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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Move to a bigger city? |
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Posted: 19 Nov 2014, 8:57 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 1,501
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| I live in the city and find it benefits me socially. A lot more quirky people live in cities, and with all the people packed together, oddness is much less likely to be noticed. That said, I'm still pretty socially isolated and only have a few friends (none of who I see frequently). It's not all per... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Weddings ... Why? |
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Posted: 27 Oct 2014, 2:01 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 3,850
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| I'm not a big fan of weddings and don't get invited to them that often these days, but I attending find them pretty easy and straightforward compared to other social interactions. They all follow nearly the same script and have clear social rules that come with them. The hardest part about weddings ... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Managing a professional relationship after rejection |
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Posted: 27 Oct 2014, 1:52 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 944
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| Thanks. I won't trust this person anymore and will do my absolute best to do nothing with this person other than make generic polite conversation. I understand this happens in business, but in this particular case the hiring manager was someone I had a positive personal relationship with previously.... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do people ever protest about you being around? |
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Posted: 26 Oct 2014, 5:44 pm
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Replies: 29
Views: 5,924
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| Yes. In elementary school none of the kids would be my partner and I worked on projects by myself. In late elementary and middle school kids would complain, even to teachers sometimes, when they were forced to sit by me at lunch. I ate alone most days. In high school my "friends" had another friend ... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Careers for NVLD |
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Posted: 26 Oct 2014, 5:34 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 10,443
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| I'm glad for your success. I hope this leads to promotions, etc. Do you get good medical benefits? I'm working part time with no benefits, and the business is small enough that there's likely not opportunity for promotion unless it expands. But I am gladl to be working again and not being bullied o... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Managing a professional relationship after rejection |
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Posted: 26 Oct 2014, 5:30 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 944
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| I just got turned down for a dream job in a field I want to break into. It's been really hard to take because of the way the hiring manager turned me down. This person promised to me after I applied that I'd be a contender for the job and said they'd follow up later. I tried to follow up later in pe... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Careers for NVLD |
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Posted: 26 Oct 2014, 4:31 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 10,443
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| Hi, an update. I didn't find Vocational Rehab very helpful. They didn't really understand NVLD and tried to refer me to classic autism-spectrum jobs like computer programming and completely wrong things like elementary school recess monitor. But I ended up finding a job on my own, as an executive as... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Which did you find harder, uni or work? |
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Posted: 08 Jul 2014, 4:36 pm
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Replies: 38
Views: 2,534
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| I found college and graduate school much easier than working. A good uni is a really supportive environment for everyone, and you can tailor your curriculum and major to your strengths. There are accommodations for disabilities that are much easier to get implemented than in a workplace. I had an ea... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Working from home! |
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Posted: 08 Jul 2014, 4:26 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,729
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| I've loved positions where I could work from home. In offices coworkers would interrupt me constantly, often just go gossip and chat, which I found overwhelming, disorienting, and distracting. Working from a quiet environment at home, I'm much more efficient and productive and work much more quickly... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Careers for NVLD |
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Posted: 04 Jul 2014, 10:46 pm
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Replies: 23
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Cyanide wrote: What do you mean by too awkward to be a janitor?...
Too physically awkward. I'm quite clumsy and have poor coordination. |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Careers for NVLD |
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Posted: 29 Jun 2014, 12:18 pm
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Replies: 23
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| Thank you for your thoughtful posts. I've signed up for vocational rehab and am waiting for an assigned counselor. I'll certainly keep web application programming and medical coding in mind. Another person suggested policy writing to me who I talked to recently. I'd love to also get a private coach ... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Rejected at the speed of light. |
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Posted: 16 Jun 2014, 8:05 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 941
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| I had the same thing happen once, and it was after, upon the interviewing organization's request, I'd begged two supervisors to write me letters of recommendations in a 24 hour time frame! I was pretty peeved. I've also had interviews go well and not get the job. I think it doesn't mean you did poor... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: the older, undiagnosed in childhood Aspie thread |
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Posted: 16 Jun 2014, 1:31 pm
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Replies: 28
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| As a kid people thought something was wrong, but no one knew what. Tested for learning disabilities when I was younger, told I had nothing. Finally at 16 I was diagnosed with Nonverbal Learning Disorder. Back then people didn't want to believe that diagnosis has anything to do with the Autism Spectr... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Disliked by 1-2 people in the social group |
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Posted: 16 Jun 2014, 12:48 pm
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Replies: 7
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| anneurysm I have taken some of these people off my newsfeed, but unfortunately pictures of events still show up when other friends are tagged in them. I don't want to unfollow the actual friends so that I can try to stay in contact in some way. I appreciate your tips, I'll try to plan more individua... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Disliked by 1-2 people in the social group |
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Posted: 15 Jun 2014, 3:42 pm
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Replies: 7
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| I have a lifelong pattern that goes back a very long time, to when I was in junior high, where one or two members of a social group will like me and actively try to include me, 1-2 can't stand me, and the rest are neutral. What typically happens is the few people who hate me are loud enough to keep ... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Where should a HFA kid move in the USA? |
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Posted: 05 Jun 2014, 10:56 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 2,204
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| I was thinking Portland when I read your post, before I even got to your list of cities. It meets all your criteria and is a great place to be. The only thing about Portland is that it doesn't have a lot of jobs. This may not matter if you're just going to school full time but should be a factor if ... |
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