as capable of anybody else of honoring their marriage vows. Even neurotypicals hit points in marriages where it is simply not healthy to continue nor should they continue. In this particular case, the marriage had hit that point where even for a neurotypi... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT in love with an Aspie - what are my chances? |
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Posted: 06 Sep 2010, 7:30 pm
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| P.S. Dovetailing all of that is that with aspies, it's very often better the devil you know than the devil you don't. That's probably why he couldn't end his prior relationship even though he probably should have (similar for me as well) -- he had no reassurance that he'd be going to something wher... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT in love with an Aspie - what are my chances? |
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Posted: 06 Sep 2010, 7:05 pm
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| Wow, sounds like this'd make a good movie. You're both worlds beyond my experience, but I'd at least stay in touch and let it bake for the time being. If this camo-aspie is anything like me, he's more reactionary and may even want you to initiate getting on closer terms. Or it may be too soon. I re... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT in love with an Aspie - what are my chances? |
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Posted: 06 Sep 2010, 6:17 pm
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| pandoran, thanks for this statement: " I would just make sure you're being clear in what you want. If you're not that can really mess with an Aspie." I gave my Aspie hella mixed messages (out of frustration, anger, disappointment, rejection, etc...) and you are absolutely right- it messed with his ... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Fired for Unintentional Intimidation |
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Posted: 06 Sep 2010, 4:14 pm
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Replies: 11
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| I was fired recently from a job with no notice because 2 women in the company complained, one in the office, one was a colleague in another office. Further a female manufacturer's rep complained about me. I did my best to be the perfect gentleman, yet be candid about the really nasty sales situatio... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT in love with an Aspie - what are my chances? |
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Posted: 06 Sep 2010, 3:25 pm
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| Hello everyone - I need advice. I'll keep the story as simple as I can. 14 years ago, I (NT female) had a relationship with the most incredible man I have ever known. I would have done whatever it took to stay with him, but he didn't understand that, and I didn't understand that he didn't understan... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Fired for Unintentional Intimidation |
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Posted: 06 Sep 2010, 2:16 pm
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| Not asking you to give details about what the content of their complaints were, but sounds like complaining to the EEOC is the best move you have at this point (presuming your employer knew about your AS before this happened). Many companies are paranoid about sexual harassment claims, and I know s... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Fired for Unintentional Intimidation |
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Posted: 06 Sep 2010, 1:55 am
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| I was fired recently from a job with no notice because 2 women in the company complained, one in the office, one was a colleague in another office. Further a female manufacturer's rep complained about me. I did my best to be the perfect gentleman, yet be candid about the really nasty sales situation... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Aspies in the Healing Arts |
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Posted: 18 Mar 2010, 3:52 pm
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| Hi, I just recently passed the last tests in CA to become a hearing aid dispenser. I've job shadowed a bit and helped out on cases and it's seemed to fit. I'm curious if there are any other aspies out there who like myself are in the healing arts (medicine, nursing, dentistry/dental hygene, etc.) an... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Aspies as Parents |
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Posted: 02 Dec 2009, 1:29 am
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| well... My mom is informally AS, granted my brother and I are formally AS, it's highly likely. anyways, it drove her crazy, but she got through it with 5 kids and has been married for 28 years. Her biggest thing to always say is that love is a choice, you marry someone because you have chosen to lo... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Aspies as Parents |
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Posted: 01 Dec 2009, 1:19 am
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| Hey y'all, I'm a newly minted parent who just happens to be an aspie (Informally diagnosed 15 years ago). The stress my kid is putting on the relationship between me and my wife is incredible. He drives me up the wall so fast its not even funny and she needs emotional support that I can't give witho... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Are Aspies awkward in bed? |
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Posted: 18 Aug 2008, 9:36 pm
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| I never thought twice about it...then again I never did an aspie...at least not one that I knew about. |
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