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31 Oct 2012, 11:24 am

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Can someone please prove me wrong? Can someone give me a shred of proof that love is not bound by genetics and nature?

There is substantial evidence which suggests that adopted children suffer more abuse and maltreatment from parents than genetic children.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cinderella_effect

A somewhat recent study, though, reaches the conclusion that parents make more positive investments in adopted children (preschool, private tutoring, summer school, cars,
rent, personal loans and time with sports), but that outcomes were more negative for adopted children (see page 187). The sample size isn't impressive, though.
http://kylegibson.squarespace.com/stora ... eholds.pdf



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31 Oct 2012, 12:50 pm

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Can someone please prove me wrong? Can someone give me a shred of proof that love is not bound by genetics and nature?



My brother is adopted, and I'm not. He cares nothing for our parents in their old age, and very rarely visits them even though he lives close by. In our case, I would say it is the adopted child who has decided that love is bound by genetics.



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18 Nov 2012, 3:05 pm

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Every year there are a dozen or so stories of pet owners running into burning buildings to rescue a beloved cat or dog. It is almost certain that the cat or dog is only /distantly/ related to the person risking their life.

Ah, how my heartstrings are pulled by your statement. Give up.


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18 Nov 2012, 3:21 pm

A bittersweet option aye . . . so it's a gift. Or is it a curse? Gift, curse, gift, curse, WHICH ONE IS IT?



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18 Nov 2012, 3:23 pm

For me, it's a f*****g curse if I ever saw one.


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18 Nov 2012, 3:24 pm

Giftorcurse wrote:
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Every year there are a dozen or so stories of pet owners running into burning buildings to rescue a beloved cat or dog. It is almost certain that the cat or dog is only /distantly/ related to the person risking their life.

Ah, how my heartstrings are pulled by your statement. Give up.


You wanted evidence that love isn't bound by genetics. That's an example of love that isn't bound by genetics. What is the problem?



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18 Nov 2012, 3:26 pm

Love is all take, and no give. You find someone, wreck them, and move on.


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18 Nov 2012, 4:27 pm

Adoption is a beautiful thing.


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18 Nov 2012, 5:11 pm

^Idealist. :lol:


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18 Nov 2012, 5:12 pm

^Pessimist.


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18 Nov 2012, 5:34 pm

^And rightfully so.


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18 Nov 2012, 6:06 pm

Gift or curse is still whining about adoption & demanding evidence that adoptive parents aren't evil. While this thread seems to be degenerating increasingly into a tantrum - I'd like to say that evidence that adoptive parents made good parents was provided quite a while ago.

I probably should stop feeding the troll, though.

Master_Pedant wrote:
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What makes you think an adoptive parent would be any good, huh?


Actual evidence as opposed to raw "biologicist" prejudice, perhaps?

http://voices.yahoo.com/article/150104/ ... 06842.html


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18 Nov 2012, 6:09 pm

How about this, adoptive parents are just that, parents, weather they are good or not depends on the individual, same as with biological parents.


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18 Nov 2012, 6:22 pm

Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe they're not scum, just f*****g p*****s who can't get their kids to realize that this planet is going to Hell in a handbasket.


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