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*HUGS!*

That is what I appreciate about being here.

In regards to the counselor, the only other time I've gotten what I perceived to be a negative reaction is when I recently commented that I no longer care what report cards say. Maybe he was just shocked that I said that, considering that I place high importance on education... However, I no longer think that a report card gives a true reflection of my child, nor should I hold him to the expectations of other children.. What now matters to me is that he tries to do his best... and that I do my best to make education meaningful to him... I don't see how I can expect more, or how doing so is beneficial to him.

I think the counselor was worried about some of the crazy stuff you hear on the web about autism, including:

1. Vaccines cause autism
2. You can correct autism through diet
3. Strange alternative therapies

Asperger's Syndrome and ASD runs in my wife's side of the family: it is clearly a genetic issue or predisposition. Toxic chemicles, vaccines, etc. didn't "cause" my kid to develop Asperger's or PDD-NOS.

of course there is the other issue as to whether Asperger's is a "disorder" at all ...

I also don't stop stimming for the same reason (thank you WP!). I use ABA method to help my son with his language issues but without adversives. I think Autistic people are objective instead, I find them very rational. I don't like the attitude of some professionals who think they are impaired people and they are not able to give advices. Autstic people's writings proved that many theories about them were wrong and I think that more of them should research on their condition. I appreciated Michelle Dawson's positions for instance.

I'm sorry that happened to you BOM. I had a similar response from a phone counsellor recently.

I don't know if anyone else has mentioned this in the thread yet but... is this a counsellor you are paying? Because if so, I strongly suspect he gave you that reaction intentionally to dissuade you from getting support here for free, when it's his pocketbook you are padding with his fees.

He is paid.. but due to recently my getting laid off, I lost my excellent insurance and Medicaid now pays for my son's counseling, so he's not making great money off us.

And really, he is generally very supportive. I think 1) he's never been here and doesn't have an understanding of the types of conversations or the quality of the posters here.and 2) apparently doesn't trust me to discern good advice from bad, or maybe to remember that what applies to one, doesn't apply to all.

And I think option number two is what offended me.

Well, I would be wary too. There is plenty of crazy people out there on the internet. Although I think they prefer to be called nuerotypical... Ah! There is one reading this post now! Run away!

Note to self, ask for co-pay.

We've been sayin'

LOL! I don't think my insurance would let you bill, but you're more than welcome to try! I've gotten more good advice from you guys than anywhere else!

............................ not trying to be dense.. was the NT poke at me? It's ok if it was... (well, not ok if I come off that way, if so.. I have some apologizing to do!)

Forget co-pay. You should be trying to find a literary agent. Every person who has read your Strange Kid e-book thinks it has publishing potential.

That's still not done?? Come on Tracker, get your paperwork in order and shake that executive dysfunction!! ! I thought it had been published long ago....

I don't know how to get a literary agent. But I bet somebody on WrongPlanet does. If fact I know somebody on WrongPlanet does....John Robison of Look Me In The Eye fame. He got one. He must ghave some tips. Tracker: maybe you could make a "how do I get a literary agent?" thread on the General Forum. It's entirely possible somebody here will know, perhaps John Robison himself, who actually has one. He posts inGeneral from time to time.

Sorry for the derail, OP, I just think Tracker's book is Best Book For Parents Ever and I think it has broad appeal and great potential if it ever gets published. If a literary agent wants proof that there is a market, Tracker can use us as proof-of-interest.

By all means, derail!! LOL
I agree with you. (Though I'm not going to b***h that I got excellent advice for free)
But he put a lot of insight and good advice into that book. He's helped a lot of us with it.
Just think of all the people who haven't found WP. Just think of all the crappy books that are out there.
It'd be nice to have some real advice on the book shelves.

I say we just start a thread "Tracker, publish your damn book" and just keep it at the top of the list until he does!

We can just derail the whole damn forum.

Though it should be noted, there is a Paypal donation link on Tracker's site...obviously I couldn't pay what the advice was worth (I don't think enough money exists) but I sent a token.

Thank you momsparky... I had completely let that fact slip my mind.

Excuse me.. I need to go make something right!

No, it wasn't a poke at you. It was intended as a humorous comment to say that normal people are crazy when viewed from an atypical perspective. Usually it is the autistic person who is labeled as 'weird' or 'crazy', because their thought process is so different from the majority way of thinking. But on these forums, it is the autistic people who have the majority, thus 'normal' people are in the minority,and seem crazy by comparison to the majority. The humor is found in the juxtaposition of perspectives and social norms.

Anyways, I have said this about the book before and I guess I shall repeat myself. The book isn't published because I don't feel right about charging people for advice which should be free. Also, I am never really satisfied with my work, and publishing a faulty book just seems like half-assing it to me. If I were ever to publish it, I would want to go through and re-write a lot of the problem areas, expand on quiet a few sections, and probably break it up into 2 books.

There would be a shorter 100ish page intro book, like 'The basics of what you need to know', and then maybe a 200 page FAQ book that goes through things like medication, therapies, socializing, schooling, education choices, IEPs, etc. And the problem is that would take me a few months to write up (The current book itself took 7 months) and I have just been too busy with schooling. Although I am graduating in 2 1/2 weeks with no job lined up, so I might have a few month break after all

And lastly:

I never said I would bill your insurance, I just wanted the co-pay. No need to get the bureaucracy involved