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12 Apr 2007, 7:45 pm

I was depressed for like two days because my Dad had a nervous breakdown and we had to move out of my house for a few days,and I would lock myself inside the class and cry,
(BTW,ONLY 2 NT'S FELT SORRY FOR ME AND ASKED WHAT WAS GOING ON,NOBODY ELSE GAVE A CRAP) then when I felt better I tried hanging out with the people I hung out with before,and they just walked faster,they were running away from me.I KNOW when I am disturbing people,and this wasn't a misunderstanding.This happened like 2/3 days ago,im not sure...

I'll try to explain what happened today in a play format,like if it was a script:

(Bell rings)

(Everyone starts to leave,"friends" talk,while I watch them)

Girl # 1:*starts taking out gross food while talking*
Girl#2:*talks*
Girl # 3:*talks*
Girl #4:*takes food out*

(they start to leave, almost leaving girl #4 behind)

Girl # 2: "Girl #4,come!"
Girl # 4:*looks at me with pity and leaves*
Girl # 3:(giggling,whispering,not noticing that I heard her) "Marcela,come!"
Girl # 2:*makes face*
Girl #3: *hugs girl # 2,and leaves*

NT'S can be so cruel...then they call US emotionless...

I made no attempt at following them,I didn't want to humiliate myself.
I just stayed inside,reading.I read and read until my mixed feelings of hate/sadness/rage
dissapeared.Girl # 4,which was the girl I followed the most,(since she is shy and quiet like me)
came inside to get something,and instead of saying telling me to come with her
(which is what she did before, the first time I locked myself) quickly ran off...
she glanced at me,and gave me that "poor her" look.It was an honest look of pity...

I think all those other girls can tolerate me,except for girl #2.She hates me.
I don't know why.I don't know what I did to her.
Before,when she liked me(or at least when she could handle me...)she would talk to me,
and when her stuff fell down and I would pick them up she would be grateful,but recently when that happened,and I tried to help,she was like "no no no no,i'll do it" but she said it like I was going to contaminate her stuff or something...

WHY?????WHY DO THINGS LIKE THIS HAPPEN TO ME???! !! !!

What did I do to her? Why does she hate me?
Maybe it was a facial expression? My face is usually emotionless so I doubt it...
Maybe she knows I have aspergers?
Maybe she doesn't want to be near rejects like me?
Maybe she wants to be little miss popular...

I hate being alone.



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12 Apr 2007, 7:48 pm

What can I do to cope with recess?

Please take in note that I don't live in America and my school is a piece of crap.
It doesn't have a library,any type of club,nor a computer lab,or anything else.



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12 Apr 2007, 7:52 pm

At least in America my friends were also rejects and we understood each other... *sigh*



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12 Apr 2007, 8:15 pm

Are you people offended because I used the word alien?



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12 Apr 2007, 9:04 pm

Lesson No. 1 -:

if you are asking yourself the Question "why do they have a problem with me", look carefully at the question....

"Why do they have a problem with me"

they are the ones with the problem.... true friends are hard to come by for everyone.. most NT's just have surface friendships... not deep ones...

your chances of finding deep friends is just as high as theirs... if not higher, as you would be willing to be a true friend... most NT's dont give a crap...

thats my 2 Cents (exchanged from my 1 pence)


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12 Apr 2007, 9:08 pm

No, I am not offended by your use of the word alien.

This has happened to me before. As high school drew to a close, I mellowed out in some of my anger and the people who did it became more accepting of different people, so it because less of a problem. So, I would suggest giving these people time as one possible "solution" to your problem. Another piece of advice would be to not be too clingy with these people. It's not great to be alone all the time, but following people around when you are getting trashed (left out or ignored) is no fun either. Try to focus on shared interests in what you say to them and do with them, and not on simply being there around them.



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13 Apr 2007, 12:06 am

I got that on a regular basis when I was at school. People are jerks, it makes me want to kick their faces.

I'm sorry it had to happen to you. Try and stick it out, and good luck. :)



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13 Apr 2007, 12:57 am

Wormy wrote:
Are you people offended because I used the word alien?

No, just feel inadequate about offering advice. :(

I hope others can. Would be interested in knowing how things work out, if you want to keep posting.

How is your Dad? Have you moved back to your home yet?


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13 Apr 2007, 6:27 am

Aspie_for_the_Lord wrote:
Lesson No. 1 -:

if you are asking yourself the Question "why do they have a problem with me", look carefully at the question....

"Why do they have a problem with me"

they are the ones with the problem.... true friends are hard to come by for everyone.. most NT's just have surface friendships... not deep ones...

your chances of finding deep friends is just as high as theirs... if not higher, as you would be willing to be a true friend... most NT's dont give a crap...

thats my 2 Cents (exchanged from my 1 pence)


I WOULD be willing to be a good friend,but apparently most NT's don't give a crap,like you said.I'll try looking in church,even if I despise going,i'll give it a chance...
It's hard being a reject.Is it going to be like this forever,or is the phrase"just wait until collage" true? :(



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13 Apr 2007, 6:32 am

hyperbolic wrote:
No, I am not offended by your use of the word alien.

