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Today day actor James Nessbitt came into my college to talk to the class about one of his movie (he was old friends with my film studies teacher). I did not like his arrogent attitude so I decided to do something at the end of the lesson.

What happened was I got him to sign three autographs, I then turned around and walked up to him in an agressive way and said "You think your so much better than everybody else just because your a celebrity" in anger I then threw the signed autographs in his face and said "You waste of space" I walked out of the lecture theatre infront of the whole class. This happened right infront of my film studies teacher.

When I go back to college what can I expect because this litteally happened 5 horus ago.

You may not know who James Nessbitt but he is famous in the UK and is an Irish actor.

'I may have gone overboard, but no, I'm not going to apologize'

Maybe have something like that prepared.

and for a secondary, be prepared to come back with something like

'He is a pompous ass, and no, I'm not going to apologize.'

the one part I might question is the throwing of them in his face. Because it's his personal space. If you had let him see you drop the autographs in the trash, I don't think he or the teacher could have had a reasonable complaint.

I don't think that was a good move on your part. The guy signed 3 autographs for you - doesn't really seem the right behavior for someone as arrogant as you say.

he was just arrogent.

Here is a pic of the celeb

http://www.gettyimages.co.uk/detail/101003330/WireImage

Smug or what?

Probably your film teacher will want to talk with you, ask for an apology, maybe report you for some kind of disruptive behavior for such and such label.

You can play the hand. You can skillfully handle this situation. You can do it alone if need be. However, if you can get someone standing with you, the whole thing will take significantly less energy. Okay, maybe a friend who's a junior or senior within the college, maybe a friend who's somewhat of a political activist (this is all speculative of course, for when I was in college, for a couple of years there, I essentially didn't have any friends, and yes, it was sad, and lonely).

Maybe an Aunt, Uncle, Parent, who respects you, and respects your right to engage in political activism. Again, not that you couldn't handle it yourself, but it's so much easier with someone else, there's the dynamic that it's easier to defend someone else than defend yourself. Plus, if the professor feels the need to 'talk with' you, he or she is likely to be a whole lot more polite, restrained, constructive, everything, if you're sitting there right next to a relative, or any advocate, sitting right there next to your advocate of your own choosing.

That was rude.

Ok, so you weren't a fan of the guy/ didn't like his attitude. ok. Big deal. You don't need to do anything about it.

What you did could technically be classed as assault and must have been incredibly embarrassing for both your teacher (who was trying to treat you all by bringing in a 'celebrity' and your school.

I suggest you grow the hell up and apologise to both your teacher and the guest. Please don't use the 'I have aspergers' card as an excuse for acting like a complete and utter jerk. That's unfair on the rest of us with the condition.

By the way, I have no idea of who Nesbitt is; wouldn't recognise him in the street, so I'm not speaking as a rabid fan or anything. Even if he did happen to think he's a 'big deal', let him. It's not hurting you. If anyone's being arrogant it's you for thinking your 'stance' will have any impact on anyone.

Most probably the film teacher was basking from being in the presence of such a 'famous' person and proud that he or she had pulled off such a 'coup'

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When I went back to college in 1991 for the third (or fourth, depending how I count it) time, I took psychology of women. The textbook was good. The teacher, who was a grad student, merely so-so. At one time, she was bringing in a speaker on domestic violence. She told us that rudeness was not acceptable. She then repeated that, rudeness "not acceptable," almost as if we were children. The guy who ended up giving the speech used to be abusive to his wife and then stopped. So, we can't even challenge the guy? Or, he now expects an award? (I wrote a letter to the teacher, and I didn't attend that day, in part because I had other things going on, and in part because I was put off. The teacher poorly responded to my letter. Frankly, I rather wish I would have said something in the class and walked out. That is, I rather wish I would have been "rude")

I include this because I think this would be an example in which the teacher is somewhat sacrificing the class for the benefit of a guest speaker. And I think it's a glaring enough example that one can see the pattern, that somehow the speaker is being viewed as more important than the class.

(I did eventual graduate from college, with a Bachelor's of Science in psychology. And I had good classes, as well as mediocre classes. And I've even taken additional classes post-bacculaureate status.)

I have dyslexia not aspergers.

you have serious anger issues and mental problems. What you did was COMPLETELY wrong. GET HELP NOW.

If I was your teacher you'd be barred from the class if not expelled.

PS
Why aren't you in jail for breaking that guy's face from your other thread?

Your response was utterly uncalled for. You were more arrogant than the actor.

He deserved what he got. He was acting all smug.

Let me stand up for Jamesy. I'm used to political protest from the first Gulf War (1990-1991) in which it's entirely acceptable to publicly confront or even embarrass a politician.

Now hitting someone, that would be different. But just embarrassing someone? The guy may have been enough of a smug, pompous ass that this was necessary to get his attention.

Furthermore, furthermore, what I learned in poker. Let a medium mistake just be a medium mistake. Don't big-deal-ify it. Just let it be.

That is, maybe you went too light or too heavy on the flop, that fine's, it all becomes part of the feel and texture, it's all good. It's how you play it from here on out.

How exactly was he acting smug? Without knowing that, it's hard to sympathise with your obvious over-reaction.