How do Aspies have feels?

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When I was younger, I thought my fangirl feels were some kind of Asperger's symptom. I later learned that NTs have them. I used to think I was crazy because I would watch TV and then just lie around daydreaming about certain characters getting together (this was before I really used Internet.) However, what I do that I've never heard of is I have stages of feels.

Stage 1: I want them to get together
Stage 2: I daydream a lot about it
Stage 3: I daydream about meeting the actors and befriending them
Stage 4: I daydream about taking a guest spot on the show.
Stage 5: I do research on it or blog.
Stage 6: I feel guilty and worry that my parents will find out and think I'm obsessed. Browser history gets cleared.
Stage 7: I stop watching the show altogether or when others are around and delete blog.
Stage 8: I either regain a subtle interest or lose it
Stage 9: The fandom is forgotten.

I know this is a little complex, but just wondering if I'm the only one.

I would consider that no different than someone playing with toys but in more real life situation.. through the use of imagination.

When I was a teen I would commonly daydream of alternative events in whatever book I had read or movie or even PC game storyline.

I'm 34. I spent many happy hours of my adolescence watching The X-Files. Apparently many others watching it were waiting for Scully and Mulder to get together. This never occured to me. Maybe I just didn't think they'd make a good couple.

Though I don't think I've ever extended characters out from a given work or narrative. I do have moments where a character's actions are, well, out of character, but I put that down to bad writing. And I have identified with certain characters.

I think 'fandom' is an understandable outcome of the experiences and concerns of adolescence and burgeoning adulthood in present society, AS or NT.

Your stages do somewhat mirror my own of interest in a given thing (abstract subject, work of art, artist, person), though I don't think I lose interest. I have certain things that I come back to again and again. I think it's because there's something I'm trying to find in them or get out of them, though I'm not sure what.

I do this as well. Also I get upset if character couples split up. It was really frustrating when I had to wait many seasons for Ross and Rachel to get back together in Friends. I get angry if a film or book doesn't end the way I want it too.

I don't think about meeting characters anymore because I know I wouldn't be able to hold a conversation, but I used to when I was a child. I wanted to meet all the cartoon characters. This sounds really stupid but I was only about 4-5 years old and I dreamt that Bugs Bunny came to my house. I told my mum about this dream because it had been really exciting and I wanted to meet Bugs Bunny for real. She told me that those characters don't really exist and are just animation. I still remember how upset I felt at that time to learn this.