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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is manipulation always bad? |
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Posted: 17 Jun 2014, 4:20 pm
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| Theredcore , what I mean in a larger sense is that whether we sense it consciously or not, wanting power kind of implies that deep down there is a need for it. Also we people may think we read others like an open book or are the ones in power, but the existence of that thought doesn?t still necessa... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is manipulation always bad? |
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Posted: 17 Jun 2014, 6:03 am
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| What if somewhere deep inside you have a tremendous sense of insecurity, and therefore in the process of shunning this feeling a part of your life has turned into a constant game, where a repeated feeling of winning (/something over) and being in charge is needed to cover this ?loser?s wound?? I th... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is manipulation always bad? |
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Posted: 17 Jun 2014, 12:53 am
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| I was only going to say that I go alot more I depth then that. I've said that alot, but it's still difficult to explain. Just if a girl thinks that see isn't sacred and it's more fun; it does NOT mean they are mean people, it does NOT mean that they are sluts who sleep with anyone, it does not mean ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is manipulation always bad? |
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Posted: 17 Jun 2014, 12:47 am
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| Whatever theredcore, you intentionally manipulate people, and on top of it you judge them, based on stupid stereotypes. I could have told you anything about this girl, you would still find a way to twist the truth to fit with your prejudices and beliefs about her. She is NOT the way you describe, a... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is manipulation always bad? |
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Posted: 16 Jun 2014, 11:40 pm
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| 1) you don't know how much time I spend talking with other girls compared to my wife, don't assume things. We are happily married and both of us know that just because you are married, it doesnot mean the rest of the world is magically unattractive. I'm not sure what you mean by this (the part in b... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is manipulation always bad? |
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Posted: 16 Jun 2014, 7:39 pm
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| As I mentioned before (in your other thread), abuse is - unfortunately - a fairly common occurence, you could tell a lot of people that they have been abused and you would probably be correct in many cases. I stand by my statements in your other thread, you classify people according to stereotypes ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is manipulation always bad? |
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Posted: 16 Jun 2014, 7:48 am
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| It's hard to know where the line is between others' private and public thoughts when you're needing to consesly consider rather than it coming naturally. I hope it's ok to ask this. Do you really have no negative feelings (guilt, sadness, shame)? Or are you alexithymic? I feel those emotions on mor... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is manipulation always bad? |
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Posted: 16 Jun 2014, 6:35 am
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| If I am understanding correctly, that means if you go online or read books to develop your social skills with the aim of being better liked, making connections, making a friend, getting or keeping a job, asking for a raise etc you are being manipulative? I feel manipulative reading and trying to ch... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is manipulation always bad? |
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Posted: 16 Jun 2014, 6:24 am
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| Are you a sociopath? I don't think I am, I feel emotions as well as are anyonene else does, I can just logically pick and choose when I want to express them, I've seen no use for sadness, guilt, anger, or jealousy and would only choose touse them if the situation was extremely enough and called for... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is manipulation always bad? |
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Posted: 16 Jun 2014, 5:43 am
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| I suppose a good line comes from Mass Effect 3. "Life is a negotiation. We all want. We all give to get what we want." "Manipulation" is bad when you try and work a person to get something WITHOUT giving something of equivalent value in return...especially if it means bringing undue emotional or so... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is manipulation always bad? |
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Posted: 16 Jun 2014, 5:37 am
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| It's bad to hurt people. Including yourself. So long as it stays enjoyable including for you, doesn't seem like there is anything wrong. Just be careful not to lose yourself from over focusing on others. But why are people saying you manipulate others? Just about everyone past newborn age does to a... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is manipulation always bad? |
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Posted: 16 Jun 2014, 4:58 am
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| So as far as dishonestly goes that's nothing that I go for, neither is yelling, getting angry,I never threatening, or would want to do anything that could cause harm to other people physical or emotion. But I started this thread because in another thread people brought up to me that I manipulate peo... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How I was able to cope with my Aspergers and find a wife. |
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Posted: 15 Jun 2014, 11:48 pm
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| I really don't think a person needs any fancy techniques to get to know another person. It usually just takes genuine interest, and willingness to listen, and willingness to say straight out, "Hey, I'm socially clumsy, if I bother you please tell me," and then to listen to them when they tell you s... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How I was able to cope with my Aspergers and find a wife. |
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Posted: 15 Jun 2014, 1:45 am
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| I went into how I saw everything in all parts of her character, and I showed her why she was struggling in different parts of life. Get help! You actually believe you have power over women . And that what women really want is a man who can see EVERYTHING in all parts of her character. I mean I gues... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How I was able to cope with my Aspergers and find a wife. |
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Posted: 15 Jun 2014, 12:19 am
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| Theredcore. Assuming you are telling the truth, you should sue the therapist who diagnosed you with ASD, the more you talk the more obvious it becomes that you are very manipulative, and not autistic at all. You came here hoping to fool us into buying this product you are talking about, I don't bel... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How I was able to cope with my Aspergers and find a wife. |
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Posted: 14 Jun 2014, 5:59 pm
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| Wouldn't be too hard, actually... If you were to tell them things that are true about pretty much everyone, but seem specific, you might get them to identify with your statements. For example, let's say I make these observations about you: You have a great need for other people to like and admire y... |
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