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SocOfAutism
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26 Feb 2016, 10:14 am

LaetiBlabla wrote:
I experienced bullying at work.
At first, i was emotionally hurt, because i wanted that my co-worker would be friends, i was kind and helpful (maybe too much).

This is what i did:
- i have limited my interactions strictly to work conversation, for the rest "it does not affect me", "i do not respond"
- they continued to speak on my back but i decided that as soon it doesn't affect my work, i don't CARE
- once, however, it really affected my work:
I directly sent a cold email to my boss "This... is happening, and it is affecting the efficiency of my work, so i think it is important that you are informed" (my e-mail efficiently solved the problem & long-term!)
- i have worked on a creative project to restore my self-esteem. I did not tell about it to others and when i presented the project finished they were just open-mouthed :o

Bullying finished, bin it , end of the story :)


^ Wow. This is the best way of dealing with bullying that I have ever heard. Bravo!



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26 Feb 2016, 12:52 pm

Thank you.

I confess it was not easy, demanding a lot of self-conditioning and energy. Gathering positive energy is particularly difficult when you just have been bullied.

But now i can share my experience and say : It - is - possible. :) :) :)



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27 Feb 2016, 7:01 pm

I'm lucky enough that in my country it's illegal to bully a coworker, and it's illegal for HR to turn a blind eye to bullying.

I told these 2 facts to my boss, so HR had no choice but punish the bully (I hinted that I'd sue the company if they didn't).

I also let the bully know that I have written proof (he more than once bullied me by email) and that if I decide to resign due to his bullying, I'll take him to Court and he'll support me financially till I find a new job.

If the bully or HR do anything to make me regret these steps I took, by making it hard for me to work there, such as treating me like a troublemaker, scapegoating me or whatever, I'll sue them.

In my personal case, I have little to lose, because I'm always bullied due to my AS and either fired or made to run off, so better be jobless with a compensation sum than nothing.


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08 Mar 2016, 4:15 am

http://themasscommpost.tumblr.com

Here is proof that I am being made fun of in real life. By the way, I sometimes feel like part of it is because of some valid faults I have, such as that I have a bad attention span and they get tired of always having to remind me about things.
(I am not the OP. I could just relate to this topic.)