8yr old Daughter fixated with classmate

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Update: Met the teacher, she now claims that the other girl is actually the bad influence on my daughter????

I'm really confused? I think it has something to do with my daughter not doing her classwork today. Since the fixation is still a problem today I agreed to trial separating them during class and lunchtime/recess.

I'll see how that transpires.

It's almost like they're just making things up as they go along, isn't it?
I once had DS's principal tell me his desk had to be away from other students' because it was a "safety issue". A few days later she said it was because he was talking too much. Was she wrong the first time I spoke to her, or the second? Maybe she was wrong both times. In the meantime, I had been having discussions with DS about not touching people and such, only to have the school change their story about the whole situation!
My only advice is to ask for clarification often, and keep records of who says what on what date. Otherwise I think they just BS you to suit their own purposes.

I would question it also b/c what happened with classwork one day does not speak to their prior complaints. If they are separate during class maybe they should get to be together at recess?

Update: weird things happening?

Trial separation was successful...my daughter happily got through her school day....perhaps I don't need the psych after all?

However...now she has a new aide!! (this is weird because normally the parents and child are given at least a week's advance notice if a new aide is starting?) somebody is not telling me the full story here? could it be the two girls going AWOL mean't the aide was changed? I'll see if I can find out tomorrow.

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How else are children, to learn how to deal with others in their lives, then to as they grow meet and have friends, that interaction is important to their health and growth. Perhaps parents should take the time for the children to play. schools are becoming to paranoid of issues, and their there to teach so have little patience for children wanting to interact. much of the problem is in teachers feeling overwhelmed as well, when much of that is from trying to fight the flow of things, children are most receptive when their happy and exited, even where friends are concerned, perhaps some friendly peer competitions as learning tools? sports for the two or more students as a way to interact can also be a healthy suggestion. be sure to remind the school, that making a child feel to singled out, can make the child feel unable to focus on the tasks at hand, because of all the anxieties and feeling picked on.

My kids school was quite upset with my son, because he started getting vary argumentative and non respondent to their needs. that all changed after I went in and laid it all out for them and made other suggestions for them to try and follow. when you just ask they will wiggle and try and continue doing things their way, be persistent. my son is a lot more manageable and happy now.

If possible, try and talk to other parents of the children in the classrooms your child is affiliated with., get to know them and their children. sometimes more direct consensus of the parents can unfold into more appropriate and thought out actions suitable for all concerned (in and out of school), then that of the more regulated school teachers and system, (and many times in public school settings parents will get vary defensive where in privet they may not,), forcing the schools to instead adapt instead of the other way around..