A Mexican-French Aspie: Hello and thank you so much!

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I’ve been roaming around in the forum for a couple of weeks and finally decided myself to make my first post. I’m not really good in this forum thing, I guess it must be one of the first posts I do in my entire life!

Let me introduce myself, the name’s José, 33 years old. I was born in Mexico but lived in France most of my life. I decided to come back to live to Mexico City like 3 years ago. Life was getting really nice until we had a very strong earthquake. From the earthquake I got a great souvenir, a stress disorder, it just felt as if I was feeling the same emotions as in the earthquake again and again. After a very long research, and a couple of kilos lost over vomiting whatever went into my body, it turns out that I have Asperger´s syndrome and that I have to learn to control that emotion.

Life has been sort of like a rollercoaster for me, I can remember very good times, like my childhood and the times I went to school. I also had my very bad times, now I’m able to see why I failed so much when I entered the professional world, in fact I did not understand anything for a couple of years, went through a big depression, the anxiety, the meltdowns… Somehow at some point in my life I met a lady that just changed many things for me. It was as if she could see who I was without being able to put a name on it. With an insane amount of patience, she taught me a couple of principles which have made my life very successful. Since I came back to Mexico, I finally got a job that pays enough money to live nicely, and social life has not been too bad since then. Of course, I guess I lost this lady over not knowing about my AS, she probably ran out of patience and we decided to part our ways.

First things first, I’d like to thank the people in here for their valuable input, I was lucky enough to get to this forum very quickly after I discovered the words ‘Asperger’s Syndrome’. Since I started reading the different threads, this whole big puzzle called life makes better sense. I’ve read a lot on adult’s experiences and how they found out they have AS and it’s nice to share common traits with others, not being the only weirdo around. It’s like opening the Pandora’s Box and finding the manual besides, it really makes things easier for me so thanx to every single person that has ever posted something here!

As far as my Aspie traits, it seems that I have a natural ability to ‘imitate’ others, my doctor is sometimes puzzled by this, I am able to read facial expressions that I’ve seen, able to look at people in the eyes (even though sometimes I just get lost in someone´s eyes =), speak half a dozen languages and a couple of other characteristics which make it hard for people around me to believe I have AS. On the inside part, I’m like a sea of emotions, have a major lack of self-confidence and don’t really know how to interact with others. I am stubborn or well, very stubborn, I hate change if I’m not in control of it and have had my fare share of social misunderstandings leading to lose jobs, lose friends, lose family and whatever there is to lose in this world. Oh yeah I was going to forget, it seems that I am a very gifted musician, basically I can play any instrument you put in my hands besides the ones in which I have to use my mouth. Last Thursday my doctor confirmed the diagnosis but we’re still talking together to try to get a full profile of my characteristics.

I guess I’m going to stop here for the moment; I really love writing and could go on for another couple hundred pages. It’s good to finally find a place where I just can be myself without having to hide the million things that are going around inside me. I guess at this point of my life there is not much to be done, I managed to get a good job and to get a life in the ‘normal’ world, I just need to keep it that way! The thing for me now is going to be discovering my Aspie world in a conscious way, Wrong Planet has helped a lot. If I could be of any help to anyone going on through their own journey it will be my greatest pleasure, just get in touch, I will try to post regularly on things in which I think I can help!

And again thanx, every single member on Wrong Planet just made writing this a lot easier

Hi De1ltron! Welcome to Wrong Planet! Check out the many interesting and helpful forums here. Quite a few of us like languages, so that's really not unusual for us. I took 3 years of German in high school several decades ago, and liked it. I can still speak a little of it, too. In 8th grade I took a kind of mini course in Italian. Because the course time period was so short--one class period every 6 school days, the teacher gave up trying to teach anything after about the second or third class session, and did work for his regular classes instead, while the few students in the class just caught up on homework or hung out there. I was the only one who bothered to keep reading the Italian instruction book. I don't remember much, though. I have picked up some words and phrases of several other languages over the years, too, but not enough to converse in them.

I like music, but have a voice like a frog, and can't play any instruments--except maybe the Kazoo. At least I can enjoy music that others make.

Hope you are able to get over the stress from the earth quake. Remember, you are among friends here at WP!

Welcome! I love it here. I just found the site a few weeks ago and just realized what my cognitive difference was a month or so ago, so the site and the people have been immensely helpful and comforting.

I would type more but I've had a super exhausting day (lots of socializing and executive functioning to attend to) and I need to sleep and recuperate.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Welkome to WP

Mick