Everything that I have an immediate, emotion filled reaction to something (perhaps a controversial issue, or the suggestion that i might be a narcissistic a**hole) as well as anything which provokes non-normal behavior(chances are it is provoking me even if i can't feel anything and nothings comes to mind.) I force myself to confront that idea, think about it reasonably, until I feel I have exhasted complete consideration of every point, compare it to current beliefs, figure out the most productive option and if necessary change myself to fit that.
So like perhaps enough evidence was presented to me that I am nothing but a narcissist that spends his life rationalizing the world to support his beliefs. That assertion makes me a little offended, it feels like the assertion is implying that I am shallow, and transparent. Well, I do privately think VERY highly of myself, although I believe that as long as I don't spend much time proving that to people to boast my ego, or start believing that others are "lessers" that my high opinion of myself is harmless. And I do -OBVIOUSLY- spend a decent amount of time thinking about psycholgy, and infact i INTEND to(if necessary) rationalize what I do as harmless. And in the case that I talk to much about it(a threshold I am threatening to cross just by talking about this) then apparently i AM a narcissist that spends his life(at least in part) rationalizing the world to support my beliefs. And in that case, the option which would lead to my greater happiness would be to change how I feel about someone suggesting that I am a narcissist that spends his life rationalizing the world to support his beliefs, and change how i feel about being shallow and transparent. Right now, seems like a good direction to take.
It is very important that no matter how emotionally stinging the issue, I am willing to think about it reasonable, and fairly. I'm not perfect, and I always will be a work in progress, but thus far this whole practice has made me the way I am. (You know, pride in weirdness, closest thing to complete belief in cultural relavity you are probably gonna get to, kinda sociopathic, ect)
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And as always, these are simply my worthless opinions.
My body is a channel that translates energy from the universe into happiness.
I either express information, or consume it. I am debating which to do right now.