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I got to finely read our Guardian Ad Litem report,
BOTH me and my Ex got slammed,
but both also got praised for a few things.
but I was the only one she stated would be in the best interest of our child.
but its going to be 50/50
(or so I hope, she may still contest it even though she was the one who first requested the GAL,
I just agreed to it.)
Her praise was that she is a perpetual learner because of her focus,
not her parenting mind you, but she obsessed on her interests enough
to appear to be a good fast learner, where My obsession IS our child,
so they think I am single minded instead of diverse, they should have known
me before my child came into existence, I was much like her.
but my praise was for my parenting focus.
so because they think I am so single minded it may be in the best
interest of our child to be with me because I focus so much on his developments
and education where she has many other interests distracting her.

congratulations man

Sad,
I had done my best to try and be friends after we was over,
I needed that from her, and our child needed us to at least get along.
once she tried to take him I begged her to reconciler, to work this out,
she refused, I warned her that only bitterness could ensue this dispute
and that she was not going to win what she wanted, if she had then she figured she would
not have to deal with me much with me basically totally our of her life,
and that she would be in control of things,
and now I want next to nothing to do with her,
she only made things worse between us instead of going the peaceful way.
I will never down her to our child, but she can now never expect me
to be at peace with her, she tried to rape our child away from me without
thought or remorse or heart or willingness to reason things out,
he is my life, my joy, she tried to take that away from me,.

I am glad you will be getting 50%. I think getting more than that is difficult in the current environment; it will always go 50/50 unless there is a strong compelling reason for it not to. What you see is difficult to get others to see.

It is a shame your ex let it get this bad between you, but it's often the case. Just life, I guess.

I am glad you fought for your share. Your child needs you.

Well shiznet,

It's 4/3, she gets the 4 days and I the three out of the week.
with her "word" that I can have him now and then on one of her days after I get off of work till she gets home from work,
and it in stone she gets him till i get off of work on one of my days and if I do not work I get him all day,
like her word means anything, she made and broke so many, she made them knowing she was going to brake them.
so I may as well be realistic, I am only going to have and see my child 3 days a week from now on until (if ever) we go back to court over the issues, She will never keep her word, she has no honer, she has proven that to me,
it was just an carrot to get me to agree.

The GAL's report said I should have better, but when I talked to her she said what I should have that would be best for our child and what I would get with as much as I had against me if we went to court and she slung a lot of mud around would be two deferent things, I may even lose ground, I should be happy with what I got.

I wish she would not offer carrots when I know she will never keep her word.
It helps me accept the facts and reality, she don't care about our baby or how we feel,
only about what she wants and control.

at least its over now, and things could have ended up much worse.,
well not quite over, but almost, things could suddenly change,
and my attorny is worthless, he is afraid I wont finish paying him once
its all over so he is doing as little as possable pushing me to take what ever
deal comes my way when I could get better, but he is the only one out of 3 phone
books of attornys that would help me with as little income as I make.

now starts the silence,
I am so burnt out from all this I do not feel like communicating much at all
for a vary long long long while with anyone but my son.
.
Good bye.
.

I know it isn't what you allowed yourself to hope for, but you will have your child in your life in a substantial way, and you are right to want to focus on him now. I am sure all this took a huge amount from you. Take care of yourself, OK?

I'm a little worried something has changed, by looking at your last post. Or are you in one of your 4 days without your child, and having a tough time with it?