Hi there, I'm new.

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15 Jul 2011, 9:30 am

So this is how I ended up here - Recently I was in a bit of a depression. My friends seemed to all be pulling away, even though they wouldn't say that anything was wrong. My boyfriend thinks I'm unaffectionate and that I don't think before I speak or think about how my actions will make him feel - but I am trying really hard! I have a great job that I really like as an engineer, but sometimes it is almost impossible for me to focus, and while I always do awesome on very technical tasks, other projects that are not so clearly defined are a challenge for me. I feel like I'm a bit of a dissapointment at work, because I was expected to be super smart because of my great grades. It's like I have everything, but it seems like a constant battle to hold onto it all. In the midst of my depression, my boyfriend decided that he thought he knew why I was having trouble and asked if I had ever heard of Aspergers. He found because he was searching for "doesn't pick up on emotional cues" - which apparently, I don't.

I had heard of it, and it was not the first time that someone close to me mentioned it. In college, a friend who worked with kids with learning disabilities told me that she thought I was "just a little bit autistic." I thought that she just thought that, because I was into techinical things and math.

At first I was like, well maybe I have some of the traits... but now I'm obsessively reading everything, and it feels like someone is in my head. At the moment, I can't think of any reason to get a formal diagnoses, so I can't say for sure that I have it, but well, I at least have a lot in common with it. I'm hoping to learn a little more here, and maybe figure out how to deal with some of my relationship issues and possibly even find some people that actually understand the way I think.

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15 Jul 2011, 10:58 am

Well first of all, welcome to WP.
You should find a few answers here.

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15 Jul 2011, 1:08 pm

welcome to wrong planet. I hope you find it interesting and useful. It has certainly helped me. I am a married mother , aged 48, and i am also cold and dont give much affection to my husband, but he is used to it now. its just the way i am.

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15 Jul 2011, 7:03 pm

Hi. Welcome to WrongPlanet.

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