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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Overqualified |
| JosefK |
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Posted: 25 Feb 2015, 5:03 pm
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| I recognize a lot of the above. I have temporarily interrupted my studies (with half a year left of my master's degree) because of intense sensory overload. I have moved back in with my parents because of my difficulties. I have been working for years in a so-called distribution center, in which I b... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dealing with break-ups and starting over |
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Posted: 29 Dec 2014, 12:17 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,254
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| I think it's safe to say that we both do not really know how to handle being out in public with other people. I lose all social coordinates, and do not want to be a (forgive me the phrase) "clingy bastard" who only converses with her. In situations such as these, I am torn between being-wi... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Do you ever feel like you can't talk to anyone |
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Posted: 29 Dec 2014, 12:08 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,061
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| I used to (and to an extent still) hate what a linguist once ago called "phatic communication," which is a fancy term for "banal chatter." While I enjoy waxing semi-poetically about philosophy, politics and art, these are all topics that are not that accessible to most people. Si... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dealing with break-ups and starting over |
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Posted: 29 Dec 2014, 11:57 am
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Replies: 12
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| She is not on the spectrum, though I agree with a lot of what you say. We were planning to gradually do more stuff together with other people, but that did not work that well. We precisely sought to overcome immersing ourselves more in the 'social enviroment', but that (again) turned out to be hard.... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dealing with break-ups and starting over |
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Posted: 29 Dec 2014, 11:41 am
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Replies: 12
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| @rdos, exploring NT-type of things was precisely the next step to take. I can handle my AS pretty well, and people would not notice it if I did not tell them. Nevertheless, it is something that affects the way I perceive virtually anything. In the first few weeks of (renewed) dating, we did not tell... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dealing with break-ups and starting over |
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Posted: 29 Dec 2014, 11:31 am
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Replies: 12
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| @kraftiekorte, the problem/luck with clichés is that they are commonly truisms. Since I have no prior experience with such a situation, I was wondering how people regularly deal with heartbreak. Any advice/tips, clichés or not, are therefore more than welcome |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dealing with break-ups and starting over |
| JosefK |
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Posted: 29 Dec 2014, 10:39 am
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Replies: 12
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| @Lazar, could you elaborate on your situation? |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dealing with break-ups and starting over |
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Posted: 29 Dec 2014, 7:56 am
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Replies: 12
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| Dear fellow members, A few days ago, I broke up with my girl-friend for the second time. I have never experienced a heartbreak of this magnitude, and do not know what to do. Let me summarize my story. A few years ago, I fell in love with a girl. We had known each other for a few years, but she consi... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How often do your 'restricted' interests change? |
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Posted: 10 Dec 2014, 2:38 pm
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Replies: 8
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| I have a few life-long interests/preoccupations. Since my early childhood I have been reading avidly. I used to be a fanatic football player until I was 17 years old. I lost my interest in playing football gradually after 10 years. As for other temporary interests: these tend to vary every 3 to 5 ye... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Telling her I like her |
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Posted: 29 Nov 2012, 5:14 pm
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Replies: 14
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| I was not about to 'profess my love', hahaha, just breaking it to her that I find her likeable/cute/charming and see where it goes from there |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Telling her I like her |
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Posted: 29 Nov 2012, 12:43 pm
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Replies: 14
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| Hello, since a few months I have become better acquainted with a girl who studies at the same college as me. Since a few weeks we have started to talk to each other more and more (via Facebook and in 'real life') , and right now I talk to her on a daily basis (with conversations generally lasting fr... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dumped after 4 (great) dates, why? |
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Posted: 14 May 2012, 5:17 pm
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Replies: 96
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| Also, she and I are both students, and relatively poor, so the golddiggingtheory does not make that much sense ;). I had some facebookcontact and phone calls with her, she told me she did not feel 'the spark'. I asked her if she wanted to meet up on a friendly basis, because we have a lot of friendl... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dumped after 4 (great) dates, why? |
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Posted: 12 May 2012, 2:37 pm
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Replies: 96
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| @ ZX_SpectrumDisorder : She asked me why I had such a good memory for certain things, and then I told her the truth, that it was because of my AS. And because of AS, I find it hard not to tell the truth. But we really had friendly chemistry, do you think that, if I asked her if she wanted to be just... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dumped after 4 (great) dates, why? |
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Posted: 12 May 2012, 2:26 pm
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Replies: 96
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@redrobin62 : I saw Adam too, really enjoyed it, but I am vastly different compared to Adam, haha  |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dumped after 4 (great) dates, why? |
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Posted: 12 May 2012, 2:25 pm
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Replies: 96
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| No we did not engage in any sexual activity, and I really don't know if she had any 'plans' . In fact, she just called me , telling me she found me sweet and nice, but that she did not have that romantic 'spark'. So, my second question is: I'd really like to be friends with her, because we have a lo... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dumped after 4 (great) dates, why? |
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Posted: 12 May 2012, 2:12 pm
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Replies: 96
Views: 16,216
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| You mean ; no (sexual) arousal? |
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