This has happened to me before. As high school drew to a close, I mellowed out in some of my anger and the people who did it became more accepting of different people, so it because less of a problem. So, I would suggest giving these people time as one possible "solution" to your problem. Another piece of advice would be to not be too clingy with these people. It's not great to be alone all the time, but following people around when you are getting trashed (left out or ignored) is no fun either. Try to focus on shared interests in what you say to them and do with them, and not on simply being there around them.


O.K,I won't try to follow them.And about the shared interests?
They don't even talk about interests! All they do is gossip,talk about bf's and
talk about people I don't even know...and i've been left out since the begining when I was with them...



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13 Apr 2007, 6:35 am

Wormy wrote:
hyperbolic wrote:
No, I am not offended by your use of the word alien.

This has happened to me before. As high school drew to a close, I mellowed out in some of my anger and the people who did it became more accepting of different people, so it because less of a problem. So, I would suggest giving these people time as one possible "solution" to your problem. Another piece of advice would be to not be too clingy with these people. It's not great to be alone all the time, but following people around when you are getting trashed (left out or ignored) is no fun either. Try to focus on shared interests in what you say to them and do with them, and not on simply being there around them.


O.K,I won't try to follow them.And about the shared interests?
They don't even talk about interests! All they do is gossip,talk about bf's and
talk about people I don't even know...and i've been left out since the begining when I was with them...


I feel for you, i really do.... i know exactly what its like... but its their loss that they cant accept you for you....


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13 Apr 2007, 6:40 am

hale_bopp wrote:
I got that on a regular basis when I was at school. People are jerks, it makes me want to kick their faces.

I'm sorry it had to happen to you. Try and stick it out, and good luck. :)


It seems like we will be rejects for the rest of our high school years...
Not that I want to be popular,but I would like to have good friends... :cry:



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13 Apr 2007, 6:43 am

Aspie_for_the_Lord wrote:
Wormy wrote:
hyperbolic wrote:
No, I am not offended by your use of the word alien.

This has happened to me before. As high school drew to a close, I mellowed out in some of my anger and the people who did it became more accepting of different people, so it because less of a problem. So, I would suggest giving these people time as one possible "solution" to your problem. Another piece of advice would be to not be too clingy with these people. It's not great to be alone all the time, but following people around when you are getting trashed (left out or ignored) is no fun either. Try to focus on shared interests in what you say to them and do with them, and not on simply being there around them.


O.K,I won't try to follow them.And about the shared interests?
They don't even talk about interests! All they do is gossip,talk about bf's and
talk about people I don't even know...and i've been left out since the begining when I was with them...


I feel for you, i really do.... i know exactly what its like... but its their loss that they cant accept you for you....


YEAH! I COULD BE THE NICEST,MOST TRUSTFUL PERSON THEY EVER MET, BUT NOOOOOOOO,THEY THINK THEY ARE HOT s**t AND THINK IM IM JUST A STUPID REJECT(which I am,sadly,except the stupid part)



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13 Apr 2007, 6:46 am

BazzaMcKenzie wrote:
Wormy wrote:
Are you people offended because I used the word alien?

No, just feel inadequate about offering advice. :(

I hope others can. Would be interested in knowing how things work out, if you want to keep posting.

How is your Dad? Have you moved back to your home yet?


Well,thanks for posting,at least.

We're back at home,and apparently my Dad's fine...
I'll definetly keep on posting,since I have nobody else to talk to...my life sucks.



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13 Apr 2007, 7:07 am

I'm so sorry Wormy :( Girls are horrible creatures. I've been where you are. My solution was to make friends with guys instead, but I think it wasn't a great solution. There are a lot of problems with it. I am so so sorry that you're going through this. I don't usually empathize with people much, but I really really empathize with you on this one. I wish I could give you a big hug... and hugging people is not something I ever do.

Whatever you do, don't ever forget that it's not your fault. NT girls climb the social ladder, and that ladder is made of people like you and me. They don't do it because they have any reason to dislike you. They do it because they think you're vulnerable. Stepping on you makes them look taller- that's all it is. It has nothing to do with you. They're just plain selfish.



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13 Apr 2007, 7:26 am

Esperanza wrote:
I'm so sorry Wormy :( Girls are horrible creatures. I've been where you are. My solution was to make friends with guys instead, but I think it wasn't a great solution. There are a lot of problems with it. I am so so sorry that you're going through this. I don't usually empathize with people much, but I really really empathize with you on this one. I wish I could give you a big hug... and hugging people is not something I ever do.

Whatever you do, don't ever forget that it's not your fault. NT girls climb the social ladder, and that ladder is made of people like you and me. They don't do it because they have any reason to dislike you. They do it because they think you're vulnerable. Stepping on you makes them look taller- that's all it is. It has nothing to do with you. They're just plain selfish.



I conccur, i hate women like that...

BTW Nice Avatar Wormy :D


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