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Forum: The Haven Topic: How to get people to accept and respect your answers? |
| Grevesy |
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Posted: 18 Jul 2013, 3:54 am
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Replies: 29
Views: 3,359
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| It sounds like a problem of male entitlement and sexism, more than Aspergian difficulties. The women's discussion area might have more ideas on how to deal with the issue. Have you posted this there yet? Refusal to conform to societal expectations such as marriage and children, which girls are told ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Depression Made Trendy Through Tumblr |
| Grevesy |
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Posted: 17 Jul 2013, 6:53 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 5,738
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| I think it's very sad that young people who are clearly experiencing a lot of mental pain are turning to the internet for support and solidarity, where anyone can see it and judge them for it. Cutting in particular is the result of a complex mental state that is often misunderstood. The people posti... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Jury Duty |
| Grevesy |
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Posted: 17 Jul 2013, 6:31 pm
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Replies: 53
Views: 4,825
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| I did jury service last summer. It lasted a week and a half and was not too bad. I even made friends with another juror. Watching the attendants walking around in their black robes really reminded me of Jedi, haha. It was nice to see justice being done! I got called for two different hearings. The f... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Arms |
| Grevesy |
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Posted: 17 Jul 2013, 6:05 pm
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Replies: 39
Views: 5,700
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| Oh I know that feeling! Luckily I have always fidgeted a lot and have some 'usual' stims (biting nails etc) that keep my hands and arms busy. And I do love pockets. Hoodies are the best. When I'm not thinking or fidgeting, my arms fold up by my side and my hands hang loose. It's hard to describe. If... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I hate exercising |
| Grevesy |
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Posted: 17 Jul 2013, 5:48 pm
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Replies: 20
Views: 2,396
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| benh72, I wish I had your determination. I am terrible at sports and my stamina is embarrassingly low. My co-ordination is bad with most sports and I always hated doing sports in school because I was always the weird person told to go stand really far away so that no-one would have to play with me. ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Traits that bring complaints |
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Posted: 16 Jul 2013, 6:30 am
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Replies: 15
Views: 1,952
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| Things like my constant movement annoy some people, who say it makes them nervous. I am very disorganised. I lose something important (phone, wallet, travel ticket etc) every time I go away. Those who know me now just take care of my things for me if I'm getting stressed. It's more of a, "Oh, not ag... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Raves |
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Posted: 16 Jul 2013, 6:00 am
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Replies: 610
Views: 179,195
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| I love animals so much. I saw a lot of dogs at the weekend, all shapes and sizes. They were so cute. I only got to pet one though, a crossbreed chihuahua/jack russell only a few weeks old! One day I will get a dog, when I have the time, money and location to do so. A big breed that I can cuddle and ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I just don't know what to do? |
| Grevesy |
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Posted: 16 Jul 2013, 5:36 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 711
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| Thanks for your understanding, guys. The situation this morning is that my mom's partner has left the house for a few days. He left after smashing a mug he got on their last holiday together, but I'm not sure if it means anything. I've cleared up the broken pieces so nobody steps on them but it was ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: when stimming |
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Posted: 16 Jul 2013, 3:54 am
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Replies: 14
Views: 1,613
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| I tend not to notice I've started, but sometimes I get a compulsion to stim which I'm aware of. I usually only become aware of my stress-related ones and let myself continue because they help with it! But if I'm feeling insecure or embarrassed I can switch to a less noticeable stim. One of my main s... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Taking things literally, figures of speech, etc. |
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Posted: 16 Jul 2013, 3:42 am
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Replies: 21
Views: 2,622
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| Sometimes I get the feeling there must be some sort of non verbal queue to go along with the figure of speech when people use them which is why NTs are able to understand a phrase despite not hearing it before. Even though I know the correct use of some phrases, when I do try and use them I sometime... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Eye Contact (research question) |
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Posted: 15 Jul 2013, 6:17 pm
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Replies: 30
Views: 3,985
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| I feel very uncomfortable when meeting someone's eyes, even people I have known a long time. However, people want you to look at them when they are talking with you, and not meeting someone's eyes makes you look suspicious. As a result, I tend to look at the bridge of the nose or beneath the eye are... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What do your meltdowns look like? (If you have them) |
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Posted: 15 Jul 2013, 6:08 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 2,698
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| It takes a lot of stress or a sudden surprise to trigger a meltdown for me, as I tend towards a more depressed shutdown instead. But I had a minor meltdown today so I can describe it for you. Today I was also crying while it happened. My head feels like it's going to explode with the pressure and my... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I just don't know what to do? |
| Grevesy |
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Posted: 15 Jul 2013, 5:39 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 711
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| Sorry guys, this post ended up being a lot longer than I expected. I just needed to straighten out my head. I haven't been this stressed in a long time. I recently finished uni and had to leave my student accommodation there and move back to my hometown. Like a lot of graduates, I have had to move i... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Rants |
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Posted: 15 Jul 2013, 4:39 pm
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Replies: 9,562
Views: 734,271
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| Why is everything so difficult? My mom is the best person I know but she has the worst luck. She has so many problems that she tries to hide from us. I wish I could help her and give her some comfort but I'm so unstable myself I can't and if I tried and she finds out how bad I am, that will just cau... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: False accusations and being an aspie |
| Grevesy |
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Posted: 26 Jun 2013, 7:35 am
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Replies: 18
Views: 3,817
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| Luckily this doesn't happen to me too often. As a kid I was a silent loner type, so when kids tried to blame anything on me the teachers could tell it was a lie. At home though, I was blamed for a lot of things by my younger brother and sister. Even when my parents believed me, they would say, "Even... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Accents!? |
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Posted: 25 Jun 2013, 1:39 pm
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Replies: 34
Views: 6,820
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| I mimic other people's accents without even realising it...sometimes I worry that I might be offending them but I can't help it. I think I've read before that it's related to echolalia, but I might be mistaken. I speak a little oddly anyway, but people never believe me when I say I'm from Birmingham... |
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