Sweetleaf wrote:
TM wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
myth wrote:
The Christian model, when executed correctly, can work well for some people. There's always people who won't fit into any model and being forced into a dominiant or submissive role when you are not that way naturally is never fun. But if two people both willingly accept and understand their roles and feel comfortable in them, then I see nothing wrong with that.
There isn't anything inherintly wrong with hierarchy.
Well if both sides consent and are ok with it, I cannot tell them what to do......though I might question what sort of up-bringing taught them being punished & ruled over by a fellow 'adult' because they are your husband is a good and positive thing. Even if its not a hostility thing I still just cannot fathom how that would be healthy.
If I know economics and my wife does not, it does not make sense for her to have a major say in economics, just as if she is better than me at decorating it makes no sense for me to require full decision power in that department. Now, before Valentine and her crew chastise me to death for using stereotypical gender roles and LKL requires me to post specific statistics to prove things statistically that can't really be proven statistically, the reason I used those roles is that just about every man I've ever met who has lived with a woman has very little say in the decor of the house.
I don't see what that has to do with the man or woman in the relationship 'ruling over' the other, which is what i was saying I disagree with.
Well, you're changing what I said. No, people are not property. What I said was that married people have authority over each others' bodies. In fact, the Bible says that spouses' two bodies are essentially united into "one flesh" when they marry and consumate the marriage. Marriage carries deep meanings for my wife and me. It's not just a piece of paper that the state signs off on, and that otherwise we just come and go as we please with no regard for one another, and live our own lives. If we wanted that total independence, we wouldn't have gotten married. To us, the relationship is intimate, not just physically but emotionally and spiritually.
EDIT: If you're thinking I have
absolute power over her and vice versa, that would be where you're mistaken. There are exceptions to the rule, because again this is mutually volitional, not dictatorial. When she doesn't want to play her role, I don't feel like playing mine either, and we discuss it until we figure out what's going on between us.
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Christianity is different than Judaism only in people's minds -- not in the Bible.
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