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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: i think my boyfriend possibly has autism or aspergers?? HELP |
| DeeDee27 |
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Posted: 19 Sep 2011, 10:29 am
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Replies: 7
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| Everyone is different. For example, my boyfriend has been diagnosed for over ten years. He can keep eye contact and is very social (he has LOTS of friends). He does, however, get very anxious in social situations. Also, I agree with the routine, thing. He tends to make lists. This helps him greatly.... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: need help from an aspie, please... |
| DeeDee27 |
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Posted: 19 Sep 2011, 10:21 am
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Replies: 20
Views: 3,253
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| I've come to figure that out, haha! SPECIFICS. Got it. That book I was talking about is AMAZING. It's funny how something small like that can make all the difference. He agrees as well. He even thanked me for making the effort and says he can tell a difference because I wait to pay attention to how ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: need help from an aspie, please... |
| DeeDee27 |
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Posted: 13 Sep 2011, 4:04 pm
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Replies: 20
Views: 3,253
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that's because he is worth it.
and because i believe that, since he has to be "on" all the time
when communicating with people, it is much easier for me
(and less stress for him) if i learn to speak "Aspie" than for
him to speak "NT"
and thank you for the good luck wishes!! ! |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: At what stage in a relationship.... |
| DeeDee27 |
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Posted: 13 Sep 2011, 2:57 pm
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Replies: 44
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| I don't know, but I'm an NT and that was the first thing that my bf told me. and... I didn't really believe him at first either. He's very popular and has lots of friends. He is also very comfortable in social situations. I was glad he told me right away, though. There have been some situations late... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: need help from an aspie, please... |
| DeeDee27 |
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Posted: 13 Sep 2011, 2:39 pm
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Replies: 20
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| hey... Well, everything is far from perfect,but it DID get better! I read the "22 things you should know" book that someone suggested and it made a world of difference. He also read it and REALLY likes it. It helped A LOT. The phone call situation is pretty much ok, too. Now if I want him to call, I... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: need help from an aspie, please... |
| DeeDee27 |
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Posted: 12 Aug 2011, 6:48 pm
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Replies: 20
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| Thank you everyone! I don't know why we both didn't think of the skype idea sooner! That's brilliant. I am also looking into the books as well. I can't remember who commented something about it being unilateral instead of taking us both to work on it? I think you may have misconstrued it as he is wo... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Talk about yourself for a bit |
| DeeDee27 |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2011, 5:42 pm
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Replies: 1,451
Views: 511,488
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swbluto wrote: I don't see the point in talking about myself, honestly. Who even reads this?
1148 people apparently.
oh, make that 1149. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: need help from an aspie, please... |
| DeeDee27 |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2011, 5:15 pm
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Replies: 20
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| Fnord: 2. that's the reason that I am here, I need help in finding out where I am going wrong with communicating to him. In other words, I wish there was an NT-->Aspie translator. :) AsteroidNap : YES... He is trying as well. I know it is difficult for him too. I DO give him much more leeway than an... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Should I be concerned that I can't truthfully really say.... |
| DeeDee27 |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2011, 4:27 pm
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Replies: 15
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| mine says that I am generous and sweet and treat him wondefully... and that he is happy when spending time with me, going out, and having deep discussions about nuclear science. He told me the same thing, that he can't feel "love" like that. I told him that IS love. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: need help from an aspie, please... |
| DeeDee27 |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2011, 4:23 pm
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Replies: 20
Views: 3,253
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| This is quite long, I apologize, but I REALLY need help! I just joined this site because I am seriously confused. I've read some of the "being in love" with an aspie type of discussions. I'm an NT and just don't know what to do anymore. I'm completely enamored with an aspie man. He says he loves me ... |
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