FL teen "sex criminal" for consensual relationship

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Dear Aardvarkgoodswimmer,

You phrased my thoughts exactly.

Dear Hanyo,

This is what the laws are for, to protect vulnerable young people.
Whether you see him as a predator, or someone who cared, but 'fell out of love', I do not know, but someone should have cared enough to invite him out of your life. You did not deserve this, especially at such a young age.

Regarding sexual relationships between minors or minors/adults:
Generally speaking, I feel that parents of a minor girl have the right to control/terminate relationships that have become sexual, inasmuch as THEY will have the responsibility of raising/co-raising a baby that she is too young for.
She wants to attend an out-of-state college?
The baby lives with them for four years?
They want to enjoy their middle-age years, and now have a baby that needs them?
This is not fair to them; 'Romeo and Juliet' are happy, or ROMEO is free to attend any college, go wherever he wants, move on to another lover, but the fourteen- fifteen- sixteen-year-old girl's life is changed forever.
The relationship discussed in this thread was/is between two females, but I believe that since the younger girl's parents have the law's backing, and they are legally/financially responsible for her, discussion of unfairness is moot at this point.
I am curious as to why, since this has been a serious relationship for years, why neither girl or the older girl's parents, or any friend in the local gay/lesbian community thought to take steps to avoid legal action.
I am sure that many of them had similar situations in their lives.


Sylkat

In Texas, it is even possible that an 18 year old could be criminally prosecuted for a felony for having "consensual" sex with a 19 year old. That would occur if the 19 year old was still in school and the 18 year old was an employee of the school. It is a felony for school employees to have sexual relations with students of that school even if both are consenting adults.

What The Young Turks think of this.......

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I believe the discussion about whether this is legal or not is pretty much closed; it was illegal.

However, I do not thing discussing whether this is fair or unfair is a moot point, I see many different points of view. Some people say it is fair, others that it is not. Why?

Sylkat, must sex always end in pregnancy? With proper Sex-Ed, teenagers should know about contraceptives, how to use them and why; plus options like the day-after pill. Besides, a 14 YO boy can leave a woman pregnant just as good as a 18+YO one, therefore the pregnancy argument doesn't really work specifically against two people with age differences, it would work against heterosexual sex between two fertile people in general. Why is discussion of unfairness a moot point? How much the parents can interfere is a point I wish to save for later, for now I'll assume what you said is true and as her legal guardians they can make decisions about her sex life (my actual position is a bit different, and Spiderpig's one on this matter seems a bit extreme to me, but again, later) but in this case is it fair that they got the courts involved right away instead of speaking with their daughter, her girlfriend and the girlfriend's parents? Or if they all refuse, threaten legal action before going through it?

I’m stating the fact, as far as I know it. I didn’t say I think it’s a good thing.

In fact, this puzzles me a lot. Many—most?—people would never have refrained from having sex during their teenage years, but, as soon as they get a little older, they start advocating for younger people to be pressured into putting sex off for as long as possible. I very much wish I’d been allowed to have sex as a teenager, being properly taught about contraceptives and whatnot, and my view hasn’t changed since I first thought seriously about this; but, having still no sexual experience, and not much knowledge of all the gear I’d have to become acquainted with if I ever were to have it, my opinion doesn’t mean much.

While I generally disagree with Fnord's Socratic view of "the law," I think 15 is a little young. But I'm not sure she should have her life ruined and potentially labelled a sex offender.

But I think Fnord is right about if they were male, people would have the opposite opinion.

My bet is parents were never okay with their daughter being gay so they waited until her partner turned eighteen for them to do anything about it. They played the law. I don't see anything wrong with a 15 year old and a 18 year old dating if they were already together when they were 15 and 17 so why should the oldest dump their partner when they turn eighteen and then wait another two more years before their partner is legal again.