Wow! I feel for you! My son does this and this is the most difficult part in my book because people from the school think you're making something out of nothing. Also, if things are not going well, they can't tell, only you can, but you need their buy in to get them to make the adjustments and that's hard when to them it's fine. Meanwhile you're getting beat up everyday after school and watching your child suffer, it's exhausting!! !
Whew, anyway, my only advice is that suit up in armour and let your baby vent on you! You are right, he is trying so hard to be good all day that he is tired and on edge when it's over. And he just wants to scream. And he probably does. So let him vent, give him space to let it out and relax, and love him anyway and he will appreciate that. It will be important to coordinate with the school to ensure the best possible situation there, but that can be a whole other beast! Lol good luck!
