Magnus wrote:
You only see things the way you think you ought to see them.
I somewhat agree with this.
I base my attitudes on the desired effect I wish to create.
When I focus on the negative aspects of people it is easier to hate them, and this hate can possibly lead to wishing them harm. This attitude doesn't make me happy, and on a world-scale it leads to a great many people being hurt.
Therefore, for the purposes of more peace in the world it is important to force myself to find the positive aspects of people. Admittedly I have to stay away from them as much as possible in order to do this - I guess that means my love for them is conditional - dependent on an acceptable distance.
So what I do is consider the fact that I wouldn't survive very well without them. Other people grow the food I eat, transport it along roads they build, and sell it in shops they work in. This computer and the light run off electricity created by Them. They created the pipes that provide me with water and carry away my waste products. I bow down to the Almighty People - the creators of my happiness!! !
When I think of this kindness it makes me happy. So that makes another thing that they do for me! I don't deny the existence of the negative aspects of people (or the fact those things that they do are due to their need to make a living). But I choose not to focus on the negative aspects because I want to avoid feeling hate/anger and other negative mental states. And focusing on the kind things that they do acts as a great antidote for this.
It's easier to like animals because our expectations of them are lower. Humans are supposedly more intelligent so we are continually let down when their behaviour doesn't reflect this expected intelligence. When we're continually disappointed by people it can lead us to hate them. That's why I find it easier to like them when I don't observe them so much.
I live in my own fantasy world where I focus on the goodness in people which is thoroughly disproportionate to reality - and it makes me very happy!!
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happily reclusive