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our almost 18 yrs old aspie is at the moment in (at least we see it that way)pretty ok period.puberty problems don´t seem to be as hard as three years ago when he had such a terrible phase of life, he struggled and suffered so much we had to take him out from school and a whole new way of life started.but ok, we took it day by day,found an ok school(he just graduated few weeks ago )))) and ok, we are hanging on!he, however, doesn´t show any wish to go out. he stays in the house all days, he seems to be in pretty good mood, sleeps well, eats even better, watches tv, daydreams...every now and then talks to us a little bit,but as I say doesn´t want to go out,swimming or anything else.we definately don´t want to force him to anything.something maybe we feel sorry that he doesn´t seize good weather,sun and sea...but we remember bad times...bad experiences with kids in school or social situations in general.
any thoughts?

love mamamoo

Find a quiet garden or park and take him there. I rarely go outside but when I do its to a local garden that is deserted after late afternoon. No people and more importantly no dogs, no noise.

Are you trying to take him out without a planned activity? I'd try a bike ride; you go there, you come back. Its not endless, doesn't involve a lot of talking, doesn't get to close to a lot of people, and feels great.

when I was his age and in that same position part of the problem was I had nothing to do after a point when you have no friends theres no point to even looking to do something you just end up in your own routine
at its how it is for me

Depression?

I only say this b/c aspies seem to need a purpose and when we don't have a purpose or a function, it can lead to depression.

I know he is eating well and all of that, and that may not be it, but I am just going to through it out there as a possibility. When depressed, it is really tempting to turn the home into a kind of a nest.

He could also just be comfortable and not see the need.

Nature is awesome. See if you can get him interested in going somewhere where he can avoid strangers. Like a lake without good fishing (good fishing attracts humans, lol) or a forest or up a mountain or a rocky coastline.