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I myself am 41 years old. I am the mother of a 7 year old child with aspergers named Alan. He is a wonderful little boy and very smart. I am so glad I found this site yesterday and I am spreading the word to all the people involved in my sons care and training. They are excited and will be checking it out also.

Regina

I'm 46, and feel much older. I do not have a formal diagnosis of AS, though I do have formal
diagnoses that support what seems obvious. (to me, at least). Forgive my fear, please. I'm
all too afraid of offence. I tend to say the wrong things, at the wrong time.

D. Y.

I am 34 years old and my common-law husband is 31.Neither one of us has an official diagnoses
as the doctor's could not figure my husband out when he was a child.I myself, I found out I was
supposed to be tested when I had started school but my parents had refused.We have an
8 year old boy who has been officially diagnosed last year(high functioning autistic) and a 6 year old girl who we suspect is an aspie as well.We also have 7 year old and 3 year old NT's.

I'm 31, male, Manchester (UK), self-diagnosed for a grand total of one day.

Before yesterday I was not a happy individual. I make a real effort to try and address the stuff that's wrong with my life, but it grinds me down when everything I try achieves nothing. I'm really conscious that I'm wasting my life - it's been 10 years since I was last in a relationship, and deep down I've got a horrible feeling that I'm going to have a lonely life.

But I've been grinning from ear to ear since I came across this site yesterday; I finally know what's wrong with me, and it feels incredible. It'll be interesting to see how I feel when the euphoria wears off.

I'm 49. I've realized my relationships were likely to be with aspies. one said Iwanted to be treated like a lady. one said i wanted a baby . one said I was gorgeous. one said "i'll go with poor old and leaned on me for everything. I think he was just trying to hard to fit in with society and has now found his own freedom. I'm not sure anything works. I wish the second one had turned into marriage (it was on its way) and the 3rd into common law. Unfortunately i've been raped so i'm bad with relationships.

I am 36 years old. I have been diagnosed with AS for about 5 years. Before that i knew i had AS, but you have to be diagnosed in the Netherlands before they believe you. As far as i can remember people called me strange or weird. So AS pretty much explained everything about my behaviour and a fair deal about my personality. After doing a lot of reading and research i got myself tested. I did not told the psychiatrist what i already knew. The outcome was not a suprise. To be sure, i asked for a second opinion. This also gave the same results. So after spending 30 years in life, i finally found out what was 'wrong' with me.

I am 30 years old and was just diagnosed with Asperger:


You guys may be the only ones who can understand how frustrating this is.

It was hard enough to get diagnosed...but I didn't give up. I got diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome this past Friday. I am an aspie, but I already knew that.

Finding a neuropsychologist to help me is leading me to dead ends.

I'm just venting after spending 5 hours on the phone getting nowhere. Either I get referred to someone else who can't help me...or I love this one, "What is Asperger?"

My Help for others: If you are looking for a diagnosis in the tri-state area (NY, NJ CT) or maybe parts of PA, go to the Cody Center for Autism in Long Island. It was worth my 4 hour drive to get there.

Here's the phone number and they can help you from there: 1-631-632-3070

First they'll send you a questionnaire. Fill it out and send it back. They call you to make an appointment after they evaluate it. Appointments are made only on Fridays and they made one with me within 3-4 weeks. They are very nice and helpful there. If you do not have AS, they said that they help you find out if you qualify under any other PDD (Pervasive Developmental Disorder).

Ugh! There needs to be more resources for adults with AS. Specific therapies and support groups....NOT just for children only.

I'm NOT giving up.

If anyone here is an adult with AS living in or around the Poughkeepsie NY area and is seeing a specialist who is helping them with their AS concerns, please reply. I'm keeping up my search.

Summer

I am new here i am just not finding out what I am and making sense out of 37 years of frustration. I wish that I knew twenty years ago what i found out this week I think that it will change how I deal with NT's from now on

I'm 37. My partner is 42 and we just discovered AS this year. No diagnosis, but there's no real point now. He feels he missed out on a lot in his life-they told him he wasn't intelligent enough for college! (He's one of the smartest people I ever met...)

He's very happy to have a 'label' which allows him to understand why he's had so many difficulties in life...

Hi, I'm new here... I just turned 50 and a week before my 50th birthday, my therapist told me that I have Aspergers. My nephew has it and I believe my father had it. My first reaction was relief and "Now I know what's wrong with me"... But now I'm SCARED about my future.... I currently work in an office where I have to sit in the front desk area and try to concentrate on my tasks. Interruptions are not tolerated very well, and I guess I have been rude to customers, not intentionally. My boss is putting more stress on me; I believe he thinks he can change me. I will have to tell him about my AS and I don't know if I'll have a job much longer. I have worked there 5 years and I must say I'm the only one there who has any concern for details... the rest of them seem to be social butterflies who are there to talk talk talk ... *sigh* .... Anybody else from Michigan??? older like me?

I'm 55 and just figured out like 2 weeks ago that I most likely suffered through something somewhere in the Autism Spectrum all my life. I feel like I've suddenly discovered that I'm not who I thought I was, but it's not a bad thing.

I'm 31, and I did think that I've missed out on Life, at first. Than I've thought about all my Hobbies and Interests that I wouldn't have, if I was out, partying all the time.

32 here, just found out what to call what I've been living with for the past 10-15 years, perhaps longer.

[quote="jdbob"]I'm 49, you know, an old guy.
I'm 48. Who you callin' old?!

My birthday is also November 16, that's creepy, 3 here and how many more? Welcome to the twilight zone. Many born in November too.

But I'm not 33, I'm 46, and have known I was different since I was a kid, but was scared of the idea, so I denied it. When I was a teenager I could accept being exentric.

I would have liked to go to a special school, and have a person that could support me more than my parents could, my father was an aspie, and my mother...., well she was something, they were both depressed.

I heard about it four years ago, I found out for sure two years ago. Selfdiagnosed, luckily I don't need a job, I have a pension due to a spinal deformity. It's a great relief to know who you are, to be here with "my kind of people", to stop trying to be "normal"
more relief than sadness.

I'm so deeply moved by all your stories, life has been very hard on some of us.
I'm still trying to figure out what comes next, for now I do things that makes me happy.
I deserve that.

Oh, yes I do feel younger, I feel like I'm a 12 year old boy in a 46 year old womans body. I miss playing, having no responsibillities, and relate well to kids that age.
Weird, but true.

I'm 32. Ever since I can remember, I've felt that something about me was different, but my difficulties with people seem to have become worse in my adult years. My only theories for that is that perhaps children tend to be more honest and straightforward socially anyway, or that - more likely - I think I assumed for many years that everybody thought more or less like me and it was only later that I realized that they didn't and how different I actually was.

Sometimes it's almost like big parts of me got stuck at about 8 years old. I wondered for a while if I was ret*d.

I'm yet to be officially diagnosed - hoping to get that soon. All the online tests I've tried say that it's 'very likely' I have some degree of AS. Eighty percent of what I've read about it just seems to fit with me.