I need some help and advice my 14 yr old son has aspergus

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I need some help and advice my 14 yr old son has aspergus
I realy dont know where to start i had not even heard of this until a couple of months ago.we have always had problems but now that i have read a few other stories here I know he has a problem i lay in fear every night that he will harm him self he has no self asteam and tells his looser freinds he wants to kill himself ,and that he hates his life.Irealy dont know what i should do,he has problems at school every day he was bullied at ayounger age and now he has become the bully,does anyone have a simillar situation.please help im at my end,he tells me he hates my guts and that he doesnt want me in his life.But I love him so much and want to help him I have taken him to doctors and i tiered of being told their is nothing wrong with him they dont have to live with him everyday and see what i see.

Welcome to WP!

Why is your son bullying? Could it be because he wants kids to be afraid of him so they leave him alone? Or could he be defending himself thinking he is being bullied? Have you asked him why he hates you and wants you out of his life?

I have been all here before in my childhood. I hated my mom for different reasons, I thought she let kids bully me, I thought she wanted my life to be miserable because she kept taking me to my psychiatrist and keeping me out of school, she wanted me on medication, she always got mad at me for my emotions and my obsessions. But yet I didn't hate my dad even though he agreed to take me out of school and he took me to my psychiatrist, he also had me on pills. For some reason I targeted my mom. I thought kids were picking on me when I was 13 so I defend myself not even realizing I was being the bully.

yes but he seams to go out of his way to create a situations i have often thought that,he feels he needs to be the tough guy and have tried so hard to talk to him about it .I dont want him to follow in my footstep or at least some of them,I have told him how proud i am of him and often end up in arguements with the school while i am defending him,i have told him i love him very much he wont go to any doctors without putting up a battle,and it just seems that everything even the simplest of thing end up in an arguement,I appreciate your comments and again thank you

lee

yes but he seams to go out of his way to create a situations i have often thought that,he feels he needs to be the tough guy and have tried so hard to talk to him about it .I dont want him to follow in my footstep or at least some of them,I have told him how proud i am of him and often end up in arguements with the school while i am defending him,i have told him i love him very much he wont go to any doctors without putting up a battle,and it just seems that everything even the simplest of thing end up in an arguement,I appreciate your comments and again thank you

lee

Does he know about aspergers? Simply having this piece of information can help enormously. Have you shown him this site? Reading other's experiences might help him.

Could you take him out of school for a while? Sometimes simply getting some "safe" space can make a huge difference.

Best wishes.

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I have not shown him this site yet as i only just found it myself but i was going to show it to him tomorrow,And we have talked about maybe home schooling him but the costs are very high and i am unemployed at this time due to a permanent back disability but we are trying to save for it i think it would make a huge difference,and help to save our family and keep us all together.I have also just downloaded some ebooks to help all of us understand it more I got them from the following site dealing with aspergers



thank you for your advice on this

Another possibility to look at is that some of his behaviour is related to ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder).

There seems to be a strong need for some professional help, looking at options like cognitive behaviour therapy, family therapy, and social skills training.

I do not know if your circumstances permit it, but the services of a good clinical psychologist might make more of a difference than home schooling in the long run. I would recommend speaking with the Autism support agency that serves the place where you live and look for options.

THANK YOU JAMES I WILL LOOK INTO IT

LEE

Welcome greetings to the Wrong Planet neighborhood, leespindler. You may wish to take a look at Wrong Planets Parents’ Discussion Forum: http://www.wrongplanet.net/forum19.html
All the best to you and your 14-year-old son.

i posted on another thread some tips that may help you also.. won't rewrite it all i think it was 'i just want to help my son' anyway good luck