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because i am an overly-analytical person myself (and hyper-critical of myself) so i know where you're coming from.
I know where you're coming from as well. Oh, I'm definitely hyper-critical of myself and 2nd and 3rd guess myself all the time. It was a way of my trying to cope and adapt to forgetting things. I can inadvertently do this with my wife which she calls double and triple checking her. I really am trying to get a handle on this.
I would like to tell an incident that happened. We live south of the city of Atlanta. In the Metro Atlanta Area, one has to pay for parking and in some parking areas one has to put his sticker in which it was visibly scene. This means the person checking it has to see it right away or in about a second. Let's say he tried to sit there and look for it. It may take him about 6 seconds. Imagine he has to inspect 30 cars. If he did the look quickly on a glance on the 1 second thing then it would take about 30 seconds to inspect each car. If he has to do it for 6 seconds then it is 180 seconds for 30 cars which is 3 minutes. 30 seconds vs. 3 minutes.
My wife did place it but did not double check to make sure it was visibly scene and did not think of it. She needed to place it on the right part of the dashboard. What was strange to me was that she blamed them. She was upset and got into an argument with them. When she calmed down and a few days later I sat down explained this to her. We ended up having to pay a $75 fee to have the boot removed from her tire. If I was there this wouldn't have happened at all. Things like this just frustrate me and her blaming them when it was obvious to me that she did not make it visibly scene and she should've double checked it. A lot of people seem to do this, think they put down parking pass down correctly and never double check it. They blame the people for booting them when the truth was when those who booted the vehicle was following policy. Why do a number of people in Atlanta do this? It is so frustrating.
This is not the only thing in which people don't think things through and it just frustrates the heck out of me. Sorry for my vent.
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most of the time i also think my analytical abilities are positive traits, but there is such a thing as "too much of a good thing".
Oh yeah, it is too much of a good thing.
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i do believe we should never be unwilling to challenge ourselves and our beliefs/perceptions/understanding, but i also believe it's possible to get stuck in that mode and cross over into obsessiveness which is just frustrating and not healthy.
This is what happens to me all of the time. It is called analysis paralysis. It can be not only frustrating but it can be debilitating and can make it very difficult to get things done that truthfully need to be done. Do you have any tips that you use on yourself?
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i am still in the process of learning the difference between things that need further examination and things that i need to just accept as they are and let go because i cannot change/effect them, or perhaps cannot understand.
that last bit is usually the hardest for me to accept, things i am unable to understand for whatever reason--but it's important to be able to recognise one's own limitations.
I guess I need to actually start the process of doing the things you're in the process and just accept certain things. I'm starting to understand my own limitations and it seems like my best attributes can be my Achilles heel. It is so strange though that a trait can be both positive and negative at the same time. That last bit is the hardest for me to accept as well. My wife has said that she accepts certain things as they are. Her favorite phrase is "It is, what it is." I guess I should sort of incorporate that as well. It is just so difficult to do though. It is just difficult for me to accept things as they are. How do people just do sort of a thing? I guess it is a personality trait as well. My wife is ISTJ.
http://www.16personalities.com/istj-personalityOur personality traits can clash and I can tell you certain aspects of her personality can frustrate me sometimes. She does have awesome personality traits that I love and one of them is that she is very direct with me. She will tell me what is up or if I have offended her.
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there are some things i will never understand, some "ultimate" truths i will never find (if they exist)--and that's ok, because that is universally true for every human being. my perception and my understanding, being human, will always be imperfect.
Yeah and you're right. I realized that through Gödel's Incompleteness Theorems. A system can never be complete and consistent.
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also, you can get so caught up in the analysis of life that you forget to actually live it in the process--it's like when you go on vacation with your family, if you stay behind the camera the whole time taking pictures of everything instead of participating you miss out on a lot of the fun.
That is so true. Maybe I do got to reduce my analyzing and simply live my life.
i suggest some form of meditative practice--yoga, a martial art, tai chi, something like that. it doesn't have to have a physical component, there are lots of different ways to meditate and many of them don't involve physical activity. yoga works particularly well for me i think because to settle my mind i need to distract my body (if that makes any sense), and i sometimes have difficulty with physical stillness and yoga is wonderful for teaching that stillness, to focus on breath, on the centre. also, as someone with a mood disorder, imbalance has been thematic to my life since childhood and yoga teaches balance: physical as well as mental, emotional, and even spiritual balance. any sort of meditative practice would be beneficial in learning acceptance of reality as it is, and finding peace in that.
24 Jun 2014, 6:56 pm
I actually like them a lot.
