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I tried to write a detailed introduction but it was too depressing. I think I have autism but was told no because I can read, write and do math. I've researched high-functioning autism, Asperger's syndrome, social impairment disorder, schizoid/schizotypal personality disorder and they all seem so similar and relatable to me. I have poor memory of my life so it's hard to be sure. I remember going to preschool and seeing other kids socialise without effort and it was like they had something I was missing. I was very uncoordinated and lethargic, always told I am slow and couldn't speak properly, have always had difficulty having a conversation. I've spent most of my life alone and have never liked eye contact. I was a very late talker like 4 years old. These and other things suggest autism to me. My family were constantly putting me down and there was also severe abuse which makes me wonder if I'd be a lot different with a supportive family. I am very confused about the whole thing.

Welcome aboard greetings to the WP, itry2bpositive.

Well, the abuse certainly doesn't help things.

Okay, what you describe could well be autism spectrum, or it could be one of the other things you list. In either case, we welcome you here! Either as someone on the spectrum, or as a 'bridge person' who might be able to help us and we might be able to help you with some things


PS My Dad is a bully and is at times violent. He seemed to think giving an order was enough even if I couldn't do it or couldn't understand what he was asking.

That's just way off base, as I'm sure you know from your own research. It's amazing the amount of misinformation out there, even among so-called professionals. Another thing I have run into is "professionals" viewing themselves as "being right" as all important. Once they've made a pronouncement, wow, any kind of real back-and-forth communication ceases.

One of my traits is that I want to be in the main social flow and have partners for my keen interests, but am clumsy and clunky. Almost want it too much and it drives people off.

Almost my idea day is personal intellectual projects the first part of the day and then social events in the evening.

Thanks for the nice welcome.

Yes, he has a really inflexible personality lol. I told him that I saw an autistic author on youtube reading from her own book and about Temple Grandin being a doctor and professor. He said there is differences of opinion and they might not have been diagnosed correctly. Not that I am comparing myself to those people, I was just givning examples.

He agrees with an infant developmental issue but he thinks it was a result of parental neglect. Obviously I cannot confirm or deny this and with my family it is likely. I did a test and scored almost perfectly for Asperger's syndrome which made me want to find out more.

My life isn't great at the moment but I have some hope of doing something in the future. I do avoid all social situations. I feel people don't understand why I don't know how to interact with them. I've been taken advantage of and when people are aggressive I fall apart. I prefer my own space and interests.

I've read that some people with autistic disorders don't want to be "treated". Which is what I said in our early meeting when he discussed therapy "I don't want to be fixed". I don't want or expect i'll ever be "normal". My psychologist started mindfulness today which just confused me and he also wants to do CBT, social skills and ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy). I was prescribed anti-depression-anxiety medication but felt it did nothing and I don't really feel comfortable taking it.

Do these sort of things scare other people too? Does an adult with a development disorder get therapy and what kind of things would they be?

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Welcome!

It's too much. The guy's laying too much on you all at once. It's almost like a religion. So, he expects you to believe in all this at once, almost as if you're being converted?

For example, CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), about looking at the positive side of things, trying to be realistically optimistic, and rolling with good things happened right now. And that's fine as far as it goes (esp that last part). But do we need to make the thing a religion, an article of faith? No, of course not. The better approach is more of a loosey-goosey approach. Take the parts that work and don't worry so much about the others.

With depression, it can start off situational and become biochem. Biochem is a tricky subtle thing, everyone's biochem is a little different. The upshot, a medicine that might work great for one person might hardly work at all for another or might have unacceptable side effects. So, it sure helps to have a doctor with the patience and a soft touch to keep tinkering. Again, I am kind of against psychiatrists, psychologists and so forth, straight up. I almost think you're likely to have better luck with a family practitioner or internist who just has some horse sense, and that right kind of patience. And I understand three or four works is about the period of time where you can tell whether a medicine is going to work (maybe only kind of, sort of) or whether it's not going to work.
Note: I AM NOT A DOCTOR

With social possibilities, a couple of things:

"tight defensive boxing to a draw" only with someone your own size and please don't take a bunch of blows to the head during training. You're hoping you don't have to use it, it's for a baseline of confidence. And prefer "to a draw" because you're not trying to embarrass anyone. http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt134616. ... 53953497ae

"Okay." following by a period, noncommittal. As one social method to take something to the side, and give yourself a little more time.

maybe things like poetry readings, which is kind of individual work in a social environment

I try and go to political events. At times I have said, 'I'm more of a moderate and an independent. I'm hear to listen and learn.' (that works so well, but it's not really true because I do bat from the left side of the plate. But I want the conversation to be about them or ideas in the middle, and not primarily about how I label and categorize myself)<--So, maybe you can help me with this one. How can I go to these meetings with kind of a light touch and an easy touch, be honest, but not feel I'm somehow obligated to reveal all this information about myself?

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