Best Friend Help :'(

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I'm really down right now so please no smart ass comments. This about my best (female) friend. We've been friends for ages, we trusted each other for everything.. at least I thought. I recently told Holly that I have Asperger's Syndrome, I said that because I felt that hiding something from a friend is an awful thing. She backlashed emotionally at me.

Because of this - her relaly bad ex-boyfriend said "he had it" and before they broke up he had really bad outbursts. The thing is, she thinks thats Aspergers... As far as I know, It's *inability to socialize* not *Breakout into emotional strains*. I reckon her ex-boyfriend was lying to get attention, and even worse, it's made my friend get the wrong idea.

She know wants to move away from me, because of this... So much for acceptance..

My question is.. WHAT DO I DO?

Please help

I am sorry that your friend is acting this way. Although I can some-what understand that she just broke up with an Aspie, and doesn't want to be anywhere near anything to with her ex....I think she is being a horrible friend to you. You cannot just dump your best friend because they have the same disorder that your ex had. If she doesn't care about you enough to get over her issues with AS and continue being friends with you after the whole time you two have been friends...then she is a bad friend, and is not worth your time. I think you should try to move on and eventually make a new friend. I know that is easier said then done. However I think the sooner you can do this the better. Again, I'm really sorry that happened to you.

Try to figure out how she thinks and use that where applicable.

One thing that might help is that you apologize for anything you have done anything wrong.(make it vague, you aren't committing to any wrong-doing) If you can do something that allows you to show that you are a different person than her boyfriend, or that there is a long-going friendship, try to use that, but don't be blunt about that. (If you know what kind of behavior she appreciates, use that as it makes sense, and direct doesn't mean "blunt" as "blunt" usually has connotations of crassness)

Secondly, you can't do anything about the situation, so the best thing you can hope to do is wait the matter out. This might never recover though, and I can't say either way, but it is out of your hands.

I wouldn't outright dismiss her as not a real friend necessarily, because people can go weird on you and yet still snap back. I would urge you to re-evaluate the situation as best as possible. You should see if you can find another friend if possible. You should put a limit on how far you will go for this issue, as at some point things cannot be repaired or recovered. You should recognize that if you push this too far, you will result in even her behaving in an even more negative manner towards you.