leaving home

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Lately i've been thinking about when i go to college if i should leave home. My parents say i can stay as long as i want which is good but i think i just want to get away. I don't have a horrible home life or anything like that. Its just i think they tell me this because of my AS. They don't believe i can live on my own or something. That just makes me want to leave. I kinda feel like my family is pressuring me to stay at home. Does anyone have any suggestions about what i should do?

My suggestion is that you should persuade your parents that your capable of living on your own, however I do want to say that if you do, you will have less money to live on because of bills etc so maybe your parents do think your capable of living away from home but they're putting the advantages of living at home and disadvantages of moving away from home into consideration

I say move out on your own. You're going have FREEDOM. You can stay up as late as you want, sleep in as late as you want, go wherever you want, come and go as you please, and not worry about answering to ANYONE. Yeah, there are bills and rent to pay, but it's a tiny price to pay for being free. After all, throughout the world history, people paid a tremendous price for freedom; the bills and rent pale in comparison.

depends on what living with your parents is like. Some people are in a small house, and their parents tell them what to do all the time, have siblings, etc. Some people it is very different.

A choice like that should be entirely up to you - I know some people who left home ASAP, others who still live with their parents as young adults. The recurring theme is that almost everyones happy with whatever choice they made if they made it for themselves, and didn't feel pressured into it.

If you're happy at home, you shouldn't feel like you need to prove anything. On the other hand, if you want to try leaving home, then you shouldn't let worries about bills hold you back from that.

I would definitely go away to college. Going to a dorm is safe, you can go back home if need be and it isn't a huge commitment like going and signing a 1 year lease. I think it would be a really positive experience for you. I got married at 17 and wasn't ever alone until I divorced my ex. I really think I needed that time, and I relished it and enjoyed every minute of it. It had it's stresses, but once I got into my routines (knew when stuff needed paid, etc.) it was like second nature. Sometimes I miss those times. I was very happy. I am now too, but there is something very liberating about being on your own. As aspies, I think it is easy for us to get into situations where we don't take those leaps. I knew deep down I had to, and I know it was good for me.

I say try it. It gave me so much confidence in myself.