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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Frustrated male NT in love with AS male |
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Posted: 23 Sep 2007, 7:25 pm
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| Yes, I know that he's gay. He's not out, and doesn't like to talk about it, but yes, I know he's gay. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Frustrated male NT in love with AS male |
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Posted: 23 Sep 2007, 4:24 pm
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Replies: 25
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| Thanks anyway -- really appreciate it! |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Frustrated male NT in love with AS male |
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Posted: 22 Sep 2007, 6:46 pm
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| No, he's not big on physical contact, but many times, he initiates the hug, not me. In the 5+ years that I've known him, he's only been in 1 relationship, but he says he's had more. I know that one ended because the other guy felt like they were going nowhere and that my friend wasn't opening up to ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Frustrated male NT in love with AS male |
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Posted: 22 Sep 2007, 5:53 pm
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| shadexiii, that's a possibility. He may be scared. Don't worry, it doesn't give me false hope. We give each other a "friend hug" before we part ways most of the time, and I remember one time I held on a second too long, and he freaked out. Of course, that doesn't mean he likes me more than a friend,... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Frustrated male NT in love with AS male |
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Posted: 22 Sep 2007, 4:08 pm
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| Now that you mentioned the letter/writing idea, it made me realize -- he's not interested. Over the past couple of years, I have sent him an e-mail or two explaining my feelings towards him. He never responded (something he tends to do when I e-mail him a personal note). So, that really answers my q... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Frustrated male NT in love with AS male |
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Posted: 22 Sep 2007, 9:53 am
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| Once, I asked him about the dating possibility, and he said "no." But, he said no because he's had a bad experience dating someone who was a friend before. I can understand that, but it doesn't keep me from thinking about him all of the time. Realistically, I should just be happy with our friendship... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Frustrated male NT in love with AS male |
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Posted: 21 Sep 2007, 4:00 pm
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Replies: 25
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| Hmmm ... good question. He knows how I feel about him, but I don't know if I've ever just brought up "my feelings." I guess I'm a little scared to do that, afraid that I will totally be shut down. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Frustrated male NT in love with AS male |
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Posted: 21 Sep 2007, 3:37 pm
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| This has definitely been the toughest experience in my life: being a male NT, in love with a gay (but not out) AS male. The tough part is, I think he loves me, too (definitely as a friend, but I think more). Although we see each other and go out regularly, take trips together, laugh together, share ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Friend has AS, don't know what to do |
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Posted: 27 Jan 2006, 5:47 pm
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Replies: 17
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| Druid, you are so right. Thanks for the advice. I'm just going to sit back and be a friend, that's all I can do. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Friend has AS, don't know what to do |
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Posted: 26 Jan 2006, 12:02 pm
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| Well, I did it. He opened up a little bit to me last night and we talked -- not as deeply as I would have liked. We were talking about romantic relationship troubles he's going through. Like I said, we didn't get too deep into it, but deeper than we normally get. So when I got home, I sent him an em... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Friend has AS, don't know what to do |
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Posted: 23 Jan 2006, 12:27 am
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Replies: 17
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| OK, after spending time with my aspie friend tonight, I figured out what bothers me the most: the lying (as discussed previosuly). For example, I have a friend that saw my aspie friend at his store the other day, but my aspie friend totally denies that he was there. It's no big deal, but he was ther... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Friend has AS, don't know what to do |
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Posted: 22 Jan 2006, 5:05 pm
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| Sounds like you're right. Honestly, part of it is my problem -- I feel like a big brother to him in some ways and I guess I want to be the "hero", the one that helps him break down those walls. But when I think about that, that's really selfish, because I'm doing it more for my peace of mind than hi... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Friend has AS, don't know what to do |
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Posted: 21 Jan 2006, 12:53 pm
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| Thanks for the advice. Patience is the key here then. Groovy, you bring up some great points -- I'm wondering now if he even knows he's an aspie or not -- I just assumed he did. Lurker, my friend says he doesn't like to get too personal with people because he feels "vulnerbale," just like you were s... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Friend has AS, don't know what to do |
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Posted: 20 Jan 2006, 7:17 pm
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| I'm near 30, and one of my best friends that I've known for over 5 years has AS -- I'm 99% sure. I love him as a friend, but he holds up a wall that he won't let anyone, including me, his best friend, get through. I invite him out with my friends, but he only wants to do things one-on-one. I can't t... |
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