I'm Off today at work but....

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I am an aspie and today is my day off before I go back in tomorrow at 3 PM..I work as a Broil Cook at Lyfe Kitchen.

The problem is they contacted me though hotschedules earlier asking if I can come in at 3PM today - close (that's how our shifts work) since they are understaffed as a whole at the moment.... I worked since Friday and if I went in today my only other day off this week would be Thursday..so I said "sorry but I can not come in, I have other plans in place for today."

Right now I feel bad because I somewhat lied..All I'm doing is getting some R&R and nothing else and my ride who takes me there is felling a little sick. (cant drive my peripheral vision is blind and I tunnel vision when I zone out/bored) also I am on Disability so I really cant afford to work anymore hours than I am allowed to otherwise I get in trouble.

I understand these are really legitimate reason to refuse coming in but I cant help but think its going to hurt me in the long run somehow.....feel free to to give your opinion of this situation or if I should of gone in or not. Just curious/venting

All of those sound like valid reasons.

But, honestly, being worried about lack of downtime is a valid reason that is often overlooked.
I HAVE to have my downtime. Too much is too much, and you have to know your own limits. I joked at my old office that I was taking a 'mental health day', but, it was legit, when you have to decompress or you feel like you'll 'act out' at the wrong stimulous or continued stimulous... ~shrugs~

I'm actually used to working pretty long hours, but, it was always broken up among different types of things. Back in college, I would sometimes work three different shifts at three jobs in one day. BUT, only the first one was heavy on demanding customers (as a cashier at a big store), the second one was noisy, but, mellower (as a dishwasher, I was almost always alone in the dishroom, as the servers bussed their own tables and dropped their bins near the kitchen) and the third one was pretty chill (working in a truck stop with laid back customers and not too busy on my shifts, I could read or stock shelves and it was very relaxing).

I could NOT work multiple jobs of the same type today. Maybe customer support in the day, but, nothing noisier than editing at night.

Anyway, try not to feel guilty.

Thanks a lot! Now I feel somewhat better for doing that..

For other reading this I work from 3PM - 10:30PM (sometimes earlier if we can cleanup fast enough but so far we finish around that time) on weekdays..and on Fridays and Saturdays its until 11;30PM (same thing..earlier if possible but average is 11:30)

Learn to just say "no."

You don't owe the employer an explanation for why you can't come in on a day you're scheduled off. Don't bother making an excuse to say "no."

You could be somewhat honest and just say that you have things you need to do that you're in the middle of. It's nice and vague and covers anything you had planned on doing...even if it's nothing.

I'm learning how to say no, Today (Thursday) is my day off and a co-worker emailed me asking if I could cover for him for tonight, because our Boss scheduled him where he is at school from 3-8PM (Which bossman told him he would schedule him around those days/times, but not sure if its too late or not..not really my problem to deal with ) and our shift for Thurs- Sat is from 3PM - 10PM. (Which I find it odd were open late on a Thursday)

I have a doctors appointment which I cannot miss and my ride really does have other plans so I cant help even if I wanted to.

So I asked to to get in touch with our boss explain the situation and he should have someone in mind to cover for him just for tonight.