Hi~~ any Chinese here?

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Hi, I'm a 27 years old girl from Asia. Sorry in advance that my English is not that fluent.

Anyways, I have diagnosed with depression 2 years ago, and now I'm getting a little bit better. But I was always find it difficult to actually communicate with people around, before or after the diagnosis, and I started to feel there's some root cause apart from depression.

I was a documentary geek and somehow came across a documentary about AD and I was stunned. It's because that's totally me. However, I'm too shy to talk to my psychologist about that. After a year of struggle, I come up here and leave the first msg.

I cannot actually understand what people think all the time. My friends are all criticized on the communication disability. I always use the wrong words for wrong things and I cannot differentiate between jokes and real stuff.

I always talk about things that people are not interested... in circle.......... without even noticing it.

I dunno if I was having a repetitive interest or behavior but I do watch my favorite movies for over 30 times, or even drama series, and I do drink the same beverages or have the same lunch in the same restaurant.

And I dunno if it is related......... physical clumsiness. My knee joints have dislocated for 5-6 times, and I have 2 broken wrists. And I still cannot ride a bicycle. But as crazy as it sounds, I'm good at playing 1-2 particular video games, yea, but just one and two, just because I can memorized all the moves (like keyboard mania, as I can remember when to hit which key)

And of cause, my love life is chaos also. Always cannot understand my partners' feeling........

Luckily I'm good enough academically, of cause, as most Aspie... science+computer science double major in college. However it's sad that I sometimes need to meet clients and do sales work in my current company now, and everytime when I need to visit the client, I would cry to sleep the night before as I'm too scare.....

Anyways....... I hope I can finally rest on the topic by telling my psychologist about that in Monday's appointment.

Hello and welcome! Don't worry about your English. It's a little bit odd, but it's easy to understand.

It's good that you know what you need to do. Your life will get better after you admit to people that you are on the spectrum. You don't have to tell everyone, but you should definitely tell your psychologist. Because you understand that you have this condition, you will be able to understand your strengths and weaknesses better. It's okay to be bad at some things, like communication and sports! You are good at other things instead.

Focus on the things that you are good at. If there is something which you are not looking forward to, like meeting a client, try approaching the problem in a "logical" way. Maybe practice in front of the mirror until you are confident.

(I am not Chinese, by the way. But I went to Hong Kong and Guangdong Province on a school trip once.)

the word "logical" .. I have heard of that a thousand time from my psychologist. Actually I was thinking if she actually notice my profile falls in AD symptom perfectly? maybe she's just keeping that from me and wanna me to face depression first....

Actually I can "functionally" okay to meet the clients, it's like role play, but I really need to know when I should talk again, and I dunno how to end the meeting. I'm good in doing a speech or presentation. but interaction? This is another story. My boss often treat me as a shy girl, but I know there's something wrong inside.............

Welcome to WP!

Good luck here.

Welkome to WP

Mick

yes, you sound very much like you could be an aspie (person with asperger syndrome), majo. welcome to the site!

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Welcome to Wrong Planet.

You have nothing to worry about when it comes to your English. You type it better than most of my peers at school.

Nee how!

歡迎到錯誤行星!

This is precisely why you could benefit from talking to your psychologist. You see, there are plenty of tips and tricks, general rules, and especially formal proceedings (like your issue with meetings), that people on the autism spectrum can pick up on with some therapy and discussion.

You could try an exercise like this when you need to do a meeting:

Using a piece of paper and a writing utensil, or a word document program on your computer, think of important points that will come up during the discussion. Try breaking it up into the different parts of the discussion. Then, write down phrases that you think would be good to commence each part of the discussion. If you really are nervous about how to end a meeting, do some brainstorming. Once you get done, pick the ones you like from each category, and keep them in mind during the meeting.

If you are at a loss as to what to say, while trying to brainstorm, please feel free to come here, maybe PM me, maybe make a thread for it, and let us help you if we can. You're not on your own any more, my dear.