impersonating new female members?

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a week ago, a female member introduced herself in this forum. after two days she stopped posting. then another one introduced herself and disappeared after a few days. then another one. see a trend? i begin to suspect that many of the "Hi, I'm new here and I am a girl" threads are started by bored guys impersonating females. I'm a guy and my posts get almost no attention. The members who say they are female in their profile tend to be get many questions and responses in return. heck some male members even offer to date them. please keep in mind that this is just a thought. it really does not matter whether this is true or not. who really cares? i give everyone the benefit of the doubt. this forum is like group therapy for me.

Last edited by Learning2Survive on 01 Mar 2009, 12:07 am, edited 1 time in total.

I don't think what you are saying is true. everyone tends to get equal responses. Not just girls. I don't see how you could have come up with that. Do you have any examples? I've never been asked to date, or seen anyone asked to date on here.

you joined in 2004? and you never had this suspicion. never?

No. Never. Everyone gets equal treatment. I'm sure every site has their fair share of people pretending to be genders they aren't. But actually, yes I have been suspicious. Thanks to this post. I noticed that you and "notBrianna" make very similar posts. Also, you posted one after the other, saying which two states you wanted in my thread in the same way. Not brianna, would signify that she isn't brianna, maybe she's brian, not a girl, but a boy. So, fess up.

so of course, you make this thread, wondering how often people like you do this. Also, wondering if anyone is on to you.

Can't say for sure if this is one or not. But one, in the time frame your speaking in, is going through a very severe crisis. Not minor at all.
I also know another that related to me more then others. I make no pretense about my being on the Bipolar spectrum and
ADHD and those are just two. But she felt, initially more comfortable speaking private after her initial hello and for all I know she doesn't post here at all anymore.
But I do know she's very active elsewhere. I don't stalk, I might be interested in a person and back track what they have said else where for my own reasons.

Personal, in the non net world, I am way more comfortable speaking to women then men, when it comes to the doctors and therapist thing.
I suspect that for some the same holds true on the net.

Genders themselves, humm how to answer this. As simply as I can, some wonder which they might be.

The moderators are good at what they do, over worked to be sure, but they know what they're doing.
There are things happening in the background here you might not be aware of.

I suppose we all have a different personal agenda for being here to begin with. You mention group therapy is one of yours.
I suppose I have more then one, but I do hope they are connected in my own way.

I have been in one thread for a very long time, well pretty much since I got here. On more then one occasion I have had things written directly at me and I had assumed I had answered them. I had, but I didn't write it. It didn't mean I didn't read them, it just didn't register correctly. There is a lot I read here that I think, yup, dead on, or nope, dead wrong, or any manor of combinations and never write a word. Some gives me pause for deep thought and how long that goes on I just never know for sure and those thoughts take me else where and I totally forget where the seed was to begin with. I hope you see a trend in what I'm trying to say. We're all different and that is a good thing.

i can not see any benefit for a male registering as a female.
i agree that if he says he is 20 year old female, his posts will attract much more attention and consideration than if he says he is a 40 year old male.

but the people who would be attracted to his posts would be mainly men, so why would he put himself in a position of being flooded by mainly male suitors?

also, he would be committed to always pretending to be female, and writing about female things. he would never be able to post a picture of himself or ever meet anyone if he likes them.

maybe there are some men people who would like to live out the fantasy of being a "hot young chick", and may use a forum to attract comments to himself that he envies real young girls getting (i fear that was unintelligible sorry).

i have seen some posters who i steadfastly assumed were males, and was surprised that they were females after eventually checking their profile.

but still, there are many "tomboyish" asperger girls.

who knows?. i do not care really much.

Well I know at least one female poster (who I will not discuss) who was banned very shortly after arriving. Maybe that's a common thing.

She might have already had an account. Like msot forums, it's against the rules to have more than one account. I don't see why anyone would want more than one, anyways.

i agree. if you start fresh, you lose your online identity. plus people who read your posts, won't have any context when you post something new.



some might just enjoy the attention. might be a jerry springer type of character.



probably was an impersonator or a spammer. the admins can tell it's a duplicate account by the duplicate IP address.

huh? what is a "jerry springer"' type of character?
he is not a female impersonator from what i see in my mind.

g'night i am not interested any more.

i meant the kind of weirdo who might appear on a jerry springer show, could just as well be pretending to be a teenage girl on this forum. my point in starting this thread is to remind you all that the 18 year old girl you are having an internet affair with might really be a 64 year old guy from France

I know there are what appear to be duplicate accounts here. My wife has one, doesn't use it or hasn't but maybe 2 or 3 times. Same IP number. I suspect there are one or two computer families where there are more then one that come here. My gut feeling is it isn't the number, it's what each account has to say. I don't know this for a fact but my guess would be a mod would contact a certain IP to see what's up before just banning all outright.

Trolls are easy to spot, but even that can be tricky. Sometimes new comers come in all kinds of angry sounding and that shouldn't be a automatic troll warning. Actually with me it's the ones that come in all syrupy and distressed that I watch like a hawk, but it takes more then one post to see their agenda. But having been around when the real trolls were still thriving, by that I mean those that invented it, well, it was an art and sadly it is being lost. Real spam has an intent. Kind of like what most think a hacker is now. So, to me, what a troll is these days is very easy to spot, the old trolls made themselves very clear to begin with and they were damn good at what they did. And the good ones ran in packs. Except the old board I use to haunt were filled with reformed trolls (and reformed crackers) and when they (we) did hit the incoming trolls, they didn't stand a chance. We fed them. So much so that some of those that came to troll it, stayed. I miss that old alt board, I do think some belonged here and would have fit in well.

Female impersonators or male for that matter, so what. It's the intent behind it.

I am a 23-year-old female with AS who joined in January. I haven't been posting a lot recently because I've been struggling with the death of my grandmother.

I enjoy talking to other individuals with AS, but I'm not in any way seeking dating/romantic connections at this time.

You can never be 100% sure of people who sign up for a website. That's why I'm always careful about giving identifying information away online.

-Laura

Zeppelin123, I wish you to get through the grief period. Did you rely on you grandma for support? My talk with my grandmother almost every day. She and my mom are cannot live without each other (even though they fight all the time). So when it is time for my grandmother to go to anther world - and she is pretty old now - it's gonna really f*** my family. Grief is normal. You WILL get through it. Just give it time and it will go away on its own.