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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help with explaining ASD to my partner - long rambling post! |
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Posted: 08 Mar 2012, 5:28 pm
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Replies: 10
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| So basically everything you think is right and everything he does & says is wrong and he is trying to control your entire life? In which case why are you on here looking for advice when if what you say is true, you should have left him a long time ago. You've also taken my 'sponging' comment co... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help with explaining ASD to my partner - long rambling post! |
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Posted: 08 Mar 2012, 4:28 pm
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| It might be fairly common for couples in long-term relationships to go without sex for 7 days, but I'm not sure that I would call it reasonable. If I reached the only-once-a-week point in a relationship or marriage, I'd definitely feel unfulfilled, if not to say unloved. I think this might be the m... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: What kind of jobs can someone with Asperger's get? |
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Posted: 08 Mar 2012, 7:22 am
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Replies: 82
Views: 42,132
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| One of my jobs is working for a company that does filing solutions, file transfers and office moves. It's usually merging and restructuring big filing systems. Like, if there are 100 doctors surgeries, and each of them keeps all their patient records at their own surgery, then they decide to central... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: What should I do? |
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Posted: 08 Mar 2012, 6:56 am
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Replies: 4
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| Company work days out can be stressful. People who communicate mostly on a work level are suddenly forced to attempt communication on a social/personal level and it makes lots of people feel uncomfortable, not just people with ASDs. Your boss already said you all didn't have to go if you didn't want... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Should I tick the disability box on application? |
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Posted: 08 Mar 2012, 6:45 am
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Replies: 26
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| I wonder about this when applying for jobs too. Until a year or two ago I was continuously self employed, so it wasn't ever an issue. When I ceased self employment and started applying for jobs, I wasn't sure what box to tick... Sometimes employers like people with very minor 'disabilities' because ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help with explaining ASD to my partner - long rambling post! |
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Posted: 08 Mar 2012, 5:17 am
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| These problems have not started recently or just after I got my diagnosis, they've been there almost right from the beginning. The first time we went out on a date, I told him I never wanted to get married and I never wanted to have kids. He said he was the same and specifically referenced his two e... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help with explaining ASD to my partner - long rambling post! |
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Posted: 07 Mar 2012, 12:56 pm
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| Hi everyone. I don't want general advice on dealing with relationships, I want help with explaining how my brain works differently from most other people, within the context of my current relationship. I'm female, 38, always knew I most likely had some form of ASD but didn't get diagnosed till recen... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: To what degree can I cope with my ASD? |
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Posted: 27 Jun 2011, 8:04 am
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Replies: 7
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| Tai Chi is very good for improving your coordination and balance. So is yoga. Actually, just about any kind of physical exercise is good for improving coordination and balance, but if you are REALLY clumsy, it's sometimes difficult to find something you can start to learn without feeling like a comp... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Problems with personal choice/preference. |
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Posted: 27 Jun 2011, 7:54 am
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Replies: 7
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| I have this. It;s usually not a problem unless other people are around waiting for me to decide, then it's ALWAYS a problem. It is exhausting though if I'm in a terrible environment like a supermarket and can't decide between two kinds of soup and am stalled there more or less against my will for 1... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Calling all teen and older Aspies...help me help my child! |
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Posted: 27 Jun 2011, 7:37 am
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Replies: 40
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| If I were you, I'd try hard to get together with other home schoolers and arrange to run small group classes so he will get at least some chance to mix with other kids. Home schooling can be great but for kids who aren't naturally sociable and don't already have a good circle of friends, it can be v... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What is highest frequency you hear in the following link? |
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Posted: 27 Jun 2011, 7:23 am
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Replies: 80
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| I could hear them all right up to 22khz but like someone else said, above 19khz it's more like 'feeling' them than hearing them. I often hear noises like that, and when I say something about it, the other people with me can't hear them. But I often struggle to hear people talking when they're right ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Melt Down vs Shut down |
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Posted: 27 Jun 2011, 6:49 am
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| No idea about meltdowns. I don't know if what happens to me would qualify as a shutdown, but it seems pretty close. My mind goes blank, the stuff people are saying ceases to go in, I cease to respond, and I just don't know how to describe it at the time, or what to do about it.....I just want to ge... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Ok, I'm confused. Can you explain this? |
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Posted: 22 Jun 2011, 9:45 am
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Replies: 31
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| True, there are many definitions of 'success in life'. However the original poster did not express a desire to be either a millionaire rap artist or a shack dwelling hermit. He expressed a desire to obtain a job that related to his qualification in mechanical engineering, which kind of narrows down ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: NT son learning to be autistic from AS dad? |
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Posted: 22 Jun 2011, 9:34 am
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Replies: 15
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| If your son truly is NT and gifted, I'd imagine that an open and calm chat about why he should try not to copy your more 'undesirable' mannerisms would be very helpful. If he's intelligent and has good language skills, you should be able to explain to him in a way that he can easily understand, that... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: What are your favorite books? |
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Posted: 21 Jun 2011, 8:40 am
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Replies: 19
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| Have you read the rest of the Ender saga? The immediate follow-up to Ender's Game is amazing. It's called Speaker for the Dead. I didn't think the rest of them were all that great though. It seemed to me like he just kept writing more and more of them to make more money, but he ran out of decent ide... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Aspies are a pain to talk to |
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Posted: 21 Jun 2011, 8:08 am
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Replies: 54
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| Look, I'm not making myself really popular by saying all these things, but I can't hold it in anymore. I suspect a lot of the folks who got a diagnosis in childhood received a double-edged gift- they received support for AS and were lucky enough to know why they were different, but were never chall... |
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