Have you ever finally received respect at work?

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I was inspired to write this thread by a discussion on here about being infantilized as an adult. The topic reminded me of my situation at my current job where I don't receive the same level of respect as my co-workers. Probably due to me being young and not being very social. Despite being here for 6 years.

At my job, there is a workplace hierarchy. Many supervisors roaming around and positions such as machine operators getting the benefit of climbing the seniority ladder. From my observations and own personal experience, lower rank regulars tend to get micromanaged more often in comparison to others with better-paying positions.

Hopefully once I quit I won't be treated like some sort of alien. I do fear of history repeating itself though. I have heard women in there thirties being treated like a kid at their job so I am pretty worried.

All of my supervisors respected my work as an installer
All my customers respected my work as shearer/breeder.
But my most respected work has been for DoD .. and fireworking.

It depends where you work and what you do

I worked as a sales person for a while and in one place I was very well respected because I had the skill to train people up who were about to be fired for not making any money for the company

And then I've worked in some places where nobody gives a stuff about anyone at all

I don't get treated as a kid as such, but being in a conservative environment I do get looked down upon by some of the higher-paid people there for being a cleaner. There's a stigma that being a cleaner carries, where some people think all cleaners only do it because they're not confident or bright enough to learn new skills and have no ambition in life and are worthless (or unless they've retired, a student, or have a young family and just need some extra money, which is more socially accepted). I don't know, maybe some of that is true for some but it still hurts and makes me feel embarrassed that cleaning is my only skill in life. And I've noticed that it's usually the cleaners that get treated the worst. People in most other types of jobs can sometimes get away with doing very little if there momentarily isn't much to do, but with cleaners there's "always something to clean" so we are under pressure to be doing something during every second of our working hours, while higher-paid people get to put their feet up whilst they've not got much to do.
As cleaners we're the lowest paid at work but have the responsibility of locking up every night and having to go out the back gate, which means we have to walk further to get to our cars, in the dark.
And the morning workers come in and make a mess, then we get blamed for it. Well I do anyway, even though I'm not there in the morning and I know I've left the place clean before finishing my shift the night before.
Also we used to be the only ones that had to work Sundays, while the engineers, office staff and drivers, got every Sunday off. So it's never any rest for the cleaners. Luckily they stopped Sunday shifts. I guess cutbacks can do favours sometimes lol.

I remember at my previous job I was a cleaner at a care home, and whenever a resident passed away or moved out, we had to give their room a proper professional clean - something I was good at. But one time we had definitely cleaned the whole room, including the en suite, ready for a new resident to move in there. But the next morning the boss saw the toilet was filthy with unflushed poop, and she went mental at us. But it wasn't any of our fault. We had locked the door after cleaning and gave the key into the office, so it wouldn't have been a resident. It was obviously a member of staff who'd had the key and decided to go in there and use the toilet. That's fine with me, but they could have had the courtesy to flush the chain and clear up after themselves, being so the room was smelling all fresh and clean. And yet we got into trouble because of a piece of mysterious crap found in the toilet from some inconsiderate individual.

The three jobs I had were federal minimum-wage things. The job I had the longest was doing floor care & other custodial stuff at a super WalMart & I was there for 25 months so I'll talk about that. The higher-ups in my department respected me because I was very hard-working & good at strategizing. However it was hit & miss with actual store managers & others in my department. Some managers liked to micromange me & did treat me like a kid. Others trusted that I would get things done using my own judement & knew they could rely on me. The better workers in my department respected me but the slackers in my department did not respect me as much. The slackers might of had a problem with me because I was a backup supervisor over them since I was more reliable despite then being there a bit or even a lot longer than me.

I felt like my boss respected me at the big box store I worked at.

I'm a life drawing model, it's not a full time employment, it's freelance and only when the classes need me. I tend to do a few classes every few weeks. But I've done it consistently for years so I consider it my occupation as it where.
I do feel respected yeah, the artists and students appreciate me for being their reference. And people are always telling me how good of a model I am. I'm surprised because in day to day life I'm quite fidgety, but I'm actually rather good at holding a pose. I am also well within my right to move when I need to, so that's another point towards feeling respected.
One of the art tutors is a bit of a wind up merchant and he uses a lot of grandfatherly humour. Which is what I expect being the youngest in the room most of the time. But it's not an issue.
Another art tutor I like a bit less personally but he still respects me enough to check I'm comfortable and stuff like that. But he has twice pointed out my facial tics thinking that didn't know I was doing it. First time was in 2019 and second time was last November. He thought he was doing me a favour, but I was angry at him for that because I do it even more if I'm thinking about it. And I'm always aware of it. I keep my whole body still, but I'm not a photograph. And models often talk to people while posing anyway so it's not like our faces are still. We are animals with facial expressions. He was apologetic about pointing out my tics the second time and hasn't done it since. But I did turn down a couple of jobs after until I forgave him. That's his only major incident, he's just mildly annoying otherwise. But I still like working for his art class.