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I feel totally and completely useless. I have no job and I suspect I will never get a job at this rate. I keep applying for job after job after job and I keep getting nothing. I'm going back to school in the fall to learn how to be a systems admin or PC technician. We're also moving to a big city in the hopes I'll be able to get a job. I keep applying and applying for everything from housekeeping jobs, SLPA jobs(I have a degree in that and it's gotten me NOTHING), clerical jobs, customer service, and I've put that I'm willing to work any hours and take less pay. I'm also going to try voc rehab. I feel so hopeless and I know I'm "lucky" in that I'm married and taken care of....but as the years stretch out in front of me I think I'm going to go insane if I don't get something......I'm honestly thinking of cleaning houses if I can't get anything else........even that would be preferable to sitting at home and slowly going nuts. Oh and I've not worked in 7 years as I've been home with my kids and have spent a lot of time helping my husband with his business.....and took some classes for a degree that didn't pan out as I didn't do a Masters in it(if you have a masters there are a lot of good jobs but w/a bachelors you can forget it) I got kicked out of grad school for my Autism and got all my money back thanks to the Dept. of Education investigation and what we negotiated. I feel so behind on everything in terms of a career...like a total failure.

Hey, I know how you're feeling. I am feeling very lost too and depressed about not having a job. I have no husband and I'm living off the State (in a manor of speaking, I live in the UK) I'm in a flat with four other people and I am starting to worry they think I'm lazy. I've been here five months and still no job, I don't want to tell them about the aspergers, I already feel alienated. I haven't worked in around three, four years, the longer it goes on too, the more I worry about what employers will have to say about that, as I have no real reason for the gap in employment accept the social issues and mental health problems I have. My last job was in retail and it was very difficult for me because of all the social interaction I had to do all day. It was exhausting, but I tried my hardest, and still got told off a lot by managers for "not looking happy"


Don't think of yourself as useless, even though I know you probably feel pretty hopeless. You have raised children and being a mother is a very important job. I think going back to school is a good idea, it's better to have a job you enjoy than one that makes you feel like you're going through the motions.

I'd take just about any type of legitimate job at this point. Even customer service and I hate customer service I just want to have some employment and am afraid I'm going to be unemployed for the rest of my life. I hope the education thing pans out this time..........as I really would like to work at a job doing more than menial tasks.

This may look like ret*d advice, but way too often people forget how practical and possible this actually is.
If you can't find a job, make one.
How, is the tough part...
Find a problem, then fix it.

You're practically 'running' a business now just looking for work. You're doing almost everything you would for a real business.

Sic 'em Tiger!

I don't think that being self-employed is really suitable for someone with Asperger's syndrome. Speaking for myself, the main things I want from a job are routine, predictability, and familiarity; things not likely to be experienced when running your own business.

those are the things I want most from a job too

Does your area have a municipal career center? I have heard some of them downplayed, but the one in my old town was excellent. I learned skills in eye contact and handshaking and how to master the interview. I got help in writing my resume, learning to network and other areas. It's not a magic bullet and won't give you an instant solution, but I got helped by them for at least one job.

I also have a job coach through my local learning disabilities association. They are charities spread throughout Canada, so see if you have an equivalent where you are. My job coach has helped me keep my head and works with me on my organizational skills.

they referred me for social skills and that has not worked out well. I have good eye contact, a firm handshake, a good resume, but don't know how to network and have issues w/interviewing. There was supposed to be a job coach but they never called/doesn't return phone calls, and I have excellent organizational skills. I do need help but I'm just exhausted from trying and trying and getting nowhere.

Some town career centers actually have interview workshops...

This is the one for the town that I used to be in that I used.

http://www.ymcagta.org/en/get-a-job/hel ... shops.html

Maybe your local Y or Employment Resource Center has something too.

I would have to agree - even though you may expect to secure yourself with a paid position, learning how to be a PC technician will alrady provide you with a skill that can be compensated (think of all the people that own a laptop in your area, and be assured that the majority of them have very little idea of how to take out a hard-drive!) I would maybe suggest deepening your current interest and turning that into an early literacy that can become your source of income. If you are interested in computers, read a little with frequency (or watch Youtube if you feel lazy) and get the basics down. Once you register a company, open a bank account, you are ready to go. As for presentation to investors or potential clients, you can even find companiesmaking business cards free so your startup costs are literally far lower than ever before. If you treat your customers with a quick response and have someone to assure a timely communication, you will have them returning and recommending you to friends. So, do not get discouraged and maybe spend some time separating your needs and wants, which is a great exercise to relax from hunting .

I want to try to start up a little home business but I have to wait until my mother gets her inheritance. I have no money now to do anything. My plan was to make stuff and sell it online.

I came 6 points from passing the A+ certification and am very interested in learning about computers.

I got a response to one of my applications today. I hopefully have an interview soon with Braums as a shift supervisor