DW_a_mom wrote:
AS kids do not respond well to authoritarian parenting or schooling. They live on logic, and if you can get them to understand the logic of a rule or request, they will do their best to comply. If you can't, they will do their best to make the rule irrelevent, and that can result in some interesting situations. If you can't explain a rule well enough for them to see the logic in it, it may be time to question the rule. If it is a school rule and not yours, so that you have no control over it, then use the logic of wanting to avoid consequences, snowball effect, and so on. At 13 they will care about their futures, if they haven't decided it is all hopeless (which is a real danger, and a new topic), and that angle can be played fairly effectively (the only reason my son will take notes in science, for example, is because he doesn't want a C in a class he should be able ace with his eyes closed - and they grade the notes).
This is something I pulled out of another thread that deserves it's own spot
Simply because it's an important truth and well phrased.
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By simply doing what they are designed to do something large and magnificient happens. In this sense they show us how to live; The only barometer you have is your heart. When you spot your flower, you can't let anything get in your way. - John Laroche
02 Oct 2010, 10:48 pm
