Hi we're new advice about son's obsession

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From my point of view as a mom -

Something you may not fully realize when you 'remember' your parents 'forcing you to shut up' about your obsessions. is time. My son will talk about trains, for example, for a really long time. When a visitor comes over, he insists on being addressed first and spoken to first, and he usually brings up whatever he knows about trains. Then he just doesn't stop, even if you ask him to politely, or explain to him that it's someone else's turn to talk. He'll just interrupt, or 'forget', and keep on going.


So what I'm saying is, if you remember someone telling you to stop talking, consider that you might have forgotten the 30 minutes, hour, 3 hours previous during which the person was listening (or trying to).

Also don't forget that maybe you weren't the only person in the room, others might have been waiting for you to finish so they could have a turn to talk (as happens when guests come to visit me at my house, and my son is oblivious).

Or maybe the first 56 times you told someone, for example, that the engine is your favourite part of a train, they were excited and enthusiastic about discussing the subject with you, but after nine or ten years of it the subject had gotten a bit stale.

It's a rough world out there, baby.

On the plus side he fits in with all of the Twilight fans out there.

The vampire thing could easily have come from the recent media fix on them. He may not have seen any of the movies, but other kids could have and it could be "cool" in class and school. Werewolves are also part of the Twilight universe and they've been a big thing with the showing of New Moon.

Now I'm not sure about the rating system where you are but I know in America the majority of people who went to see New Moon when I went were between ten and 15. That's around your eldest son's age group and if he has seen the books or heard mention of them in class that could be the source of it.

My son is seven, he has had serious obessions since he was around 18 months. Though the stuff he likes are rather hard to find and very expensive. He likes sonic the hedgehog and Link from Zelda. And drawing them. So i think i have a million drawings of sonic and link. Thats all he talks and thinks about, the only time it seems to be a problem, is when he is with other kids and they want to do or talk about something else.

Vivianne:

Believe, me, I look back now and I realize I must have chewed my mother's ear off and the ears of anyone else who would listen about my little obsessions.

When I was fourteen my obsession was aliens. Alien abductions, space ships, etc. Then it was dragons and how I believed they could be real. (now they have a Discovery Channel show about if dragons did exist , go figure.

Fortunately I did have a friend in those days who told me he was kinda tired of talking about it, so I did drop it and I dont' remember it bothering me all that much. If I thought someone was comfortable with talking about it I would talk about it.

Unfortunately I have been on the recieving end of those three hour long talk fests. I feel like it was my comeuppance, especially when I met a guy who would tell me the plot of the novel he was writing non-stop. I mean, not a summary, but a full blown friggen chapter by chapter blow.

Yeah I used to do that to people too when I was younger and sadly I now know what it's like. :p