Hi my name is Wendy

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My 17 year old son was just diagnosed with Aspergers and I was told that he probably would never get a full time job or live on his own. I really hate for this to be the case so I am wondering if anybody here has been diagnosed with or know of anyboyd diagnosed at this age and how they handled the situations.

Take it from me, that's among the dumbest predictions to be made about anyone. I hear that crap somewhat regularly from my parents, I'm 19, and I've worked at two software companies. Aspergers is nowhere near a severe enough diagnosis through which to reach that conclusion, especially when your son can find the right motivation (i.e. NOT JUST WORK). I spent my entire last summer in a BMX park, with the same plan for the next (incl. the possibility of racing or competitions) and I'm a mobile/open source tester. I live at home, but I know that's going to change soon. I find a lot of solitude in setting milestones, while leaving my options open in terms of which to reach first.

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It's still not something to look at in such absolute terms. For instance, most conditions which can interfere with everyday jobs don't take one's ability to work, and everyone needs to find what suits them. It's also worth adding that money certainly isn't usually the primary need of those on the spectrum, and that it accompanies improvement in social skills and living conditions, self imposed or otherwise.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

Actually I was diagnosed around 16. Aspergers makes life a bit harder but not impossible.People with the condition generally develop emotionally about 5 years behind scedule and tend to have executive function issues.So alot of people in there 20s with Aspergers are still living at home because they're emotional immature(relativly) or are unable to organize their lives.Many of my friends from high school still live at home because of these issues.However most have had at least one job.
When I was diagnosed I was placed in a SP.ED program with other kids that had similar issues.The ran the gambit from one friend who was in a Program for especially gifted kids to kids who couldnt function without one on one help. It's a spectrum.It depends on how severe the symptoms are and what "Co-Morbid" disorders are associated with your paticular diagnoses.
As for how I handled it.I didnt. my disorder was mild enough to let my life go on as planned.I really couldn't tell you anything else without more information.their are alot of variables.like why was your son in a assessed in the first place?

16 is pretty late to be dx'ed in this day and age.

I am an employer and i get a lot of Aspies thrust upon me as supplemented wage freebies

There's this one guy who is a firestick twirler i.e a performance artist

The employment agency should be getting him a contract and promoting him in the entertainment industry!

But they've got s**t for brains and can only see him as a minimum wage employee they can put on their books!

There's millions of cases like this!


.... There is this very encouraging video by a Doctor called Tony Attwood
he talks about encouraging interests into careers

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Welcome,
Having aspergers is not the end of the world. There are people here with aspergers (aspies) who are self employed, employed as professionals, employed in various occupations, everything to long term unemployed.

Have a look around here, ask questions and educate yourself about it. There are some good books by Tony Attwood.

Plenty of people here are employed, live alone (or with a family), and don't want a cure if it was available.

Welcome, they really are a good bunch here

Sweet greetings to WPea!



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