What book if I could pick just one...

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could I have my parents read? I was diagnosed this year and they won't talk about it with me other than when I can't control myself and 'lecture' them about my 'difficulties' which just comes off as complaining. I'm under a great deal of stress because of unemployment, failed college attempts and anxiety disorder; I'm adopted and I feel as if I'm "damaged goods"... they adopted me when I was 16 years old after knowing me for roughly 3 years. I had a very difficult and abusive childhood/early teen.

Since I don't have a lot of money, I'd like a recommendation on ONE book that would tell them all about me in a way that they would understand. I explain I need to know exactly what I'm doing when I go to their house but that's met with 'well fine if you don't want to come down, don't' when that IS NOT the case, I just need detailed plans and for us to stick to them or I get overwhelmed by anxiety (what's going to happen!? type).

Anyone? Please?

I am going to start you off with the standard house recommendation for a free ebook written by a member here. You can download it here:

http://www.asdstuff.com/grats.html

I do not feel qualified to recommend the one book you should spend money on because I have not read enough of them. The ebook I listed, though will be a nice free start. Read it yourself, first, so you know what parts you can emphasize to your parents.

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the telephone book for a large metropolitan area (like los angeles).

Tony Attwood's book The Complete Guide To Aspergers Syndrome is a good book for the layman and the professional-very easy to read and understand

Thank you, especially for the free one! I need to read Attwood's book too so that's definitely going to be bought.

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i am sorry my post was not relevant to your actual query, it was relevant only to the words in the topic title. thanks for overlooking that.

I took it as a clever play on the words, hence the big smile. No worries.

I am not sure about one book, because each person is unique. But this list of books was given to me, and I thought I would pass them on to you. Take a look at the descriptions and review online and see if one might fit for you. In the end, you may have to focus more on accepting yourself and finding a support system to help you if they refuse to understand you. Nevertheless, some of these books may give you some help in explaining AS in ways that NT's will better understand. Best of luck to you.

Adults on the Autsim Spectrum Leave the Nest: Achieving Supported Independence by Nancy Perry

Asperger’s From the Inside Out: A Supportive and Practical Guide for Anyone with Asperger’s Syndrome by
Michael John Carley

Asperger’s Syndrome in Adults by Dr. Ruth Searle

Getting to Grips with Asperger’s Syndrome: Understanding Adults on the Autism Spectrum by Carol Hagland

Life and Love: Positive Strategies for Autistic Adults by Zosia Zaks

Preparing for Life: The Complete Guide to Transitioning to Adulthood for Those with Autism and Asperger’s
Syndrome by Jed Baker, PhD

Social Skills for Teenagers and Adults with Asperger’s Syndrome: A Practical Guide to Day-to-Day Life by
Nancy J. Patrick

Solutions for Adults with Asperger’s Syndrome: Maximizing the Benefits, Minimizing the Drawbacks to
Achieving Success by Juanita P. Lovett, PhD

Your Life is Not a Label: Your Guide to Living Fully with Autism and Asperger’s Syndrome by Jerry Newport

Asperger Syndrome An Owner's Manual 2 For Older Adolescents and Adults: What You, Your Parents and Friends, and Your Employer Need to Know by Ellen S Heller Korin, M. Ed

Thank you for the list, these seem more tailored to my needs than a general book.

Dude, I'm an Aspie!

This is a cartoon intro to AS, available online here: Dude I'm an Aspie!

It's in paperback for about $5. Might be a good way to start, then give them a more serious detailed book afterward.

Try your local library! Even ours in this podunk little corner of one of the least populous states in the US has Tony Atwood's book and many others.

I would second this, most of the books I have read have been from the library

I second this recommendation.

I really liked Look Me in the Eye because it's a memoir told from the point of view of the author with Aspergers. If your parents are NT it may help them connect with you on an emotional level.